Improve Your People Skills

By Jayden Navarro

IImprove Your People Skills For Effective Communication With Your Peers, Friends, Family, Relationships, and In Business Today!

 

Do you feel awkward in social situations where first impressions are so vital? Do you lack confidence and charisma in your daily communications that make you come off as aloof and unengaging? If so, you could be lacking some crucial people skills that are essential to your survival and success in this world.

 

When it comes to social skills, there is nothing better than having a set of strategies that are proven to set you up for success. In fact, in this way, you are able to learn and discover a lot of interesting aspects about other people that you would not have the opportunity to know if you were too shy to approach them in the first place. 

 

In This Book You Will Learn:

Common reasons Why People Suffer From Social Anxiety

Determining your Motivation To Become More Sociable

Why Having Social Skills Is So Important 

Relationship Breakthrough

Emotional Intelligence

How To Talk To Anyone

Proven Tips On Attracting, Holding, and Getting Through An Interview Or Conversations With Ease

The 5 Secret Keys To A Great Communication and Relationship

Why We Are Social Animals And What It Means To Be One

Nine strategies To Become A Better Social Player

Indispensible Communication Tactics For Greater Connections

How To Follow-Up Conversations

 

***BONUS***

How To Master The Art of Presentation

The Role of Technology And How It Has Affected Our Communication Skills Negatively

Strategies To Become An Effective Communicator

How To Work On Relationships Effectively

Discover How You Are The Key To Your Own Success

And so much more...

 

Discover the 9 strategies become a better social player, make more friends, and get to know other people more deeply. Take the guesswork out of the equation and allow yourself to make full use of your potential right now!

 

Pick up your copy of the book right now by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page!

 

To Your Success!

• Language: English
• Publisher: JW Choices LTD
• Release date: Feb 22, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393723677

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How To Talk To Anyone With Confidence and Charisma Through Effective Communication Skills

Jayden Navarro

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Table of Contents

Chapter 2: Conversation Tips.............................41

Step One-Talking to Yourself............................41

SCENARIO.........................................41

Step Two- Have a Few Ice Breakers......................43

Real Ice Breakers.....................................44

Bad Ice Breakers......................................45

How These Tips Help..................................46

Chapter 3: Holding a Conversation.........................47

Tip Three- Self Disclosure..............................47

Tip Four- Engage the Other Person Fully..................52

How to Engage Them..................................54

How These Tips Help..................................55

Chapter 4: Getting Through a Conversation..................56

Tip Five- Etiquette During a Conversation.................56

Tip Six- Etiquette When Leaving a Conversation............61

How These Tips Help..................................63

Chapter 5: Additional Tips...............................64

Tip Seven- Get Out of Your Head........................64

Tip Eight- Boost Your Self Esteem.......................65

Tip Nine- Handle Rejection with Pride....................66

Tip Ten- Don't Latch On...............................67

How These Tips Help..................................67

Chapter 6: After the Tips.................................68

How to know if it is more than just being shy........68

Make Him Feel Safe.................................90

Respect and Compassion............................96

Be Confident.......................................107

Give and Take on the Lead.........................113

Open, Honest, Consistent Communication..........121

Equality and Respect...............................131

Acceptance for Who They Are......................136

Special Bonus Tips....................................148

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Introduction

It was not a long time ago that I was struggling with social anxiety. Talking with other people made me very uncomfortable and scared. At first, I thought that I was just shy—or at least this what my parents told me growing up. Being known as the shy kid gave me an excuse to avoid facing my fears and problems. However, it came to a point where I decided to change for the better. I had enough of always shaking when ordering a drink at a club or purchasing a newspaper. I knew I could change and I wanted to do it.

This is the reason why I decided to start researching about social skills and how to apply them in the everyday life. I spent hours and hours over books and videos, trying to grasp the secret of those who were having a successful social life.

The following chapters will discuss the primary preparedness principals that you will need to apply if you ever hope to really be ready to face a social situation without any issue. Before getting started and diving into the topic, here are a few things to consider and keep in mind. One of the things that will make the biggest difference is the amount of time you spend practicing. As with any other skill, being able to socialize properly takes time with a lot of trial and error. Do not underestimate this part. The last thing before getting started is the ability to try to make a small change every single day. Every day is a new opportunity to build a bit more self-confidence and become better at the social game, so be sure practice on a daily basis.

There are plenty of books on this subject on the market. Thanks again for choosing this one! Every effort was made to ensure it is full of as much useful information as possible. Please enjoy!

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Chapter 1: We are social animals

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As Aristotle said, humans are social animals. This was the first notion that I came across when I started my journey to become a better social player and increase my social skills. However, one question kept arising in my head. If we are truly social animals, why is it so hard for so many people to convey their message without turning red or start shaking? I decided that shyness was not a satisfying answer and started digging deeper. I found out that, over time, several factors may justify a difficulty in this area. Here are the most common ones:

Inadequate learning of social skills can be determined by the impossibility of observing adults who surround us—sufficiently effectively and protracted over time—or who surrounds us and shapes our education also has difficulty confronting social situations. As a result, the skills that are necessary cannot be acquired. Why? Because we learn by emulating others and if there is a lack of practical examples, there is no way we are able to get social practices in our system.

There is a lack of positive reinforcement from the surrounding environment. This can be linked to the lack of both valid social contacts and positive feedback that are necessary for the development and consolidation of social skills.

A symptom characterized by social anxiety that can reach an intensity that prevents the subject from using all or part of his abilities. This is why having social troubles does not correspond

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with being ignorant or not having anything to say. The content is there; it is just difficult to pull it out.

The presence of side effects of drugs that can make it difficult to approach social situations. In fact, even if most people think that alcohol can help them become better social players, it is a game that does not last for a very long time. In fact, even if it is true that drinking makes anyone more sociable, it is also true that after the effect has gone away, the insecurity begins to increase. I strongly recommend staying away from alcohol and drugs, especially when working on social skills.

At this point, I was wondering: what can I do to improve my social skills? I knew that there was a way. I just had not found it yet. Then something changed.

I started taking courses on how to date women and know more people. Day after day, month after month, I began to see tangible progress and, soon enough, I became a strong social player. In the next chapters, I will discuss the main strategies I have applied to transform who I was.

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Chapter 2: What are social skills?

Social skills are those skills that we use every day in life to communicate and interact with other people, both individually and in groups.

People with strong social skills are usually more successful in both professional and personal life because they move well in a team and are able to communicate effectively with other people. Having suffered from social anxiety, I know that hurts, but it is just the truth.

A person (or a leader) who is good at these skills is basically a great communicator.

Social skills are the culmination of other dimensions of emotional intelligence. Social skills move people to go in the direction they want, with the strong awareness that nothing important is done alone, but teamwork and community effort is fundamental.

What I discovered is that social skills can be divided into two groups:

the skills that influence people, such as influence, communication, conflict management, inspiration, and change;

the skills that generate collaboration, such as knowing how to build bonds, collaboration, and knowing how to work in a team.

It's never too late to improve your social skills (I started at the age of 40). The first step is to honestly examine yourself and admit that you need to improve in your deficient areas.

Let's find out some tips that will help you do it.

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Chapter 3: Nine Strategies to Improve your social skills

During my researches, I discovered that there were essentially nine strategies that successful people applied to be a great social player. I started practicing them all, one after the other. I strongly believe that anyone can become a good social actor, but only with the right guidance. Even if at the beginning it might be a struggle, when you start seeing your life to change in every aspect, a strong motivation will kick in and drag you forward. In fact, I discovered that there is a relevant correspondence between the ability to socialize and success in other aspects of life. For instance, good social skills make it simpler to influence people and make new friends, craft powerful and long-lasting relationship, and climb the corporate ladder.

If you feel or know that you are not a very social person, it is fundamental to study how to build this aspect of your character. Here are the nine strategies that will help you get started on your journey.

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1. Learn how to Listen

People are often centered on themselves, and because of this, many are used to not allow the other person to have their turn to speak. This can result in a frustrating situation, where the other interlocutor perceives you as rude.

I, too, often did it and maybe I will do it again in the future. But once I started to try to focus my mind on the other person by forgetting about myself, being able to feel better what other people say or want to say, everything started to change for the better. Suddenly, I was able to offer

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better advice, enjoy the conversation much more, and build stronger relationships. One trick that I used was to look at the mouth of the other person. In this way, I was focusing all my energy to the point where their voice was coming from. This allowed me to exclude any distraction and get more inside their point of view. It is a great social practice and I recommend you to try it out.

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2. Be really interested in other people

If you start paying more attention towards other people, you will be naturally perceived as a better individual. Furthermore, this will allow you to become a better listener as well since you will get deeper into other people's feelings and points of view.

Only by opening your heart and truly listening to what other individuals want to tell you will you discover that everyone has something interesting to say. We often get too picky in what we like to talk about and that we totally exclude certain topics from our daily conversations. However, by confronting them, you will improve your social skills for sure.

When I first stumbled upon this tactic, I did not understand it fully. In fact, most people are interested in others in a fake way, which does not lead very far. Only by truly caring about other people will you be able to become a better listener. Of course, you cannot care about everyone in the same manner, so start by meeting people with the same interests you have: it will make the practice much easier.

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3. Treat others how you would like to be treated

The law of reciprocity is a paradigmatic expression of how the world works. In fact, the way you treat someone else is the way he will be obliged to treat you. Karma may take some time to kick in, but rest assured that you will be rewarded for your kind actions. Furthermore, being kind has an amazing social impact on other people.

Being one is one of the most important aspects when it comes to social skills. Only by being aligned in everything you do will you become a better social player.

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4. Keep a positive attitude

Having a positive attitude is a decision, not a coincidence. In fact, you may have noticed that there are people who are always calm and cool, while others tend to get caught up in situations. You may not be able to do it all the time, but keeping a positive attitude is something that can be learned and installed in your mental system. Everyone likes positive people, so do not overlook this important social treat. When a problem arises, before focusing on the bad side, and with proper exercise, you will begin to see opportunities and what's good in any person or situation.

Obviously, this does not mean you should avoid difficult conversations or skip through issues when other people bring them up. However, you can influence the course of the discussion by sharing positive points of view and helping others to not give up. By doing so, you will become the positive guy, which is a great social role to play.

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5. Be silent and speak less

At first, when I was trying to improve my social skills, I thought that, in order to practice, I had to talk all the time. However, I discovered that there are certain interesting advantages in being a much quieter person. First of all, being silent is a great way to work on your listening skills and avoid unnecessary fights, reducing the possibility of a falling out that may arise from you criticizing them (even if you do not mean to). Especially if you are facing a topic that you do not know too much about, let the other person carry on the conversation and just go with the flow, adding appropriate and valuable comments from time to time.

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6. Communicate more than with your words

To become a better communicator you have to improve the way you say something, filling up your words with physical excitement and tangible passion.

Your attitude, as previously stated, can physically modify your body, making you look more open or close, depending on your emotions. For example, if you are feeling calm, open, and relaxed, this will be expressed by your body and vice versa. When you listen, for