When the Love Has Gone

By Adam O’Keefe

This is a true and compelling account of one mans experience with the
divorce laws in the UK.
It is an insightful and often moving account, offering serious and helpful
tips to any man who fi nds himself in this position.
Whilst the author has no legal background the book is a must read for the
depth of knowledge it imparts, and the serious, yet often critical way in
which he describes the legal system.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris UK
• Release date: Mar 28, 2011
• ISBN: 9781456869854

Adam O’Keefe

Adam O’Keefe lives with his two young children in the heart of the Buckinghamshire countryside. This is the fi rst book that Adam 53, has written. It was inspired by his experiences, and his disbelief that he would get a fair outcome in anyone else’s hands. Adam lives very happily now with his children and enjoys camping together and fi shing, going away in their motor home most weekends. Having sold his business he now spends his time writing and is currently working on an auto biography which is both amusing and serious. He has a unique writing style which I am sure his readers will enjoy.

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Copyright © 2011 by Adam O’Keefe.

Library of Congress Control Number:   2011902435

ISBN: Hardcover    978-1-4568-6984-7

ISBN: Softcover      978-1-4568-6983-0

ISBN: Ebook          978-1-4568-6985-4 

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Contents

Chapter 1:    You Think It’s Over

Chapter 2:    My Story

Chapter 3:    The Boring Stuff

Chapter 4:    The Legal Process

Chapter 5:    The Next Phase

Chapter 6:    The Residence Order

Chapter 7:    The Hearing

Chapter 8:    Nearly 2 Years On

Chapter 9:    An Emergency Order

Chapter 10:  The 50 Most Important Bits Again

Chapter 1

You Think It’s Over

As far as I was concerned this was my divorce, my future, and my children. No solicitor could ever be as passionate about it as me.

OK so you are going through a divorce, or thinking about it.

The first two tips before anything else,

1. NEVER EVER agree to move out of the marital home, even for a trial period.

2. Keep this book under lock and key.

If you move out it will weaken your position, and make it nigh on impossible to move back in.

No matter how bad the atmosphere gets, and it will, just hold your resolve and sit it out.

It does not last forever, and trust me, it will benefit you in the end.

Divorce may have been your idea or not, the point is, like every man at this juncture, you’re scared.

The sudden realisation of what is at stake hits you.

You’ve read about Fathers for Justice, you’ve heard the shocking stories of why they do what they do.

Could you really lose the house, most of your savings, half your pension, and the majority of your income?

More importantly, what about your children? How often would you be able to see them? Will there be endless court battles just to get a few hours with them? How are they going to cope with your divorce? Will they have to change schools? Will it affect them later in life?

They did not ask for this to happen, they probably don’t want it happen, they probably don’t know it is happening, yet. How and who will tell them?

Then there are your belongings, which of you will have the furniture, the cd collection, the car, the bikes, etcetera.

What about your own parents? They deserve to be able to see the children too; chances are they have been an important part in your children’s lives. How will you manage that?

And then there are your joint friends, who will they remain loyal to? It will only be one of you.

If you haven’t considered ALL these factors then I urge you to do so NOW.

Divorce is the Last thing you all need.

You need to stop reading at this point and go away and talk it through again with your wife.

If you