I Almost Loved You: I Could Have Loved You

By Victoria F. Thomas

The plan was foolproof (it is not a typo). She brought the dress. He surprised her with the ring. The wedding date was set. Counseling was over. They were going to Paris to take the honey to the moon. Is marriage roses, rings, cars, and things? Marriage requires a strong foundation to withstand the storms and process the problems through.

Relationships take a lot of effort. You must arm yourself. Be willing to add application and cultivate your partner to be successful. Cook up some good ingredients with your partnerlove, time, patience, respect, sharing, giving, peace, forgiveness, honesty, commitment, support, laughter, security, and prayer.

The question is, what are you going to do? Paul said in the book of Romans, Marriage has its own troubles. If youre married, it came with issues. Some people are very difficult to deal with as an individual. Do not be fooled. If love remains and the person is willing, love can still conquer within the distorted pain.

Who will enjoy Valentines with me? I used to get flowers on my anniversary. I dont have to figure out if we will spend Thanksgiving at his parents or Christmas at my familys.

I saw the movie Fireproof on July 28, 2014. This powerful movie is another learning tool about relationships and committing to love under the contract of Gods Word. If you are married, engaged, separated, single, and entertaining the thought of divorce, please see it.

Have you been told I dont love you anymore? We tend to think of relationships as being glass proof. We have heard of the term fireproof, glass-proof, and waterproof. However, are there relationship-proofs? If something is fireproof or waterproof, nothing can penetrate it. Gods original plan was foolproof. Man did things his way, and thus, it became foul-proof. Turning his plans against God only left him foolish.

The man pops the question. The monies are saved for the big day, expecting everything to be perfect. I own a safe and a waterproof watch. The contents inside are supposed to be protected from what may happen on the outside. If there is water or a fire, the contents may be safe. However, if there is an earthquake, the inside and outside would be destroyed.

I heard the definition of the word covenant and contract. It really shed light on the meaning of those words, as I had never heard before. Do you think you know the difference? Can something last forever? Before you answer these questions, you need to dive into this book that will help identify destructive behaviors as we pull away some layers to further support our passion for wholesome relationships, concerning how to best formulate the opportunity to enjoy and experience relationships as they evolve and form.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Sep 28, 2017
• ISBN: 9781543416886

Victoria F. Thomas

Victoria the eldest, her siblings, Randy and Zolita Thomas. Their mother Annie B. Thomas went home to heaven August 2nd, 2012. Victoria has been a member of Exciting First Assembly of God, under Pastor Randy Valimont since 2006. Actively involved as an altar care worker, home bible group leader and prayer room. Victoria has been graced with various awards, achievements, recognitions, speaking engagements and TV appearances. She has done missions work in several countries. Victoria has spent over 27 years as a wellness professional. Her credentials include; various group, nutrition, personal training and fitness certifications. Health and human services, flight training, Women’s Business Association, Who’s Who, CPR Instructor and Chaplaincy. Victoria, obtained her Bachelor’s degree in Natural health 2007. Complete her Masters of Arts in Christian Biblical Studies May 2014 at Luther Rice Seminary. Victoria has authored and published three other books Visit her website to learn more at www.ssb523.com or send a email to [e-mail] or call (678)-520-5298 to book a free seminar.

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CONTENTS

About The Author

Acknowledgement

Foreword

Introduction

Chapter 1     I Know What I Want And What I Don’t Want

Chapter 2     Dating Online, The Experience

Chapter 3     The 3 Cs—Commitment, Covenant, Contract = Love

Chapter 4     Divine My Kind

Chapter 5     If We Get Together, We Should Be Better

Chapter 6     If It Ain’t Quite, It Ain’t Right

Chapter 7     Don’t Wait To Be Selected

Chapter 8     Work It Out On This Side

Chapter 9     Direct, Precise Decision

Chapter 10   Preparation

Chapter 11   I Don’t, You Do

Chapter 12   This Is Not An Invitation But A Temptation

Chapter 13   Seduced Reduced

Chapter 14   Appropriate Attachments

Chapter 15   How To Handle Situations When They Are Difficult

Chapter 16   Soul Ties

Chapter 17   Warning Signs Of Abusers

Chapter 18   This Is Not A Better Situation

Chapter 19   In The Mouths Of Two Or Three Witnesses

Chapter 20   Randy’s Quotes He Wrote (By My Brother)

In Conclusion

Powerful Quotes, Learning Moments

The Negro

†The Bible †

Relationships

Where Will You Be In Five Years?

(Mother) Dedicated To Mom 1944 - 2012)

In This Together

How To Waste Your Time

You Might As Well Laugh

References To Bless Your Life.

Invitation To Receive Christ

About The Book

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Victoria is the eldest of her siblings, Randy and Zolita Thomas. Their mother, Annie B. Thomas, went to heaven on August 2, 2012.

Victoria has been a member of Exciting First Assembly of God, under Pastor Randy Valimont since 2005. She is actively involved as an altar-care worker, home bible group leader, and prayer room member.

Victoria has been graced with various awards, achievements, recognitions, speaking engagements, and TV appearances. She has done missions work in several countries.

Victoria has spent over twenty-seven years as a wellness professional. Her credentials include various groups, nutrition, personal training, fitness certifications, health human services, flight training, women’s business association, who’s who, cpr instructor, and chaplaincy.

Victoria, obtained her bachelor’s degree in natural health 2007. She completed her masters of arts in Christian biblical studies May 2014 at Luther Rice Seminary. She is returning to Luther Rice Seminary September 2017 in pursuit of her Master in Divinity.

Victoria has authored and published three other books. Visit her website to learn more at www.ssb523.com, send your emails to [e-mail] or call (678)-520-5298 to book a free seminar. Look for her fifth book in 2018, entitled Wholeness, what is your spiritualsize?

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

The two G’s

To God you are a good, good God and father. It is always the God in me, who gets all the Glory! I am loved by your ultimate, unconditional, unfailing love.

Thank you, Gail,

(Oprah has her Gail, I have mines, we are going to be rich women of God)

During our participation in the Peachtree Road Race July 4th, 2011 with over 50.000 in attendance. (I am hooked) I was reading a t-shirt, one said friend …. and the other, to the end. That’s you and me, without you my book projects, would not have been accomplished. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your encouragement, time, care, friendship, stern counsel, guidance, the listening ears to my frustrations, and giving me wise words of wisdom. You made the difference and blessed my life dearly. You helped to put me on this path, pushing many dreams out of me. Causing me to accept nothing less than the best. You are a combination of beauty, brains, talents, intellect, a woman of God, strong, faithful, smart. Everything packaged in together as a classy woman. At age 36 reverse it to her true age (the time of this writing). You are currently enrolled in grad school. Graduated with honors, class 2017 from Georgia State, majoring in film. I am expecting you to produce my first major movie.

To mom, Annie B. Thomas, your children I, Randy & Zolita miss you! During her entire life, she worked 37 years at Loretta hospital Chicago IL and spent three months in a hospital bed. God called her to heaven August 2, 2012. We love you mommy dearest, as my sister had recorded on her personal voice greeting.

President Barrack Obama made history again for the second time as he was re-elected. As we followed the campaign trail, with Hilary Clinton, and Donald Trump. We almost had the first female president to be elected. We have written on our currency In God we Trust. May God continually bless America. Trump has triumphed as the 45th President of the USA. Pray for the peace of our nation and world.

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To one of my spiritual parents: RC Blakes and First Lady Lisa Blakes. Thank you for imparting the revelation God gave you to empower us as women to be the Queens God made us. You and mom continue to share many powerful teaching, that are full of truths, empowering us with wisdom. I am one of your many spiritual daughters, a cheerleader in the spirit and ambassador. I pray many more will join the movement. As we become doers and execute what you both have lived and learned. Women will make better decisions, producing right results and become powerful in the kingdom of God.

Follow my spiritual parents on all social media. He is not only assigned to converse and mentor women, but all walks of life pastors, entrepreneurs etc. Order his Books, Soul Ties, The Father Daughter Talk, Queenology, Women in ministry. www.rcblakes.com

Look for the next Queenology conference in your area.

Some of his teaching, games men play, silly women, signs this may be the one, men will say anything for sex, soul ties, steps to how the man deceives the women, the Holy Spirit, wisdom for winning, queenology, your value is not determined by a man, how to be a husband, the Holy Spirit, lord help my mind, understanding the fight faith.

FOREWORD

Marital relationships are considered a covenant with God and are, therefore, holy. The Word of God is the manual to follow for directions in every area of daily living. God sends people who have experience in life to share their stories, as we know experience is the best teacher. However, it’s better to learn from someone else’s experiences, especially the mistakes. We all seek to love and be loved. It’s inbred from God, who is love and created us from his love. That love is taken much too lightly in today’s world of promiscuity. Many are looking in the wrong places, instead of to God.

I have known the author for over twenty years. She is an exceptionally strong, faithful Christian woman, with impeccable integrity. She is compassionate and has a very giving spirit.

She is very transparent in this book about relationships. Her goal is to help other women heed the red flags, some of which may be flapping and flashing to get your attention in your relationships to help put on the brakes, before it’s too late. Through sharing her past relationships, she confesses that even a strong woman of God can be fooled. The key is to remain chaste while in the dating stage. An engagement ring is not the okay to have sex, marriage is. She has been there, done that, worn the T-shirt, and now has written the book. It’s a must read to save women from unnecessary, needless heartache.

Rev. Dr. Stephanie Jordan

Author, Temple Care

INTRODUCTION

As I began writing 2012. I looked up the meaning my name 2014, also someone November 22, 2016 sent me an acronym of ‘Victoria’ According to www.themeaningofnames. It is in the Latin origin it means, Winner, Conqueror, Victor, Victory My profile states, my profession includes business, mysterious, highly gifted, capable of understanding, determined, persistent, with a strong will. The negative sides of my name, I will not list or claim. I am always winning, maintaining the victory, if asked how I am doing and you are too! Since 1958 only 11 babies in North Dakota have my name. In the U.S. 4,476 bear the name. In 1993 12,923 have been named. Since 1880, 443, 311 have the name Victoria as of 2014.

V is for Valuable Your enthusiasm!

I is for incredible, impressive, for impress you will.

C is for calm,