Dating & Marriage Diaries in Urban India
By Sahil Thaker
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• Well researched and backed by hard evidence
• The critical role of money in any relationship
• The role caste and horoscope matching plays in marriage decisions in India
• Why physical beauty is not everything
• How one should stop getting bothered by one’s dark or dusky complexion and start feeling better about oneself by investing in fitness and grooming
• Why habits such as smoking, drugs and excessive drinking can be far more destructive to your dating and married life than you think
• How you can think logically and rationally when it comes to choosing a spouse
• The devastating effects of dowry on Indian women and society
• Over 30 practical and life changing tips on dating and marriage
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The History of Dating and Marriage In India
Dating is a word which is relatively new to India. Historically and especially in the absence of internet, dating (or the absence of it) used to be a fairly straight forward affair. Parents, relatives, extended family, panditji (priest) etc. would look for prospective brides and grooms in the community and introduce the two families. Once horoscope would match the arranged marriage would be fixed. The guy and the girl would probably be given less than an hour to talk and decide if they wanted to marry or not. In many cases they would just say yes if their parents told them to.
Fast forward to modern urban India. The entire dynamics have changed. Extended and joint families have become a minority. Most people in urban India aged under 30 either have just one sibling or none. Women have become a lot more independent, educated and working at well-paying jobs. Yet it has become increasingly difficult for young people to find suitable spouses. You might be working in the same office but in different departments with no chances of even meeting each other.
Proliferation of online dating sites can open huge new possibilities for meeting people whom you would have never otherwise met. You are able to narrow down your searches based on every imaginable parameter such as height, income, complexion, religion, caste and even sub caste! You can be a guy sitting in Pune and still be able to connect with a beautiful girl in Bangalore. In normal situations you would have never even met this girl, let alone be able to talk to her.
Since I have lived in Mumbai only all of my life and in the USA for about six years, I have zero idea about how finding a spouse works in rural and semi urban parts of India. Over the years, I used to keep a handwritten diary of my interactions with various girls as I was looking for a spouse. Inspiration struck and I decided to write this book. Hence the title of this book Dating and Marriage Diaries in Urban India
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The Types of Girls You Will Meet Online
Online matrimonial sites expose you to a large number and types of girls whom you would not have met otherwise through usual channels. The usual channels I am referring to are family, friends, co-workers and college/university. It has been overwhelming at times but nevertheless an interesting experience. While it is impossible for me to cover every single type of girl you will ever meet, I have tried to group them into types which I most commonly came across.
I personally do not judge any of these girls but just lay the true facts before you, the reader of this book. You are free to draw your own conclusions.
The Ugly
I am not just referring to physical beauty (although that is a part of it too). This type of girl usually has the following characteristics.
She is almost always overweight or obese.
Has no sense of dress. Her photos usually make you feel as if you should just stay single for the rest of your life rather than even think about her.
Her hair is uncombed or in a bad shape.
None of her photos show her smiling, happy or cheerful.
The profile is incomplete with absolutely no sentences regarding themselves, what their background is, what their expectations are etc.
The sentences (if any) are full of spelling mistakes with no proper grammar.
I admit some obesity might be due to genetic or other factors but such cases are very rare. Most obesity is caused only due to lack of regular exercise and unhealthy diet. Women do gain weight with age and during pregnancy and I have no problems with that. I feel that 20 something women (and men too!) must be in the best shape of their lives.
Most people simply fail to grasp the serious long term effects of excess weight. Overweight and obesity can cause or exacerbate pre-existing conditions such as high blood pressure, heart diseases and diabetes. Women can also have additional risks of osteoporosis and osteoarthritis because of excess weight and poor diet.
If you are overweight or obese the chances of having overweight or obese children is increased significantly. Childhood obesity has become a serious public health issue in the United States of America. China (which has a one child policy) has also seen a big rise in childhood obesity. The only children of their parents who are called little emperor
or little empress
tend to be quite overweight or obese.[1] One can only imagine what will be the health of these children a few years down the road unless some serious corrective action is taken soon.
Key tip: Girls (and guys too!) should have a smiling and pleasing personality. It is important to invest in your own health and fitness.
The VISA Queen
No, I am not talking about the VISA credit or debit card, but about girls who sole ambition in life is to find a guy who is living in USA, Canada, Australia or UK. She has scant interest in you, but tries to be with you so that she can get that coveted