Little Diary of Relationship Truths

By Cardelia Reid

This book was written particularly for Christian women (and men) who have unknown, internal struggles with dating, the opposite sex, and getting married. It gives practical advice on how the Holy Spirit views our relationships with others. It addresses how to meet men, sex before marriage, unsuccessful dating cycles, looking good and taking care

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trilogy Christian Publishing
• Release date: Apr 14, 2020
• ISBN: 9781640889422

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Copyright © 2020 by Cardelia Reid

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Dedication

This book is dedicated to my parents: My father David Love, Sr., who passed away in 2011. He taught me how to be a good person regardless of what happens in life; and my mother Idelia Love who’s been very supportive throughout my life. She’s a great role model and always believes the best in me.

To my darling husband, Kadeon, who kept his promise on being a good, loving and providing husband!

To my two kids, Ryan and Simone who add joy and sunshine to my life daily!

Introduction

Getting to the Root of the Problem

As I drove down to my mom’s house, I had my suitcase packed with clothes. There was a great amount of anger and hurt. When I left, I told my husband that I was leaving for my mom’s house, but he didn’t seem phased at all. That’s mainly because he was still processing his own hurt and anger. Another day fueled with another fight about the same things over and over again. Why did I marry him again? I thought to myself.

This had taken so much energy out of my life that I was sure this time, it would end in divorce. Not to mention his passiveness made me feel worse. It added fuel to the fire. I told myself there was no way I was going to stay longer because I didn’t feel like I had a reason. I didn’t understand him and to put it frankly, I didn’t want this problem in my life ever again.

The second I walked into my mom’s house, I could tell she was waiting on me. I’m thinking we’re going to sit at her kitchen table and talk as we usually would when nothing’s wrong, but she surprised me this time and said immediately, Let’s go.

She said it in such a matter-of-fact manner. Well, I didn’t have anything else to do of course and my eyes were red from crying while driving down. So just getting out of the house could potentially help. We drove about thirty minutes away in an attempt to go to the mall. We ended up stopping at a carwash. I remember lining up waiting in our car to check in for the wash and I noticed a man in a silver truck behind me. I looked at his truck and saw him but quickly looked away. I just didn’t want to be bothered. When you’re hurting especially from one man, any other man seems like a nuisance. It was obvious that he was watching me.

After we checked our car into the wash, we walked into the sitting area. The next thing I know, the man that was watching me comes walking around the corner. He started a conversation immediately about my Georgia tag. He had a happy-go-lucky manner. He asked me questions and I answered them. I kind of smiled and talked. If I was having a bad day, he wouldn’t have known. But I didn’t offer any extra conversation.

There was an older man that walked up right behind him. They both started talking to each other. Apparently, they knew each other very well. However, they were driving separate vehicles. The older man started talking to my mom. She joked around with him by saying she liked his white Mercedes. Then he did something that I’ve never seen anyone do: he walked up to my mom, got really close to her face and said to her: I don’t drive a white Mercedes. I drive a Bentley! That Mercedes is my son’s car.

As soon as he said that, his wife walked in smiling. She was much younger than he was. They started talking about how their kids have all these cars and how she loves her Michael Kors purse and yadda, yadda, yadda. This became a very materialistic conversation. Never the less, it was entertaining to hear and see this unfold. This older guy had a very successful business and it appeared that he loved materialistic things and women. His wife didn’t seem to care that he couldn’t stop talking to my mom and his younger friend couldn’t stop talking to me. Either way, I must say it was so interesting that I forgot about my ordeal that morning and why I was even visiting my mom that day.

Afterwards, my mom got back into the car with me. I said to her What in the world just happened? We were both laughing at the conversation we just had. My mom said to me: Did you notice how that guy couldn’t stop talking to you? I saw him watching you from the moment you got out of the car. I said yes, but I noticed he wasn’t the most attractive person. She then said to me something I’ll never forget: If I looked like you and had your height, even with your personality, I would never spend another day worried about my husband. In other words, she was saying that I don’t understand the positive influence or impact I have on people, particularly men.

I was speechless. It’s almost like she knew that experience was going to take place. From the moment I walked into her house, she saw my face, my posture, and demeanor. All of it spelled out the fact that I’ve placed too much time and energy concerned about something I shouldn’t. She knew all along that I was doing this and it’s like she was waiting for the right moment to tell me. She didn’t have to enforce her point because the situation spoke for itself. All she did was confirm it. Why was I so hurt and confused about my marriage? Why had this lingering feeling of wanting to get a divorce laid on my mind after so many years of carrying this heaviness? Although I knew my value and never suffered from low self-esteem, why was I not focusing more positive energy elsewhere? What did I think would happen magically that would change everything and him? Had I taken a good look in the mirror?

Now I’m going to answer these questions and more. I really wanted to give you a good look at what my life had been like for years. This is just one example out of many. I had to give you an account of what my mom has taught me about relationships. For so many years I didn’t listen and I learned the hard way. There are some things I just needed to understand more clearly than her telling me. But in the end, she has always been right in this area. My mother was married for forty-three years to my father when he died in 2011. She learned things over her life and poured them into me. I started listening to her advice on relationships when I was about twenty-five years old and then on marriage gradually as the years went by. This book is about how to navigate relationships, how to navigate the road to marriage, and steward it accordingly. If you listen really closely and read with spiritually open eyes and ears, you’ll find satisfaction as well as see results that will astound you. One of the ministries I have along with my mother is the ability to steward relationships. And I’m going