Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: a Complete Guide to Divorce a Narcissistic Ex and to Heal from a Toxic Relationship. How to be a Good Mother While Recovering from Emotional Abuse.: Narcissism

By Mia Warren

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be traumatizing. After all, you have to see them almost every day. In some cases, you can choose to cut ties with the person, but in other cases, you might not have that freedom.

In many other cases, people don't want to give up on the narcissist because they feel guilty that they might be abandoning the person in a time of need. Unbeknownst to them, the narcissist might be aware of their intentions and might be manipulating them. It is a complicated situation to be part of and not easy to deal with. This is why it helps if you have more knowledge about what it is like to be in a relationship with a narcissist. Try and have your body tuned.

What's your body saying about the present situation? Look for a way to have yourself taken care of and have your anxiety relieved before it gets a toll on your health. Your body is communicating that there is something wrong with you. Try and tell it that as you are going forward, you will be listening more.

 

This book covers:

Marriage and the Narcissist

Divorcing a Narcissist

Child Development and Adapting To Parental Separation

Guidelines for Answering Children's Questions about Divorce

Parental Alienation

Narcissistic Manipulative Tactics

Tips for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Helping Your Children Through a Divorce

Parenting Schedule and Importance of Routines

Healing From Emotional Abuse

How to Give the Best Guidance to Your Child

Loving Again

…And Much More!

 

When you are with a narcissist, you might feel uncomfortable about their manipulative methods or feel like you would like to talk to them about it. As time passes by, you get used to the situation. Living with a narcissist becomes the new norm. Pretty soon, you can't imagine life without the narcissistic person. Being emotionally drained around narcissists' means they take advantage of you. You cannot catch a break at all. You are constantly on edge. This situation is not just emotionally harmful to you, but physically as well. It is difficult to break out of the spell you fall under. After all, narcissists are good at manipulating the surrounding people.

This is why it is important to equip yourself with knowledge. The more knowledge you have, the more you are able to pierce the veil of manipulation, lies, and deceit that the narcissist creates to keep you and get yourself to be able to trust again. It might be tough during your recovery because you been hurt, disappointed, or crushed before. You will come across people that are good and you will realize that you can trust again. Your heart might even be opened to fall in love again.

Keep in mind you have to love yourself first before you can open to love. It's in full circle. For you to recover fully, you have to give yourself the place to grieve, to discover, to heal, to rebuild and to also love again.
 

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Mia Warren
• Release date: Jan 31, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393680246

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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

A Complete Guide to Divorce a Narcissistic Ex and to Heal from a Toxic Relationship. How to be a Good Mother While Recovering from Emotional Abuse

Mia Warren

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Table of contents

Marriage and the Narcissist

Divorcing a Narcissist

Child Development and Adapting to Parental Separation

Guidelines for Answering Children's Questions about Divorce

Parental Alienation

Narcissistic Manipulative Tactics

Tips for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Helping Your Children Through a Divorce

Parenting Schedule and Importance of Routines

Healing from Emotional Abuse

How to Give the Best Guidance to Your Child

Loving Again

Tips for Recovery

Mistakes to Avoid on the Road to Recovery

Effects of Narcissistic Abuse over Time

Breaking Free

How the Narcissistic Partner Damages Children

Stop Being Co-dependent

The Harm of Narcissistic Abuse

Restoring Self-Esteem

Introduction

Choosing to divorce is especially difficult when it is unclear whether divorcing will improve the lives of your children or make their lives less happy or less safe. Many parents base their decisions about divorce on the best interests of their children, but it is not always evident which path will better serve the children’s needs. Staying together in an unhappy marriage may mean that children grow up in an unhappy family. This could affect how children learn to view relationships, which could hurt their future partnering. However, if parents who stay together in these marriages do a good job of insulating the children from their conflict and treating one another with respect, the children may end up relatively unscathed. For some families, on the other hand, divorce is the best option for the well-being of the children.

The need to develop a working co-parenting relationship is another crucial task faced by parents. Joint parenting has challenged even intact families, as we each have preferences for how our children should be raised and our priorities for how to spend time and money. During and after divorce, these challenges increase. There are logistical issues to consider, such as the need to exchange the children and some of their belongings back and forth from one parent to the other, often several times per week. There is also the need to communicate about decisions that must be made about the children, even though the parents may have a hard time speaking to each other civilly about anything.

One of the biggest pitfalls for families of divorce is parental conflict. For many families, conflict lessens after the divorce is finalized, but for others, the conflict remains a key issue. It may occur because of strong feelings each parent has about the divorce itself, but it may also result from fundamentally different beliefs the parents hold about how to raise their children. If not kept in check, the conflict between co-parents is arguably the most damaging aspect of divorce for children.

Now that we have touched on some ways that divorce affects parents, we want to take a close look at how divorce affects children. This information will be useful as you prepare a parenting plan with your co-parent and as you engage in day-to-day parenting and co-parenting after the divorce.

The decision to divorce is complicated when divorce conflicts with a parent’s values, such as when a parent’s religious beliefs prohibit divorce or when a parent feels a moral obligation to stay with a spouse due to that spouse’s physical, emotional, or financial needs. Finances become particularly relevant when resources are insufficient to provide for two homes. If one or both parents have limited social support, this too may influence the ultimate decision about divorce.

If a couple decides that a separation would be appropriate and safety issues are not a concern, the separation should occur only after a plan is in place for how the parents will share time with the children and how other matters affecting the family will be handled. During the separation, both parents are still parents, and coordination of co-parenting is critical. Good co-parenting is necessary to help the children cope with such a major change in the family. How the parents handle this period is a good measure of how they will handle these issues in the future. Successful co-parenting during separation affirms for parents that they will be able to work as a team on their children’s behalf if a divorce does occur.

While the length of the separation depends on the specific circumstances of the family, it is our experience that a period of three to six months is appropriate to achieve the goal of determining if the marriage should continue. A period shorter than three months may not be a sufficient test of what it feels like to live separately, and it is not long enough to expect marriage therapy to resolve the couple’s issues. On the other hand, a period greater than six months is rarely necessary. With few exceptions, if parents are unable to decide on the fate of their marriage within six months, it is unlikely that they will gain clarity just by taking a larger amount of time apart. There is also a danger inherent to overextending a separation, as it may lead both spouses to stay stuck in marital limbo.

Chapter 1

Marriage and the Narcissist

If you're wondering whether you may have married a narcissist, here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you figure it out.

•Your partner seems to be two different people

He's the decent guy in public and a cruel, vicious fright at home. Sound acquainted? If it does, you could be living with a narcissist. The narcissist is highly focused on how others perceive him, and he typically puts forth a polished image in public.

At home behind closed doors, he is displeasing, lewd, cruel, or even physically abusive. He tends to act out when he doesn't get his way or doesn't receive the respect he believes he's entitled to, for whatever reason, real or imagined. He reacts with unbelievable rage when criticized - or when he assumes he was criticized.

•Your partner attempt to manipulate others against you

A narcissist lies about you to your friends, family, and even your children. He spreads false information about you; he attempts to make your private matters public in order to gain support from others in opposition to you.

The narcissist may view you as a threat to their attempts to gain the love, admiration, and attention they crave, and as a result, they may attempt to damage your reputation in order to prevent these people from giving you any support or recognition. He wishes to destroy your good qualities and bring you down to his level.

•Your partner gaslight you or play mind games

It's a form of crazy-making created to make the other person feel unsure of reality. It keeps them off-balance and vulnerable to the narcissist's domination. It's a way of controlling the other person and the conversation. This form of manipulation is highly deceptive, yet devastatingly detrimental, as it can alter an individual's perception of reality and cause them to comply with a narcissist's demands. Beware: the narcissist is fully cognizant of who is in control.

•Your partner blames you for everything

Narcissism is a defense mechanism that prevents the narcissist from recognizing or even acknowledging any wrongdoings of their own. They always resort to blaming you, no matter how many convoluted excuses they have to make. This invariably enables them to shift the blame away from themselves.The narcissist desires to inflict punishment on you unjustly due to his disorder's requirement that someone be subjected to it, and he is unwilling to perpetually bear the brunt of it. The narcissist has a ruthless, sadistic superego that beats him with internal criticisms 24 hours a day. Because of this, he leaps at the chance to take the punishment out on somebody else. It's the only escape from it that he has.

•Your partner tries to control everything

Narcissists are grave control freaks. They not only want to control their world, but they also want to control everybody in it. They want

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