Narcissistic Abuse: How to Recognize Narcissism and Defend Yourself from Emotional Abuse Techniques in Relationships. Protect Your Willpower and Self-esteem from Dark Psychology and Manipulation.

By David Blowty

FACT: We all have narcissistic tendencies, but not all of us are abusive.

We highlight this fact because it is important to remember that abusing others is a CHOICE, regardless of neuroses. So, when you find that your partner is showing signs of narcissism and is going out of their way to cross your boundaries and undermine your self-esteem, you might want to reconsider being in that relationship.

Being with an abusive narcissist can be tricky. They always seem so perfect at first and shower you with gifts and affection. Their abuse starts slow and usually after they know you've already fallen for them. When the abuse starts, it can be difficult to break away.

Plus, abusive narcissists always find a way to charm, not just you but also the people around you. They do this because then it will be difficult for others to believe that they are capable of nasty, manipulative things. In short, they want it to make it hard for other people to believe you once you start voicing out the abuse.

Abusive narcissists are clever, but they're not invincible. And for you to stay in control, or regain the control you've lost, you need the guide to "Narcissistic Abuse".

In this book, you will recognize abusive narcissistic tendencies right off the bat. This way, you will be able to anticipate narcissists' manipulative techniques, understand the cycle of abuse, and recover from it completely.

You will also learn about essential tips and phrases that stop narcissistic abuse in its tracks the right way, so you can take back your life and stop them from fully manipulating you into submission.

So, if you think you're in a relationship with an abusive narcissist, don't fret. Help is here.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: David Blowty
• Release date: Apr 11, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393568735

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Chapter 1.  Signs of Narcissistic Abuse

When you become repeatedly exposed to these types of abuse, you eventually begin to develop telltale signs of an abuse victim. Of course, not every person will follow this exact pattern or exhibit every single symptom on the list, and an absence of any of these symptoms does not automatically mean that the person is not being abused. Familiarize yourself with this list so you can recognize abuse in either yourself or in others.

Detaching or Dissociating 

A dissociation is a form of coping mechanism in which you detach from your emotions. Oftentimes, your emotions are so overwhelming for you that you feel the need to detach from them all together just to survive. This is commonly seen in people who have survived traumas, such as rape or war, and can also frequently be seen in the victims of narcissistic abuse. When this occurs, your mind is attempting to isolate the abuse as the only way it knows how to cope with the abuse, and can cause some serious mental health problems if left unchecked. It can lead to altered levels of consciousness and begin to affect your memory, as well as lead to serious health implications as well.

Distrusting Everyone 

Due to encountering so much abuse by someone you once trusted and loved, you may become quite distrustful in response. You may constantly feel on edge, worried that you will be betrayed or hurt again, and your ability to make meaningful relationships may suffer. Instead, you remain hyper-vigilant around other people, which only serves to heighten sensations of anxiety and drive wedges between yourself and other people. You likely suspect even those whom you have never had a reason to distrust as being capable of harming you after your trauma.

Often or Always fearful 

As a result of being so thoroughly betrayed, you may find yourself constantly fearing a repeat of the abuse. You may fear that your abuser will come back to you if you have escaped or you may worry that any happiness you find is a delusion. Because narcissists tend to punish when someone around them is happy, you have likely repeatedly faced consequences to enjoying life, which only served to make you worried whenever things go well. You constantly fear that the narcissist will be set off or that the other shoe will drop and your fragile moment of happiness will be shattered. You may develop a fear of enjoyment and because of this, you allow the narcissist to continue being the only one to enjoy anything. Of course, what the narcissist enjoys is seeing his victims afraid of enjoying life.

The feeling of walking on eggshells 

Similar to being fearful, the feeling of walking on eggshells is that sensation you feel when you are desperately trying to tend to a delicate situation and you know that if you make the slightest mistake, no matter how harmless that mistake may seem, there will be a massive explosion. You live with that sensation constantly when with the narcissist; you feel as though she will explode on you at any given moment, even over insignificant things.

Martyring Yourself for others 

Martyring yourself, in this case, refers to the act of making yourself suffer to benefit others. If you know that the narcissist wants muffins for breakfast but has not asked for them, for example, you might stay up late that night, making a batch from scratch to give to the narcissist, even though doing so means that you went to bed three hours late and are too exhausted to meet all of your responsibilities the next day. You may find other ways to do this, such as canceling an appointment to get your hair done that you had been looking forward to taking care of the narcissist’s laundry or canceling some other thing you have been looking forward to for something that the narcissist is relatively indifferent about.

Self-guilt and Blame 

With self-guilt, you seek to blame yourself for what you have gone through. You know that you are in a bad relationship with a narcissist and that you could have better but you feel as though you deserve it. You guilt yourself into staying, saying that the narcissist needs you and that you are to blame for your suffering. You must not have tried hard enough if the narcissist is not doing better yet, and you need to try harder if you want the abuse to stop.

You may even begin to blame yourself for the narcissist’s abuse, telling yourself that you had annoyed your abuser into punching you and if you are more careful in the future it will not happen. You make yourself responsible for the narcissist’s actions and that train of thought only convinces you that you deserved it and that the abuse was justified.

Self-sabotaging 

When self-sabotaging, you find ways to prevent yourself from succeeding. Oftentimes, this is related to the narcissist destroying your self-esteem. You begin to believe what the narcissist is saying about your capabilities and act them out. If you are repeatedly told that you are unintelligent, you will begin to believe it, and you will make choices that reflect that. You may be quite bright, but your own choices will be made based on your sense of self-worth. Self-sabotaging could also take forms such as making it impossible for yourself to leave the relationship when you want to by failing to take the steps necessary to grant yourself the independence you crave.

Impact of Abuse 

After enduring abuse for so long, the victims often find themselves feeling long-lasting effects. Even after escaping the abuse, the victims may still show the telltale signs of someone who has endured toxic abuse. If you notice these signs in yourself, remember, this does not reflect poorly on you. You are not broken or irreparably ruined and scarred. You are a survivor. These are the wounds that will heal with time the longer you are away from the narcissist and are nothing to be ashamed of. With time and effort, you will eventually heal into the person you deserve to become. Remember, you are a survivor despite the abuse, and the abuse does not define you.

Chapter 2.  Symptoms of Narcissistic abuse

For someone in a relationship with a narcissist, they feel an overwhelming sense of degradation. At the beginning of the relationship, the narcissist was charming, funny, very caring.

If you have ever been abused by a narcissist, there are going to be some symptoms that will prove that this happened. These symptoms are going to be pretty challenging to deal with. They often are going to result in some severe psychological trauma to those who have been in the relationship, and who have been abused, by the narcissist for some time.

You will find that there are going to be some early signs for this kind of abuse, and often they are going to arise after the initial love-bombing stops and the narcissist decides that it is time to begin their cycle of destroying their victim. Of course, since these things start to happen early on, the victim will be full of energy and a lot of positivity, which means that the narcissist is going to be able to get away with quite a bit without you even noticing. And they start slow so you are less likely to notice what is going on here.

Questioning what is real 

One of the major symptoms that will show up here is some memory problems. Commonly, the victim of a narcissist is going to start doubting their own memory, or their own view of reality. Because of this, they are going to rely on the narcissist, and they hope that the narcissist is going to be able to feed them information on their