Sex 2.0

By Crisman Cooley

A manual for couples, from the male perspective, to increase their pleasure as they raise their consciousness through sex. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tribd
• Release date: Jan 12, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386740872

Book preview

Will This Book Waste Your Time?

Sex 2.0 is a major upgrade. It gives you massive pleasure unattainable with our culture’s previous version, Sex 1.0—but if you want the pleasure, you’re going to have to work at it.

As an adult, you’ve likely spent years disciplining yourself to get up in the morning and go to work and receive money in exchange for your efforts. Are you willing to expend a fraction of this effort to receive a multiplied reward in the form of pleasure? Will you work for ecstasy?

If so, here’s a comparison of thirteen benefits you get as a result of upgrading to Sex 2.0.

1. Duration: 180x increase

Sex 1.0: Orgasms last a few seconds.

vs.

Sex 2.0: Orgasms last 30 minutes or more.

2. Location: 20x increase

Sex 1.0: Orgasms last a few seconds.

vs.

Sex 2.0: Orgasms last 30 minutes or more. That’s a 180x increase in duration.

3. Simultaneity: 18x increase (minimum)

Sex 1.0: You rarely (if ever) come with your partner.

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Sex 2.0: You can have simultaneous orgasms with your partner 95+% of the time—a 95x increase, depending on skill level.

4. Certainty / Frequency: 2x – 10x increase

Sex 1.0: Sex is unplanned, occasional—it only happens when the mood strikes and becomes more rare during times of conflict. 

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Sex 2.0: Sex is scheduled, usually 1-2+ times per week, conflict or no—a 5x increase.

5. Hormonal Levels:

Sex 1.0:Love chemicals oxytocin & endorphin are minimal—less in times of conflict.[1]

vs.

Sex 2.0: Love chemicals oxytocin & endorphin are maximized—conflict or no.[2]

6. Love Bond:

Sex 1.0:Only a weak love bond is created by sex. Love fades. Trust is minimal.[3]

vs.

Sex 2.0: Love Superglue created. Love and trust are maximal.[4]

7. Stress Levels: reduction

Sex 1.0:High stress levels unaffected by sex.[5]

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Sex 2.0: Stress levels reduced.[6]

8.  DHEA: increase

Sex 1.0:Decline of hormone dehydroepiandrostone (DHEA) as a natural consequence of aging leads to reduced immune system function, poor tissue repair, worsened cognition, wrinkled skin, higher incidence of depression.[7]

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Sex 2.0: DHEA levels are maximized, leading to improved immune system function, better tissue repair, improved cognition, healthier skin and antidepressant effects.[8]

9. Erectile Dysfunction: 2x decrease

Sex 1.0:Men: Erectile dysfunction 2x more common.[9]

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Sex 2.0: Erectile dysfunction cut by more than 50%, a 2x increase in erectile potency.[10]

10. Prostate Cancer Susceptibility: decrease

Sex 1.0:Men: May have higher risk of prostate cancer.[11]

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Sex 2.0: Reduced risk of prostate cancer possible.[12]

11. Habituation: decrease

Sex 1.0:Sex is habitual.

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Sex 2.0: Sex is a conscious act increasing aliveness.

12. Sacredness: increase

Sex 1.0:Sex is profane; no spiritual component.

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Sex 2.0: Sex is sacred.

13. Consciousness: increase

Sex 1.0:Level of unconsciousness unaffected by sex.

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Sex 2.0: Sex is a means of spiritual awakening.

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So, there it is.

Do you want a massive pleasure upgrade? Even though it means you’ll also have much better health?

Sex 2.0 gives you both. The health benefits of an active sex life have been reported in the American Journal of Medicine and the American Medical Association and elsewhere. By combining Self-Pleasuring rituals to your regular weekly partner lovemaking, you control how many orgasms you have per week—and that can help men increase prostate health and erectile potency. By having a more active sex life, men and women both experience numerous health benefits that are documented in prestigious medical journals. By including scheduled Temple times, Sex 2.0 helps ensure that you can enjoy these benefits—even during times of stress and conflict.

Instead of a brief orgasm lasting only a few seconds, you can achieve 30+ Minute Orgasms for two—and you can easily come simultaneously if you wish.

But even more importantly, with a practice of Sex 2.0 you are more likely to have a long and fulfilling relationship. Not only can you overcome conflict as a matter of course through your Sex 2.0 practice, you can often turn a conflict into an ecstatic lovefest. Instead of ending the day angry and irritated at each other, you’re busy making Love Superglue. (This is what your body manufactures while you’re having your 30-Minute Orgasms.) I cannot tell you how many times my wife and I have overcome arguments and pissy moods by having amazing sex.

Finally, a practice of Sex 2.0 can be a path to higher states of consciousness. I call this sexual awakening. Aliveness and sensual pleasure become part of your everyday experience. It’s a powerful antidote to a stressful lifestyle.

The practices in this book naturally lead to these benefits. You will receive them as a bonus for your hard work just by following the instructions in this book and practicing. If these benefits appeal to you and you’re willing to work for them, this book will not waste your time.

Knowledge of Sex: Disclaimer

I do not claim to be a sex expert. I have no professional training in it. In fact, I claim to know nothing about sex. Except what I do know. And what I know is nothing more or less than what I’ve experienced. This is like saying: I don’t know the beach. But I know this one grain of sand.

That’s it. I claim to know one grain of sand. Now if you look carefully at this grain of sand with me, you will see some interesting things. Some features will be quite similar to the grain of sand that you know. Other features will be different. Sometimes dramatically different.

Probably the biggest difference between our two grains of sand is not the sand itself, but how we look at them. Meaning, I look at sand in a way that’s different from the way you look at it. That actually changes what each of us sees when looking at a grain of sand—and therefore, what we each know about it.

Do you notice your mind attempting to refute what I’m saying? Allow me to agree with your mind on this: I have no idea what you know or don’t know about sex. Are you willing to have a beginner’s mind? Are you willing—rather than defending—to open your mind to the possibility of a new idea? If not, let’s shake and part friends. If so, read on. 

Part of the reason I’m making this rather obvious disclaimer is that I am a human being and so are you. And wherever two or more human beings are gathered together, they make a status hierarchy. In the case of sex, it may be especially ferocious. You (especially if you’re a heterosexual male) may feel compelled to assert your knowledge and status because you are competing for females in the tribe.

Fine. If you’re male, I may be able to give you some advantages that may make you much more powerfully attractive to female humans. My experience indicates that women love to receive pleasure, especially when delivered at a feminine pace. When you give a woman more pleasure than she’s ever felt before, she will show you favor. Other women will notice and—without ever having experienced this advantage from you—will begin acting toward you as if they know that you confer this advantage. When a group of women prefer you, your status in a social group goes up.

If you are a woman, I can show you the specific knowledge a man needs to have in order to give you all the pleasure you can stand.

Often people feel the need to add to their status by spending time and money investing in their education and receiving accreditation in the form of letters after their name—especially PhD or, even more impressively, MD. That’s especially true when it comes to books about sex. I affirm that these writers do know what they do know. They know what they learned in school, plus what they actually experienced. If they are practicing clinicians, they will have learned from their clients’ experience too. Over years, that can add up to a lot of experience.

I have no letters after my name. If that fact makes you lose confidence in me and conclude that I know nothing that is of value to you then you may decide to stop reading. I hope not.

Letters after a name can never give you pleasure. They may give you confidence. Or status. Or respect. Or credit from an authority. Or all of these. These are benefits people love to have. But letters after a name cannot give pleasure—or the knowledge of pleasure. And that is my currency in trade. I know how to give and receive pleasure. I am not claiming any other skill or ability.

Chapter 1. A New Map of Sex

To convey my experience in the commerce of pleasure, I will need to impart to you what I think sex is. I’m not claiming that this is what sex is; only what it is from my perspective. That’s the purpose of this chapter: to map out my grain of sand. In the process, I will use reliable data that others have gathered on the subject.

Here are a few coordinates to help us get oriented:

•  Humans (and other species) are specialized into male and female (and intersex, of which there are many surprising varieties) each known as a sex. That distinction is fundamental, but it isn’t what I mean by sex.

•  Sexual reproduction combines male gametes (sperm) and female gametes (ova) to produce new offspring. That biological function also isn’t what I mean by sex.

•  I am a man (not a woman and not intersex).

•  I am heterosexual (not bisexual or homosexual).

•  I am father to two daughters by my wife.

•  Out of more than two thousand times of having partner sex, no more than two dozen have been for the purpose of having children.

•  By sex, I mean intimate bodily contact for the purpose of pleasure.

For reasons that will be obvious from the above list channeled through my commitment to remain inside the domain of my experience, this book is about heterosexual practice with one partner for the purpose of pleasure.

How This Book Is Organized

Some people may wonder why this book doesn’t jump in immediately about sexual positions and techniques and practices. It is organized this way for a very specific reason that I will describe, so you won’t be confused or disappointed.

Sex as a Journey

Sex 2.0 is like a journey. If you were going to go on a long journey, would the first step be to open the door, go outside and start walking? No. That would be rash and ridiculous. First, you need to know where you’re going. You need a map showing where you are and where you’re headed. Second, you need to know which provisions to take with you to make your trip more pleasant and successful. Third, you need to prepare yourself for physical demands the journey may make on your health. Fourth, you need to make logistical arrangements. Fifth, you need to rehearse in your mind all the steps involved in the journey to make sure you know how to begin, how to proceed and how to end. Sixth, you begin the journey, traveling to your destination. Seventh, you travel around the destination and return home. Those seven steps are exactly the same as the seven chapters of this book.

Sex as a Sport

Another way of thinking about sex is as a sport. If so, it’s one most people play very poorly. Perhaps the reason they play poorly is that they never thought of it in terms of improvable performance. Yet there are learnable skills in sex; and, to that extent, this book is about upping your game.

One of the most famous sport performance books ever was called The Inner Game of Tennis.[13]  This book changed the game of writing sport books because it took something that all tennis players know—that tennis has a very important though commonly overlooked mental component—and made it explicit. After this book, everyone knew that all sports have an inner game and outer game. The old paradigm of only trying to change your objective results—that is, of being 100% outer game focused—came to a sudden end. The era of envisioning, the inner game, began.

The same is true of sex: the inner game is essential. In this book, I focus at least half the pages on mental preparation: mindsets, emotions and envisioning—the inner game of sex. This is how you think and feel about sex, your whole internal orientation to the topic. So don’t rush over these pages or skip to the practices. That would be a return to the failed outer game focus. You need both inner game and outer game.

My favorite quote from Inner Game could well be the mantra of Sex 2.0: The player of the inner game comes to value the art of relaxed concentration above all other skills...

In the Chapters focusing on Outer Game (such as Chapters 3, 6 and 7), you will read, then take physical action. Be mindful when you read these pages with your partner to richly envision yourselves taking the actions successfully. This is how you inform your body of what you’ll be doing. And this will give you the best chance of creating a rich and successful Sex 2.0 practice.

Sex as Jazz

We’ve spoken about sex as a journey and sex as a sport. Don’t take this literally. Both of these metaphors break down. Because ultimately sex has no destination—it is a pure state of ecstatic being. And there are no winners or losers and (truly) no performance. Sex is pure play. Pure experimentation. Pure being. Yet there are skills that can be practiced and levels of mastery that can be attained. For these reasons, perhaps the ultimate metaphor is that sex is an art. And not just any art—sex is purely for the pleasure of the players. Perhaps it could be a classical duet. But, because it involves improvisation, mastery, timing, deep relaxation and development of personal style, the ultimate metaphor for sex is a private jazz jam session for two.

The Role of Love In Sex 2.0

It is useful and orienting to consider what role love plays in Sex 2.0.  Specifically, I ask: How does love integrate in Sex 2.0? What form of