Sex ... Naturally!

By Javier Akerman

In this work, among others, you will know: 

How to make organic sex toys.

How to get the most out of tantric sex.

Kama-Sutra for Westerners. 

Food and meals to enhance sexual desire. 

Male and female masturbation techniques. 

Gym-sex, gymnastics to enhance sexuality. 

How to avoid STDs.

Keys to understanding sex in all ages. 

“Javier Ajerman has known how to include in Sex … Naturally!” all the components that make this work a practical, entertaining manual full of advice that will delight the reader, in the literal sense of the word. It has surprised me, I assure you, at the same time that it has made me smile in many chapters, because sex and laughter are, in the author’s words “a sure path to shared happiness.” Said Silvia Fominaya on the prologue. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Cydonia
• Release date: Jun 4, 2020
• ISBN: 9781071551059

Book preview

CHAPTER ONE

MITHS AND THRUTS ABOUT SEX.

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Sexuality is an intrinsic part of ourselves, and it is linked with all human culture. We can discuss it in a carefree, moralistic, theological, medical, political, or anthropologist way, but we cannot deny it or hide forever. The erotic pulsations accompany us all our life, providing us with exquisite moments of pleasure or even with unpleasant, traumatic situations. Sex does not represent a trivial matter, and flags of all kinds have been raised around it. In this book, I don't pretend to justify any theory and less to create a new thinking rush. My sole intention is to show those sexual facets that determine sex an exquisite game of pleasure and undress the sexuality of these contradictory and irreconcilable extremes. Sex is humor, creativity, pleasure, spirituality, and self-discovery. It brings us closer to others and shares a pleasant vital experience. However, like all human activities, it also requires an adequate dose of responsibility and maturity. For example, we cannot forget the sexually transmitted diseases (STD) and also cultivate wholesome respect for our intimate partner. When I talk of respect, I refer to an ethical and psychological position, not a moral one. Moral principles and theological perspective would remain a separate topic of discussion.

We need to approach sex with knowledge, maturity, and eager to master. The limit is dictated by sanity and the absolute respect of the dignity of people. Who are free to opine, decide, and act, as long as they do not harm anyone.

As we have learned to eat to live healthily, we must also learn to use sex with knowledge.

Sex, love, and neurosciences.

Sex and love represent the ideal and sublime union of the couple, the desired goal. However, it does not have to manifest it like this. There can be love without sex and sex without love. What we should not do is to compulsively seek an idea or fall into the pathological addiction that destroys our life. An article in the magazine The Journal of Neurophysiology, researchers from the United States argued that romantic love is a biological impulse different from genital arousal. Researchers claim passionate love is closer to impulses like hunger, thirst, or drug addiction than emotional states like excitation or affection. The research explains why love produces those crazy emotions that go from euphoria to rage and anxiety and why it is even more intense when it is over. Doctor Fisher, Anthropologies of the University Rutgers and co-author of the research said, When someone is in the clutches of this passionate love is irrational, goes to the gym at six in the morning. Why?Why is he or she there? And when someone is rejected, can conclude up harassing his beloved and propelling him to execute or even suicide. This compulsion towards passionate love may be stronger than the willingness to live.To Dr. Hans Breiter, Director of the Motivation and Emotion Neuroscience Collaboration at Massachusetts General Hospital, This study moves the board in terms of understanding the romantic emotion. Researchers equally found distinctive differences between their group, based on the time that has elapsed since the beginning of the tender relationship. Compared to those in their initial weeks of love; those who had spent more than a year together showed significant activity in a brain area linked to a lifelong commitment.

As Benedict Carey published in The New York Times, Living all this at once while you are in love, tangled with emotions and deeper brain areas. Inevitably, the activity in those areas calms down and the brain circuits related to the passion remain intact until a new love cross path.

In Spain, the geneticist researcher David Bueno said that the biochemical reactions that a person’s body undergoes when they are in infatuation help to improve the state of health and contribute to strengthening their immune system. Dr. Bueno has scientifically proven everything begins with a first phase crush phase, where the body segregates sexual hormones called pheromones that contribute to looking up into someone. In the second phase, dopamines are activated that ensures the attraction towards that person. Bueno said, The mechanisms put in place during infatuation are the same as those that activate when a person becomes ‘addicted’ to some substance.So he said, love is an addiction.

Dr. Josep Maria Farré from The University Institute Dexeus ensures that passion last between two and four years, although he pointed out that it is possible to renew it with what he called the 'chaste perversion,' which implicates satisfying mutual diversions that at the end is the purpose of this book. Farré explained there exist persons who cannot tolerate living without passion, even when the natural steps are to pass from passionate love to intimate love with the years.Later you can even experience a 'state of bliss,' in which people are 'placid and calm.' The same state that people experiment after sexual activity, added Dr. Farré.

Neuroscience shows that love is stronger than sex, but sex can be the perfect match so love lasts in time. Sex without love? Food without salt? It is like everything, a matter of taste and personal opinions.

Ageless sex.

Sex does not have a birthday. I would like everyone to remember that phrase. On the 'golden age,' you can enjoy sex and give this stage of life a new boost, far from scoff and absurd myths. Erotic desire does not end with white hair, nor should we look with terror at the pass of the years nor associate it with sexual decadency.

Men's aging is related to among other fears with erectile dysfunction, a problem that by the way, contains a medical solution. Sex does not have to focus exclusively on penetrations, as we are going to see in this book. For women, fears, like decreased vaginal lubrication at menopause, and especially feeling unattractive, leads to loss of self-esteem, which affects sexual response.

For the researcher, Elizabeth Badinter, the implication and sexual joy of elder people, is one of the psychological reasons that explain the surprising prolongation of life in the last decades. Badinter said, when considering the sexuality inside the personal freedom and not on the social morality, the people can prevent numerous and significant frustrations, that as we know, weaken and accelerate the aging, as well as dead. As we see, sex can remain an ally at maturity that not only increase life quality but also can prolong it.

Sex does not completely represent a matter of youth. Not even hormones. Sex is the willingness of action, a desire of discovering new existential aspects, and an open model that demystifies stale and obsolete gender roles. Sex in the elderly can be a source or pleasant surprises that open a door to further dimensions. Sex can and should be 'degenitalized. The reproductive organ is the entire body, with the mind, emotions, and motivations.

International statistics have shown that 60% of people older than 65 years old can be qualified as sexually as active.' Plus, a third of those over 80 years old maintain a more active intimate life. It was equally found that healthier people practice more sex.

Sex and hearth.

Myocardial infarction and heart disease do not represent a reason to prevent intimate sexual relations. The chance of death during intercourse is extremely reduced. According to the investigation of Dr. Eusebio Rubio of the IV Congress in Cuba of Education, Orientation, and Sexual Therapy, frequent sexual intercourse can decrease until 50% of the chances of suffering any coronary disease in men of more than 40 years old. The study covered a sample of 915 men between 45 and 59 years old and reached revealing conclusions. One of the shocking ones was that Dr. Rubio achieved to prove that a greater number of orgasms, the less possibility of suffering cardiac or cerebrovascular diseases.

Another study placed in Japan showed that of 5.559 cases of sudden deaths, only 34 of them had a cardiac origin and occurred during intercourse, with the peculiarity that 27 of those deaths occurred in intimate relations with a different partner than usual. In those cases, it is estimated that factors like guilt, the desire 'to look good,' and more likely the existence of previous food and alcoholic beverages may influence, such as tobacco and other abuses like taking a 'double dose' of sexual stimulants.

If you are under any medicine subscription-like nitroglycerin patches, do not take it away during intercourse. You can place it in an area that does not distribute you (arm or abdomen). In any case, if you note any unusual symptom (dizziness, irregular palpitations, choke) during intercourse, cease it and go to the doctor. If a similar chest pain appears related to a cardiovascular episode, stop it and take the medicine that your doctor prescribes you. If you have to take any medicine that contains nitrates or nitric oxygen derivatives, you should not take sildenafil (Viagra or derivatives) unless your cardiologist or doctor allows it.

Medical reasons for active sexuality.

Sex can be a valuable aid to medicine. When drugs often fail, sex can become an effective medicine. Do you not believe it? Here are some scientific researchers and results:

Sex helps you stay fit, you can burn 600 calories, and even more on a sexual relationship. It is one of the most complete exercises that exist because you use all the body muscles.

Sex helps to curse mild depressions and anxiety because it actives endorphin's through the blood system, which produces a pleasing euphoria sensation and wellness. A sexual encounter helps increase self-esteem too.

An active sexual body segregates more pheromones, identified as the attraction hormone. Making love relieves nervous tension by eliminating panic and anxiety, so you will be less irritable and will carry the daily routine better. During sex, women produce twice of estrogen, the hormone that helps maintain a silkier skin and shiner hair. Furthermore, it delays the process of osteoporosis and protects against hypertension.

Sex is fun, exciting, and free. Frequent intercourse improves psychophysicist performance, and it is a way of sensitizing ourselves with life. Dr. Alexander Lowen, Director of The International Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis of New York and author of Love, Sex, and your Hearth said, No one can deny that healing through sexual intercourse is a proven fact.

Given all these advantages, what are we waiting for?

Does size matter?

In 1672 Reiner Graaf, a world-renowned anatomist, wrote, The woman’s vagina, in fact, is so cleverly constructed that it will accommodate itself to each and every penis; it will go out meeting a short one, retire before a lengthy one, dilate for a plump one, and constrict for a thin one. Nature has taken account of every variety of penis and so there is no need to solicit a scabbard the identical size as your knife. Wise words that we can make ours in the XXI century. Let's keep in mind that most of the pleasure comes with the clitoris and is achieved with external stimulation of the vagina, where the greatest number of sensitive and erogenous points of women meet. I already made a point that we have to ‘degenitalize’ sex.

The only thing that will provide an oversized penis is greater security for men, and in some cases, a huge scare to the women. In the case of a vagina that is too dilated congenitally or because she has had more than two births, she may lose vaginal elasticity, reducing intimate satisfaction. For this, you can benefit from exercises to tone the vaginal muscles, described in this book. In extreme cases, it can be a surgical procedure that consists of resecting two fragments on the side of the vaginal mucous to narrow it.

A piece of advice to men, do not use