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If you've ever lost sleep over how to end a friendship or how to recover from an email faux pas at work, or you want to learn how to speak in public or you just simply want the secret to happiness, What Your Mother Should've Told You and Nobody Else Will gives you all the answers.
With everything from homespun wisdoms and invaluable life lessons to navigating the minefield of 21st-century dilemmas and manners, here are all those things your mother should have taught you, but you weren't ready to hear at the time.
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What Your Mother Should've Told You and Nobody Else Will - Natalie Reilly
What your
mother
should’ve
told you
What your
mother
should’ve
told you
and nobody else will
natalie reilly
9781742696447txt_0003_001First published in 2012
Copyright © Natalie Reilly 2012
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or by any information storage and retrieval system, without prior permission in writing from the publisher. The Australian Copyright Act 1968 (the Act) allows a maximum of one chapter or 10 per cent of this book, whichever is the greater, to be photocopied by any educational institution for its educational purposes provided that the educational institution (or body that administers it) has given a remuneration notice to Copyright Agency Limited (CAL) under the Act.
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9781742696447txt_0004_002Contents
Introduction
Life lessons
How to be happy
How to make friends
How to survive a setback
How to appear smarter
How to say no
How to handle yourself in an argument
How to speak in public
How to budget like you mean it
How to not let money rule your life
How to reduce your carbon footprint at home
Modern manners
How to turn down a big invitation
How to react to a gift you don’t like
How to properly introduce yourself or someone else
How to be a good neighbour
How to deal with passive aggression
How to apologise properly
How to politely refuse advice
How to behave at a funeral
Tricky situations
How to escape a party bore
How to leave a party early
How to react to an insult
How to respond to a nosy question
How to respond to too much information
What to say in an awkward chance meeting
What to say when you don’t know what to say
How to make small talk
How to be silent
How to handle a bad housemate
How to respond to panhandlers
Family
How to cope with challenging in-laws
How to deal with other people’s misbehaving kids
How to handle a tantrum
How to cope with a difficult sibling
How to succeed as a stepparent
How to be a good godparent
How to choose a last-minute gift for your dad or your mum
How to enjoy yourself at Christmas
Love & relationships
How to flirt
How to ask out your crush
How to escape a bad date
How to handle a break-up
How to relate to your ex’s friends
How to handle a negative friend
How to repair a friendship gone sour
How to be the best bridesmaid ever
Food & wine
How to get into a no-reservations restaurant
How to test wine
How to properly match wine to food
How to host the perfect dinner party
How to have perfect table manners
How to send back a dish
What to do if you don’t like what you’ve been served
Travel
How to pack a suitcase
How to observe in-flight etiquette
How to be a good houseguest
How to take care of a borrowed car
How to merge in traffic
How to handle road rage
Social media & technology
How to observe mobile phone etiquette
How to respond to online gossip
How to untag yourself from a Facebook photo
How to extricate yourself from Facebook
How to get more followers on Twitter
How to observe online dating etiquette
Work
How to work smart not hard
How to blitz an interview
How to ask for a pay rise
How to get more from a business meeting
How to recover from an email faux pas
How to deal with a loud co-worker
How to give negative feedback
How to disagree with your boss
How to respond to radio silence
A final word
Introduction
A movie critic once wrote the reason he chose his occupation was not because he was an expert on movies but because he had a passion for them not shared by many other people.
It’s the same for me with giving advice. It may not always have been solicited, but my passion for giving it has never waned. I consider it a Reilly family gift – handed down from generation to generation.
My grandfather once approached a successful AFL player to tell him he would be better off playing Rugby League. My father, too, was famous for doling out the occasional hard truth – for which his justification was always, ‘If I don’t tell you, nobody else will.’
But if that was Dad’s motto, my mum’s was: ‘Before you judge someone, walk a mile in their shoes.’ And luckily some of Mum’s compassion moderated the more, some might say, ‘tough love’ tendencies of my compulsive advising.
By my 20s, I found myself the Agony Aunt not just for my friends, but for my sister’s friends, and their friends - and so on. My boss called me ‘Miss Manners’ with only a hint of irony. And for that, I sent her a thank you note.
I knew things had reached a whole new level when a person I’d just met asked for career advice. ‘Well, Sally—’ I began. ‘It’s Sophie,’ she said, ‘but go on.’
And so, when the opportunity arose to write a book about all the things people should know these days, I jumped at it. My aim is to give you up-to-date information on everything from modern manners to lessons on life.
These opinions are not off the top of my head, but have been painstakingly researched, for which I’d like to thank Google and the myriad lessons in my own life, which I’ve had to learn the hard way.
Throughout this book you may notice a few recurring themes, like the fact that when people behave badly, it’s usually because they’re scared; and that being the bigger bloke is often its own reward. These are guidelines I try to live by (albeit imperfectly), and you should find they’ll see you through almost every situation.
Other than that, my advice is to cherry-pick what works for you. Some of what I have to say might be a little hard to swallow, but advice without truth is merely trite. And while truthful advice runs the risk of offending, it’s a risk, dear reader, I’m willing to take. Because, as my father said, if I don’t tell you ...
Life lessons
How to be happy
We’re always encouraged to do what makes us happy, but the catch is that what we think will make us happy and what actually makes us happy are often wildly contradictory. Besides which, a little bit of pessimism is actually good for you – it’s unrealistic to expect to be happy all the time.
If you’ve been down in the dumps for months now, or you’ve lost a loved one or your job, or you’ve broken