On Love: Thoughts on Loving, Grieving, and Believing

By Jun Carnecer

When you're in love, the bird sings better and suddenly every other love song is about you. But what if love has been lost or if you've only known the pain of being alone?

This book tries to share thoughts on some of the nagging questions about love.

• What do you do when your partner dies?
• Can you die of a broken heart?
• Why are you still single?
• Why do beautiful women fall for "ugly" men?
• What do you do when your husband cheats?
• How do you know if someone's loyal?
• Is your smell powerful enough to attract a mate?
• And more...

Read on and hopefully find answers to these questions.

• Language: English
• Publisher: jcarnecer
• Release date: May 26, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393592983

Jun Carnecer

Jun has spent his career in tech and startups. His first novel was about a samurai fantasy set in Japan's Satsuma Rebellion in the 1870s.

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Copyright © 2020 by Jun Carnecer

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This is a work of fiction and is the product of the author’s imagination. Except for the advice section where it involves real scenarios, and the mention of well-known personalities, any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental. In the event that an essay is based on an actual incident or person, pertinent details have been altered to hide the parties’ identity.

Most of the pieces in this book first appeared as posts in the author’s now inactive blog on love and relationships.

For Stella

Introduction

For whatever reason, people have always asked me for advise about relationships. Maybe it’s my ability to listen. Maybe it’s the sanctity I hold for  secrets. Maybe my advise makes sense. Or maybe they just wanted to share their thoughts to someone who doesn’t judge them.

Regardless of the reason, I’ve found myself thinking about the dynamics of relationships. And two years ago, I started writing about them.  These are some of the entries that resonated with people.

What Do You Do When Your Partner Dies?

In a long, loving relationship, there will be many exciting, giddy moments. And maybe this thought has struck you: You’d probably be spending the rest of your life with this person. Happily.

But what if death has other plans and takes your beloved away?

Whether death was sudden or because of a lingering illness, this can be devastating, frightening, and confusing.

By this time, you’ve established a routine in your life. Maybe he brews coffee each morning at 6. Maybe he drives you to the salon on Mondays at 10am. Or maybe you watch TV together everyday at 6pm. And on certain nights at certain times you make love.

Suddenly, your calendar is blank. You have the cream, but noone is brewing coffee. You’re ready to go, but there’s no one to drive you to the salon. The TV’s on, but there’s no one to discuss the show with. Finally, you’re feeling sexy—but you’re alone in the bedroom.

Your life’s routines are no more. Even routine tasks have become challenging.

I recently had lunch with a man in his 80s who just lost his wife.