Marriage and Race: Bloom Blessings by Building Bridges

By Hazera Begum

This essay focuses on the marriage process undertaken by millions of Muslims across the globe. It highlights evident issues that have arisen/are arising that must be discussed in a mature, respectful manner between the elders and youth in our global community to bridge communication and generation gaps. This is a reminder to myself first and then to you, dear reader.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Hazera Begum
• Release date: Aug 28, 2020
• ISBN: 9781005413965

Hazera Begum

Hazera Begum is a British Muslim of Asian descent. A Bengali raised in UK.She writes the words she cannot openly speak. She considers herself blessed to work with the youth in her day to day life. She has a passionate interest in the human condition and the self. A lover of literature across time, cultures and geographical zones.Her works mainly focus on identity, gender and societal issues. The purpose of her written works is to InshaAllah (God willing), increase community contemplation in order to:Sustain consideration and compassion for each other.Improve our communication and cohesion with each other.Strive to make kindness the essence of our world.

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Marriage and Race: Bloom Blessings by Building Bridges

Hazera Begum.

Marriage and Race: Bloom Blessings by Building Bridges

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Acknowledgments

Praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds, for my very existence, for His endless love and care and for sending our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as a role model for us all. Alhamdulillah. Thank you, Allah, for everything.

Special thanks goes to my parents for raising me and caring for me. May Allah have mercy on you both. Ameen.

Thank you to my beloved friend and sister, H no.1, for encouraging and supporting me to publicise this message widely.

Thank you to my little brother for helping me with technical difficulties. Love you, Shunu.

Thank you, Smashwords, for the tools to make this possible. Amazing.

Last but in no way least, thank you to Mufti Menk for your videos and reminders online. Much of the goodness within me I have learnt from you. Thank you, Uncle Mufti Menk, for all that you continue to teach me.

Contents

Preface

My situation

Marrying for passports

Social stigma of divorce

Mutual attraction

Origin and racism

Double standards of the male and female

Parental pressure causing wrong intentions of marriage

Parent-child communication

Spouse searching and online perils

Hijab for her and him

Etiquette of communication

Our new family members – Revert Muslims

Pressure on females

Pleasing Allah or pleasing society?

What can we do?

Preface

Salaam. May peace and Allah’s mercy and blessings be upon you.

The following message focuses on the marriage process undertaken by millions of Muslims across the globe and the evident issues that have arisen/are arising that must be discussed in a mature, respectful manner between the elders and youth in our global community. Where I have addressed parents I am also addressing any guardians who may have raised/looked after a child up to their adulthood and are their responsible elder.

Please add on issues I have forgotten or not come across as I am sure I have not listed all the problems people are facing today in various cultures across a global scale regarding marriage. In parts I will be discussing specific issues faced by Bengalis (Indians and Pakistanis may be able to relate more as we come from very similar desi upbringings) but I know these issues remain irrespective of race and sex.

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