How to Talk to Anyone: Learn to Start a Conversation, Be Better at Small Talk, and Overcome Shyness

By Craig Jaeger

The following topics are included in this 2-book combo:



Book 1: This book can help you improve your social skills and see the benefits of such skills. Aside from that, we will also dive into the actual benefits of shyness, which may surprise you. You will learn about the top 5 ways to make small talk worth the trouble, the best ways to end it, and ways to go beyond it.




Lastly, the various aspects of Social Anxiety Disorder, social life, and the social comparison theory will be laid out to help you comprehend those topics better.





Book 2: This book is full of helpful tips on social skills.



Some people may suffer from shyness or feel awkward when socializing. The first chapter of this book will talk about that. Additionally, the best ways to make small talk work in your favor will be discussed, as well as more tips to talk to anyone about basically anything. Last but not least, the final chapter will go over some findings science has done that has them worried about the next generations’ declining social skills, mostly due to technology.



I encourage you to take a look at this book and think about the things you read or hear.
 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Anonymous
• Release date: Nov 12, 2020
• ISBN: 9791220220699

Book preview

Theory

Chapter 1: Small Talk in Therapy

Jane bounces into her session.

How are you? How's your week going? I guess that's your question, huh? She smiles and stirs her coffee. Can you believe this weather? I mean, wow. It sure is hot. She settles into her chair. Did you see the Laker game Sunday? I do not know what is wrong with them. If they do not begin playing D, the Celts are gon na sweep the series. Like Boston needs another champion. Is that a new t-shirt?

Jane is making small talk. She's chitchatting, chewing the fat, shooting the breeze and/or bull. Astute insight into the NBA Finals aside, Jane appears all set to go over every little thing except herself.

In the vein of client empowerment, I have got 3 things to say about small talk:

1. Clients are permitted discuss anything they want

2. Clients should never feel obligated to make small talk

3. If it becomes a big part of treatment, there could be an issue

You're welcome to shoot the breeze with your therapist. It's your penny and your time, you can discuss anything you choose. Weather, sports, style, politics, television shows, trivia - all sections of the paper are fair game. Some therapists could ask why you have chosen today's topic, or suggest other items to talk about, but you do not need to bite. | small talk isn't forbidden, you can guide the boat in any direction you 'd like.

Having said that, talk in therapy can be an enormous waste of your money and time. Let's say you banter for the first 10 minutes of each session, you pay $100 per session, and you're in treatment a year. Your table talk will cost you around $1000 for the year. In our inflated economy, that's like twelve tanks of gas or two tickets to a Laker game. It's also eating up the same as ten sessions of your precious time that could be spent addressing your problems.

Some clients believe they really need to make small talk. It's tempting to apply the exact same social customs from other relationships to therapy. When you get in a store or meet someone new, it is appropriate to break the ice with safe small talk. But treatment works in a different way. No therapist would be upset or consider it impolite if you dismissed the pleasantries and solved down to business. So why do some feel it's needed to kick the session off with small talk?

Perhaps they feel the need to makecasual conversation for the therapist's sake. They may feel sorry for this separated expert, alone in their office all the time without any one to talk with at the water cooler. Even if this is actually true, it is not your job to take care of the therapist's emotions. Therapists need to find time to meet their social and support needs through friends, family and associates outside their work. We need interacting socially as much as the next individual, but not at your expense.

Some clients feel their own interacting socially needs aren't met outside treatment, so their session becomes their own water cooler. It would be worthwhile to resolve this in therapy - the absence of a social or support network could be an essential problem to take on.

More frequently, chit-chat is associated with the discomfort of beginning the session. As I wrote last week, it can be difficult to downshift into treatment mode when you're entering from the busyness of life. Small talk provides a shift - we're together, we are speaking with each other, the content is light and non-threatening. The talk can help you unwind, reconnect with the therapist and prepare you to dive into much deeper issues. Each are important, but there may be a more effective way to accomplish these