The Heart & Soul of Parenting Handbook: Step-by-Step Skills to Empower Both Parent & Child
By Sharon Quinn
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Discover you're not a bad parent after all!
You simply don't have what you need to parent well: correct information that really works so you'll never again need to yell, feel like your kids control you, or have another meltdown.
That's right, you can stop feeling guilt or shame
Sharon Quinn
Sharon Quinn, award winning screenwriter and filmmaker is married and divides her time between her beloved Texas and the mountains of Utah, where she does most of her writing and creates her characters while walking her Siberian husky, Tennessee.
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The Heart & Soul of Parenting Handbook - Sharon Quinn
~ a Quality of Life book ~
What People Are Saying About . . .
The Heart & Soul of Parenting
Handbook
Reading this book is like solving parenting before you parent.
~~~ Robbie Tigard
"This book is important because it helps you change the legacy you’ll leave behind for the better. It holds more than your average parenting or self-help book, helping you gently discipline yourself and those in your care.
I recommend this handbook for anyone parenting or working with children. When it comes out, loving parents will be empowered to give a complete education to their children.
~~~ Trison Graham
This book is the ABCs for parents that love their children.
~~~ Trey Patrick
img2.jpgThe
Heart & Soul of Parenting
Handbook
Not JUST Your Average Discipline
Thinking Chair &
Find Your Peace™
Discipline that Teaches Empowerment!
Is This TCFP Method Right for
Me & My Family?
An amazing Principle-based paradigm-shift births a system that uplifts and nourishes both children and adults—parents, grandparents, teachers, childcare workers—when consistently implemented. Its illuminating approach inspires, heals, and trains your family to be the best family they can be by:
Defining the two urges everyone deals with daily thatinfluence our choices, personifying them in a child-friendly way as ‘Great Me’ and ‘petty me.’
Centering your child’s discernment on respect for his best self, his ‘Great Me,’ and the ability to recognize his ego-mind as a ‘petty me’ that’s not his desirable ‘go to’ self!
Doing no harm—removing shaming and judging from the discipline equation as well as the use of violence to get your point across.
Working well with children who are eager to please as well as with those who are strong-willed and not inclined to cooperate.
Evolving a trusting, happy relationship between parent and child.
Wholistically, TCFP Teaches Life Skills,
Developing Your Child’s:
Delightful, unique attitude and brilliance.
Calm, self-reflective nature to easily reconnect with his natural compassion, inner harmony, and peace.
Ability to be responsible and accountable for making informed and balanced choices based on his sound reasoning, mindfulness, and mutuality.
Internally motivated self-control, guided by an ethical frame of reference that’s his lifelong compass.
Trust in himself as worthy and capable, with confidence and courage to rely on what he knows to be true and to follow it.
‘Spirit-in-actuality’ health and well-being by uniting and illuminating his consciousness, heart, and mind.
Patience, love of truth, honesty, courtesy, decision-making, communication, cooperation, ethical nature, logical and critical reasoning/thinking,leadership, and owning his impact on others.
As techniques go,
TCFP is quite stellar because Principle is its foundation, and it’s fluid. With practice, it shines, tempering your body-mind-Spirit via a wholism approach. It teaches you and your child to center in knowing Who-I-AM (being authentically who you are), granting resiliency for a radiant, heart-to-heart, mindful life!
Inspiration & Dedication
Ever had a job where you had no experience, no training? You weren’t allowed to quit, and people’s lives were are stake? That’s parenting.
~ Andrea Pannell ~
img3.jpg"Conscious parenting is activism.
You are changing the world."
~ Vivek Patel ~
It is easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult.
~ Frederick Douglass ~
To All Who Have the
Care of Children Under Their Wing:
I want you to catch the ‘heart & Soul’ enthusiasm of parenting to open your joy for curiosity and discovery. That will enable you to usher Souls forward who are being their best selves, living in wellness. To that sacred end, I’ll teach you to have good instincts from your heart & Soul that uplift your awareness and abilities. But you must endeavor with passion to make this study your art of parenting well. Make it your unrelenting investment in your child’s future! You’ll enjoy an infinity payout that empowers both you and your child. The upshot is this: You’ll change what’s possible. That’s the power of embracing this new paradigm! And it’s all in your hands . . .
All to Light & Love without borders,
img4.pngAcknowledgments
THANK YOU to all who made this happen:
~ Drs. Jared and Nicole and their daughter Kaydence ~
For giving me a big nudge and for having a lovely, brilliant child who’s reaching for the stars, ever deserving the best that wisdom has to offer!
~ Trison G. and William G. ~
For cheering me on from the sidelines to just get it done—to Trison for sharing his nephew’s picture that turned the light bulb on for me re the cover design, and to William for tending to life as I wrote. And thanks, guys, for your invaluable input as beta readers!
~ Andrew T. ~
For using his blossoming skills and tools to build the foundation of the index—a great help, prod, and boost. Kudos!
~ Beth Hayse, editor ~
For using her keen eye to truly edit into the nights despite long days at the office and precious grandkids galore.
~ All Children ~
For being my precious muses, setting my heart afire, and attuning me to your reach to become the stars you are.
There have been big win-wins for us all for being on the edge of TRUTH, co-creating our infinity payouts, and enjoying our Unity-of-Oneness!
My heart is full of gratitude that’s ever silently beaming my Light & Love to each and every one of you for your contributions. Know this: My Christos-Spirit shall never forget nor cease to appreciate you.
Ahh… the many faces of parenting a child… and, then, you realize… whew!
img5.jpgThere’s so much more to know. Indeed, welcome to your hands-on ‘PARENTS in the KNOW’ handbook!
Full Title Page
Sharon Quinn
PARENTS in the KNOW!™ & TCFP™ Founder
Montessori Lead Teacher
The Heart & Soul of Parenting
img6.jpgHandbook
Step-by-Step
Skills to Empower
Both Parent & Child
The TCFP Method:
Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
Be Effective. Be Peaceful.
Principle-based discipline without harm, teaching critical thinking skills & personal accountability ~
WindowToTheWorldPublishing.com
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The Heart & Soul of Parenting Handbook:
Step-by-Step Skills to Empower Both Parent & Child
Sharon Quinn
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Copyright © 2020 Sharon A. Quinn Revocable Trust
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Disclaimer:
Some of the anecdotal illustrations in this book are true to life and are included with the permission of the persons involved. All other illustrations are composites of real situations, and any resemblance to people living or dead is purely coincidental.
The publisher and author assume no liability for damages resulting from the use of the information contained herein and have no control over the content of any external website links. Neither the publisher nor the author is engaged in rendering professional advice or services to the individual reader, and this book is not intended as a substitute for professional advice or services. All the links in this book were last accessed on 6/30/20.
Cover Design: Panagiotis Lampridis
Editor/Linguist: Beth Hayse
Author photograph: Lynda Sheehan
All photographs used with permission.
Library of Congress Control Number: 2020911460
ISBN13: 978-1-944796-09-9 (paperback)
ISBN13: 978-1-944796-10-5 (ePub)
ISBN13: 978-1-944796-21-1 (Kindle)
July 2020
Made in USA
Version 1.0
img7.png WINDOW to the WORLD PUBLISHING (WTTW): We publish educational, meaningful, innovative, and insightful books of quality for adults and children. Our mission is to advance and nurture all Consciousness and its innate potential into HUman beingness that’s able to co-create a world of peace and prosperity for all to experience and express.
TABLE of CONTENTS: Detailed Access
TCFP:
Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
Not Just Your Average Discipline
Inspiration & Dedication
Acknowledgements
Illustrations
Full Title Page
Copyright Page
Table of Contents
Preface: It’s Unfair!…
An Incomplete Education
1. For You
2. Expertise from Applied Experience
3. Make This Your Go-To Handbook
Chapter 1: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
Build a Healthy Relationship & Life
with Your Child
1. What Is the TCFP Discipline Approach?
Chapter 2: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
How Does It Differ from Time-Outs?
1. Oops! Another Pop Psychology Failure
2. Understanding the Capricious Nature of
Time-Outs
3. Understanding the Universal Wisdom &
Nature of the TCFP Approach
Chapter 3: How to Successfully Use the Thinking
Chair & Find Your Peace™ Method
1. Bottom-Line Principles
The Thinking Chair Itself (principle #8)
Why TCFP Is So Effective (info box)
(highlighted text)
2. Principle Overview Wrap-Up
Chapter 4: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
Discipline In Action
1. How You Do It
2. Intro & Demo
I. Intro
II. Now, for the Narrative
III. And Now, for the Process
STEP 1 (your offer to collect self)
STEP 2 (‘sit and think’ initiates TCFP)
Additional Pointers for Successful Outcomes
STEP 3 (vigil phase)
Proviso A (3rd person guidance)
Proviso B (bold-defiance protocol)
STEP 4, Part A (verify body language)
STEP 4, Part B (verify for ‘green light’)
STEP 4, Part C (get face-to-face)
a Proviso Requiring STEP 4, Part D
(rebellious response)
STEP 5, Part A (instructive recognition)
STEP 5, Part B (amends)
STEP 6 (closure)
Chapter 5: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
STEPS for Special Circumstances
STEP 5, Part C Detailed Instructions
1. Resurgence of a ‘Petty Me’ Battle
2. A Plea to Right an Unfair Wrong
3. The Temptation to Downplay, Finesse, etc.
4. If Sibling Rivalry Is At Play
5. Physical Intervention for Shocking Behaviors
OR If Your Child Has Special Needs
Path One: Refusal to Sit in the Chair
Path Two: Special Needs
6. Strategies for Logical Consequences &
Making Age-Appropriate Amends
7. (See Addendum #3: Family-Crisis Guidance &
Anxiety-Driven Tantrums & Power Struggles)
Chapter 6: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
An Informal Discussion
1. Value of Principle-Based Systems
2. Let’s Dovetail Back to Deepening Our
Practical Understanding
3. When/Is It Too Late to Start?
4. Thinking Chair Questions
5. Am I Doing It Right?
Angst
6. The Temper-Tantrum Paradox
7. Be Creative: Ideas for Talking to Your Child
Chapter 7: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
Moving Forward & Upward!
1. Understanding Good & Bad
& the Quantum
Leap into ‘Great Me’/’Petty Me’
2. What Does Ethical Behavior Look Like?
3. Deepening Your Understanding of Love
4. A Caveat Encouraging Great Parenting
5. Key Factors that Give the Thinking Chair &
Find Your Peace Its Magic
6. Synopsis
Chapter 8: Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™
Healthy Habits & Reminders
1. Don’t Do That
Old School Ideas Die Hard…
2. Do This
Best Practices for Effective & Positive
Parenting
"Oops! Is That Yours??! (Stealing)
Lying…The Devil’s in the Details
The Elephant in the Room
Subtle Power of Routine & Ritual
3. Reminder Tips: Parents, Be Astute!
Bottom-Line Takeaways
Addendum
1. Time to Say Goodbye
for Now…
About the Author
Websites & Resources
2. One Last Thing
3. Editor’s Note:
An Emergent Family Crisis & Tips
Parents: Your State of Mind Matters
Additional Guidelines for Anxiety Tantrums
Deal with Power Struggles (STEP 5, Part C, #7)
Bonus
Your TCFP Treasure Chest:
A Quick Reference Guide to STEPS 1-6
—————
TCFP
The Thinking Chair & Find Your Peace™ Paradigm
TCFP is a Principle-based wholism: a system, process, approach, method, techniques, and training for parents to raise resilient children with future competence. Its art and dō of awareness show the way to leading a prosperous life—gifted with balance, critical thinking, mutuality-relating, and empowered self-discipline.
PREFACE
It’s Unfair!
Adults Suffer in Life
Due to an Incomplete Education
PARENTING Is
One of Those Essential Skills
Allowed to Fall Through the Cracks
For You
The point of this jam-packed handbook is to begin filling in one of those serious gaps—that of being able to effectively parent with discipline that is nurtured and guided by wisdom advice.
Many parents do not get the satisfaction that they desire with time-outs. For the most part, their children have not learned to self-govern as hoped for. And, maybe, that desire not being fulfilled for you is the very reason you’re reading this handbook!
Filling in those gaps, this plan elevates discipline to nurture the generosity of your child’s spirit, ennobling his/her character and enabling emotional growth to attain the highest level.
While the world abounds in advice that is concept based and merely formulated into trivial but good-sounding formulas, such info is not what you need. You need and deserve what works for you and is the best of the best, the cream of the crop, yes?!
Rather, this book is a record of well-vetted and learned insights being shared with you for the explicit benefit of you and your family.
The methods I’m sharing with you are, in actuality, fostered by children themselves. So, how does the saying go—straight from the horse’s mouth?
That fact alone is largely the powerhouse of what you’ll learn here.
Additionally, the information and understandings I’m sharing with you are rich in eternal Principles and grounded in daily reality.