Top Tips for Dealing With Anger: Top Tips for, #1

By Gini Graham Scott PhD

Top Tips for Dealing With Your Anger provides a broad overview of the many facets of anger by combining commentary, quotes, and illustrations. It concludes with a section on tips and techniques for dealing with your own anger and a questionnaire to help you decide what to do.  It covers these main topics:

the pervasiveness and destructiveness of anger

controlling anger and making choices

letting go, expressing your anger, and forgiveness

promoting change

anger and fear, denial, love, and betrayal

when anger becomes fun

what to do when you or someone else is angry

           

GINI GRAHAM SCOTT, PhD is a writer, publisher, and film producer, who has published over 200 books, 50 for traditional publishers and 150 for her own company Changemakers Publishing, specializing in books on self-help, popular business, and social issues. She also writes, reviews, and ghostwrites books and scripts for clients. She has written and executive produced 12 feature films, documentaries, and TV series.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Changemakers Publishing
• Release date: Mar 12, 2021
• ISBN: 9781386339496

Gini Graham Scott PhD

Gini Graham Scott is a screenplay writer, executive producer, and TV game show developer, plus a nonfiction writer who has published over 200 books, 50 for traditional publishers and 150 for her own company Changemakers Publishing. She also writes, reviews, and ghostwrites scripts and books for clients. She has written scripts for 20 feature films and has written and executive produced 11 film and TV projects. These include Me, My Dog, and I and Rescue Me, distributed by Random Media,  Driver, distributed by Gravitas Ventures, Deadly Infidelity, distributed by Green Apple,  Death’s Door, a TV series based on a co-written book. At Death’s Door, published by Rowman & Littlefield, The New Age of Aging, distributed by Factory Films, and Reversal distributed by Shami Media Group. Several other films have just been completed or are in production: Courage to Continue and Bad Relationships She has recently developed a TV series The Neanderthals Return, based on a series of books about the Neanderthals coming back into modern society. She has written and produced over 60 short films, including dramas, book and film trailers, TV show pilots, documentaries, and promotional videos.  Her IMDB resume is at http://imdb.me/ginigrahamscott. She is the author of four books on filming, including So You Want to Turn Your Book Into a Film?, The Basic Guide to Pitching, Producing, and Distributing Your Film, and The Basic Guide to Doing Your Own Film Distribution, Finding Funds for Your Film or TV Project.  and The Complete Guide to Distributing an Indie Film. She has been hired to write over two dozen scripts for clients, adapted from their novels, memoirs, or script ideas. She reviews books for their film potential and writes treatments and scripts for three major companies that publish books and promote them for authors. Her scripts include action/adventure scripts, suspense thrillers, psychological character films, and contemporary dramas.  Some recent scripts are the sci-fi suspense thrillers Brain Swap, Dead No More, Deadly Deposit, and Reverse Murder.  Other scripts include the crime action thrillers Rich and Dead and Deadly Affair; and the suspense thriller Bankrupt.

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Top Tips for

Dealing With Anger

Tips, Techniques, Quotes, and Illustrations

on How to Overcome, Control, and Channel

Your Anger and Make It Work for You

by Gini Graham Scott, Ph.D.

Top Tips for Dealing With Anger

Copyright © 2021 by Gini Graham Scott

All rights reserved.  No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the author except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

THE PERVASIVENESS OF ANGER

THE DESTRUCTIVENESS OF ANGER

The Consequences of Anger

Harming Yourself

Making Mistakes, Regrets, and Repentance

The Danger of Seeking Revenge

Anger and Loss

The Danger of Anger to Society

ANGER AND TRUTH

CONTROLING ANGER

MAKING CHOICES

LETTING GO OF ANGER

EXPRESSING YOUR ANGER

THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS

ANGER, UNDERSTANDING AND EMPATHY

PROMOTING CHANGE

ANGER, FEAR, AND SADNESS

ANGER AND DENIAL

ANGER AND REASON

ANGER AND OTHERS

ANGER, LOVE AND BETRAYAL

WHEN ANGER BECOMES FUN

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE IS ANGRY

Dealing with Your Anger in Resolving a Conflict

Other Ways to Deal with Your Anger

ANGER QUESTIONNAIRE

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

INTRODUCTION

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Commonly, you can feel anger in confronting a challenge, because you may feel frustrated and irritated by having to face the situation. You may feel anger at the person or persons who are part of this situation or have led you into having to deal with what occurred. You may see them as obstacles, rivals, or otherwise in the way of what you want to do. Or you may experience anger for other reasons.

Whatever the source of your anger, it can have negative consequences, such as a loss of friendship, love, and support. It can even escalate a conflict into a life and death struggle. But at other times, anger can fuel creative and positive change in oneself, in one’s relationships, and in society as a whole. So a good strategy is to control and manage that anger by acting from choice and wisdom to do the right thing. For anger is one of the mechanisms that contribute to one’s survival and success when it is used effectively.

The following chapters feature the comments and quotes of many well-known persons about dealing with anger, along with illustrations that reflect these sentiments. The quotes are organized by the different themes reflected in these comments, which include:

- the pervasiveness of anger,

- the consequences of expressing anger,

- understanding the reasons for anger,

- how anger can hurt you,

- how anger can alienate you from others,

- how to control or get rid of your anger.

I have included the source for each comment, although sometimes these attributions draw on an even earlier source, such as ancient Greek writers and Buddhist sages. Where it’s known, I have included the original source.

THE PERVASIVENESS OF ANGER

Anger is everywhere, since it is a survival mechanism that helps us be assertive in threatening situations or at times when we need to overcome a challenge to gain an advantage. It helps us fight if necessary. Sometimes, anger can be a response to a perceived problem—from anger at oneself for an error or flaw to anger against other individuals or society as a whole.

But at other times, anger can lead to great suffering, as well as the angry person being negatively viewed by others. Often a person who is angry will find still more reason to be angry, because of these feelings of suffering or being rejected by others. And commonly responding with anger can become a habit, so those angry feelings are even more likely to grow.

In short, anger is pervasive. Sometimes it can be used for the good, but often it leads to negative consequences.

The following quotes describe how this anger can turn into a common response to everything or gain disapproval from others.

Show me an angry man, and I’ll show you someone who gets things done.

Anonymous

Anger is like food for the soul.  It helps one survive and thrive, since anger teaches us to fight when necessary, just as flight can help us get away when it makes no sense to fight.