The Secret Codes

By Diamond Ola Walker

This Book takes a comprehensive or 360 degrees look at relationships. If you're looking for the partner of your dreams, you will find very essential and useful tips to guide you toward a successful outcome –in your quest for the love of your life! Finding the dream partner is a mental thing and you need to be mentally prepared for it. Mental preparation involves being in the right frame of mind and the essence of this book is to let you realize that your success will depend largely on your mental state, how you prepare for the most important and lasting decision in your life. Success will only happen when preparation meets opportunity. The book unravels the secrets behind tensions and lack of understanding between men and women. Many relationships have broken up as a result of this singular fact. You will find answers to several questions agitating the minds of that someone searching for true happiness. These questions include, how do you love someone if you don’t understand such an individual? How do you find happiness if you and your partners don’t understand each other? How could build a lasting relationship if there is a lack understand? How do you make your partner happy if you don’t know what he or she wants? Have you ever wondered why women were so hard to understand? I did! Until I found the key! I call it "The Master Key" or the “Secret Code”. Meeting and understanding women are easy once you have the know-how! There are a few different tricks and insights that make it so much easier to meet, understand, and interact with beautiful and amazing women and love your wife or girlfriend completely. "The art of loving a woman completely or keeping a man loyal to you forever" is now possible with the techniques in this book.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Diamond Ola Walker
• Release date: Dec 19, 2020
• ISBN: 9781005878689

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THE SECRET CODES: A MUST HAVE FOR ANYONE LOOKING FOR PROVEN STRATEGIES FOR FINDING THE RIGHT PARTNER AND DISCOVERING THE KEYS TO LASTING HAPPINESS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP (THE PSYCHOANALYSIS OF RELATIONSHIP)

Diamond Ola WALKER

© Diamond Ola Walker

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, communicated or transmitted in any form or b any means without prior written permission.

Creator: WALKER, Diamond Ola

Title: The Secret Codes: A Must Have For Anyone Looking For Proven Strategies For Finding The Right Partner And Discovering The Keys To Lasting Happiness In Any Relationship (The Psychoanalysis Of Relationship)

CHAPTER ONE

FINDING YOUR DREAM PARTNER

If you're looking for the partner of your dreams, here are useful tips to guide you toward a successful outcome – in your quest to find the love of your life! Finding the dream partner is a mental thing and you need to be mentally prepared for it. Mental preparation involves being the right frame of mind and the essence of this book is to let your realize that your success will depend largely on your mental state, how you prepare for the most important and lasting decision in your life. Success will only happen when preparation meets opportunity. We will now examine some of things you need to do in order to be prepared.

WRITE YOU DESIRE DOWN

This may sound crazy, but before you can find your dream match, you need to determine what that match is. By this, I mean a full description of the traits you want them to have, the basics of appearance, types of interests, hobbies, etc. It is a known fact that to achieve your goals, you must first clearly define and write them down. Goal-oriented coaches have been saying this for over 50 years. Why should you do things differently? Do you need to do it differently or be any different when it comes to finding the partner of your dreams? As for why, you have to write the details, very simple. It helps you focus on what you're looking for and when you meet a potential partner, but you're just not 100% sure if it's right for you or not, just take your list and see where they match up and where they don't.

BE REALISTIC

This could end up being one of the most difficult to deal with when looking for a dream mate. We all have these preconceptions about what kind of partner we would want (i.e. wealthy, attractive as a movie star, no baggage, etc.), but we also need to keep two things in mind. First of all, no one is perfect. No one is! So if you expect your match to be perfect, then you might as well stop looking as you will only be disappointed. On the other hand, someone can be perfect for you, and there is a massive difference between the two. The second thing to keep in mind is that just because you've met someone perfect for you does not mean they think you're perfect for them! You will also face this problem, and soon because otherwise, it will get ugly very quickly. For example (extreme example, that's true), let's say you are a 62-year-old man or woman who is unhealthy, in bad shape, smokes, drinks a lot and is financially unwell. Now you might want to buy a gorgeous 22-year-old hottie who will fulfill all of your fantasies, but let's be honest. The possibility of that occurring is very minimal or non-existent. The likelihood of that happening is extremely low or nonexistent. Just don't go well with the chocolate, so you have to be (somewhat) realistic. You should understand that a mutual feeling by both parties is critical to building a relationship. You need to be on the same page, Period!

HAVE POSITIVE EXPECTATIONS

After the second point (be realistic), you may have decided to give up and never try again. Well, that brings us to the next point, namely that you also have to be optimistic about finding someone. If you are in the market long enough and are actively looking (instead of staying home and watching TV and waiting for your perfect match to come off the street and knock on your door), you will meet some great people. Some of which will be good odds. In the case of a close friend, after his divorce (and subsequent divorce) in 2011, he finally got back into the dating scene, but wasn't fortunate for at least six months. Every time he met someone, it didn't seem to go well, and he almost gave up a lot. Over time, however, he managed to meet some nice women, and eventually (about two years later) he met a wonderful person, and we finally fell in love. She was a new person who turned out to be the right one for him, and it would never have happened if he had given up after the first few disastrous dates. There is a classic cliché that is so true; it needs to be repeated here: You get what you expect! In other words, if you hope to meet the partner of your dreams and develop a good relationship with them, it will eventually happen. On the other hand, if you don't expect to meet the partner of your dreams and end up together, that will happen. It's your choice, which is excellent news IF you understand what I just said.

CLEAN UP YOUR ACT

To be the person your dream partner is looking for, you must first be the best you can be. This means that you may have to work on yourself. Are you so fit, healthy and looking your best? If not, are you ready to work on it? Dress well and make sure your hair looks good, your teeth are cleaned and even gargled with mouthwash because no one wants to go out with breathing halitosis! Nobody is physically perfect. Hell, I should know. I am overweight and could lose some pounds. Still, when I am dating, I dress well, always shower, shave, brush my teeth and even wear a small amount of high-quality cologne (my favourite poison is Ralph Lauren's Romance Silver), to make sure I present myself in the best possible light. Nothing turns off a potential partner like you who looks scruffy, wears un-ironed clothes, and has made no effort. You don't have to buy a lot of expensive clothes for this either. I believe most of my clothes from KMart or Target because I am not a designer clothes buyer, and they are not fancy, but the prices are reasonable, and the clothes are usually beautiful. If you don't have a sense of fashion, bribe a friend who has a few to go with and help you pick a nice outfit or two.

GET OUT AND MEET PEOPLE

The funniest thing I noticed about people who want to find a partner but haven't is that they usually stay at home and never go out to meet new people. The date of your dreams isn't going to knock on the door one night and beg you to go out with her, get off the couch, clean up, and go out and meet new people. Where and how depends on your personal preferences. Myself - I hate pubs and clubs so I would never trust those places as a way to meet a potential mate. On the other hand, you might like places like that. If so, great! Make sure you go somewhere that can attract the kind of people you want to meet. If