9 Ways to Manage Your Anger
By Jeetendra Adhia and Swati J Bhatt
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that is easy:
but to be angry with the right person,
to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, in the right way
- that is not easy.
- Aristotle....
The seed of this book was planted very early in our minds. Anger is an universal emotion, but its management remains a mystery.
However, when it comes to managing anger, practicing our choice becomes very difficult. We are too overwhelmed by the emotion to even state a choice. Anger has become a default response to a multiple stimulus. Moreover, only the synchronization of our mind, body and soul can help us to manage anger effectively.
Dr. Jeetendra Adhia is a live example of how anger can affect us. If I would say so, anger ruined not only his childhood but his adulthood also. Only later in his life, he realized that by acting on the spur of a moment, he not only lost materialistically but emotionally as well.
The decision to transform into a peaceful human being was not at all easy for him. It was a life-transforming journey to reclaim one’s own identity. He proved to lead by example. If he could let go of his anger, so could others.
Thus, this book is an attempt to create many such peaceful minds and hearts. It is an extract of our research and experience put together.
Anger cannot be controlled or avoided. The only way to deal with it is to manage it well. Each one of us\ be it a kid, an adult, an aged person, a girl or a boy gets angry. No one is spared from this.
Anger can be managed at three steps:
1. Before the onset of anger.
2. During the onset of anger.
3. After the onset of anger.
The 9 ways we have suggested here will help you to manage anger in a simple and practical way. Pick up any way best suitable for you and follow it religiously until you master the skill.
Remember, what you hold in your hand is not just a set of techniques; it is a way of life.
Turn a new Leaf .....
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9 Ways to Manage Your Anger - Jeetendra Adhia
Understand your ANGER
If you want to change the fruits,
you will first have to change the roots.
If you want to change the visible,
you must first change the invisible.
- T. Harv
A little boy named Ravi had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the back fence. The first day the boy had hammered 49 nails into the fence. The number of nails decreased with every passing day. He realized that it is easier to control his anger than to hammer hard iron nails.
Finally, one day, the boy did not lose his temper at all. He informed his father and the father suggested pulling out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed by and he realized that it was much difficult to pull out the nails than to hammer them. One day, the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
He said, You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. Similarly, when you say things in anger, they leave a mark just like this one. If you stab a man and pull the knife out, it will not matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry, the wound will always remain.
Anger is acknowledged as one of the seven deadly sins. This double-edged sword is capable of destroying not only-the unfortunate recipients of its ire, but also the one who wields the weapon.
Everyone from a toddler and teenager to wise men and even the saints have been at one time or other, seized by this madness, we call ANGER.
When an enraged Lord Shiva performed TANDAV-the dance of destruction, the other Gods were terrified to go to him and calm him down. As they knew, he would also burn them to ashes. That sounds familiar, doesn’t it? We too end up damaging our own world by venting our fury upon our loved ones.
Anger makes everybody its slave and victim. According to the Hindu mythological epic-Ramayana, anger influenced even Hanuman the mightiest Brahmachari to burn Lanka. He lost his senses and then repented OH! I have burnt the whole Lanka, swayed by my anger. This fire might have burnt Mother Sita too. What shall I do now? How can I return without Ma Sita? I became a victim to anger. I am a powerful Brahmachari, I have destroyed passion to its very root and branch and yet I could not control anger. How powerful is anger! Is it more powerful than passion?
We see angry people all around us, but mostly fail to see our own anger. We yell at kids, abuse bad drivers, curse the housemaid, silently disgust our faultfinding in-laws, and want to run away from our nagging spouse…blah blah blah. Anger is everywhere, and we are so used to it that it is more of a habit than an outcome.
Anger is killing the spirit of humanity, and we wonder what destruction our next generation is about to bring. For precisely this reason, we bring you ways to uncover, understand, and deal with the negative emotion, called Anger.
So what exactly is anger?
Anger is an irrational reactive emotional response. It deludes our mind into thinking that the person, whom we are angry with, is wrong. We project negativity upon the person, until we have convinced ourselves that the person is intrinsically faulty. We then resort to harming him/her verbally or physically.
No matter how beautiful person we are, anger transforms us into an ugly demon. We become restless. Even our sleep is disturbed and fails to refresh us. We are incapable of enjoying ourselves and even food fit for the Gods seems unpalatable.
No matter how hard we try, we seem to be forever struggling in the miserable quick sands of rage.
Modern society views anger as an immature or uncivilized response to frustration, threat, violation or loss. Keeping calm, being coolheaded, or turning the other cheek is considered rather socially more acceptable. This conditioning restricts correct expressions of anger and later
causes - uncontrolled outbursts, misguided anger or repressed feelings of anger.
Why Anger is the enemy # 1
It destroys our inner peace.
How well do we sleep after a gruesome fight? A moment of anger at the very start of the day ruins our whole day. A simple smile fades away easily on a bad day. We try hard to do the simplest of things; even enjoying a cup of coffee seems tough. All that we have is a restless mind and an uncomfortable body.
Anger occupies our mind and we remain slaves to our anger. We live in paranoia, imagining that enemies always surround us. And, if such beliefs take deep root within, they are capable of driving us insane, a victim of our own delusion.
It ruins relationships.
It is through the lens of our anger and hatred that we perceive people as enemies. We generally assume that anger arises when we encounter a disagreeable person. Actually, it is the anger within us that distorts our view of the person. We experience many instances where anger has forced us to put our relationship at stake. We all have paid a heavy price for being