Intervention: Reducing Compassion Fatigue: About to Give up on Someone Who Needs Help?
By Al Jameson
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This book is designed to help religious leaders, professional counselors, concerned family members, and individuals offer viable, appropriate levels of care to someone with an addiction problem, one who refuses to accept assisted-living conditions or comply with medical advice. Using tools in this book can increase awareness of the issue and acceptance of recovery.
Learn how to avoid compassion fatigue while using healthy personal boundaries. Because these tools are likely used in an emotional setting, the least emotionally involved helper or leader is the best person for attempting an organized intervention. Concerned others may be able to find serenity after going through this process.
This book teaches a mini-intervention or one-on-one short meeting as a setup for a full-blown maxi-intervention later, if necessary. If the maxi-intervention is not successful at first, next steps and consequences are taught. These steps are in keeping with Jesus instructions on how to approach someone with an issue.
This book compiles thirty-nine years of studying and experience of achieving compliance with the best of care for someone refusing help with a serious issue. In using these steps and illustrations, 90 percent of the full maxi-interventions result in beginning the first stages of treatment or recovery.
Al Jameson
Al Jameson and his wife, Judy, live in Fort Worth, Texas. Al has a master's degree and is a licensed professional counselor and a licensed chemical dependency counselor. Al has conducted more than eight hundred family interventions since 1973 and has a private counseling practice for over twenty years. He has master’s-level training in conflict resolution from Pepperdine University and Abilene Christian University. Conferences from Texas to New York to Saudi Arabia have asked him to speak. He is currently working in an assignment for the Department of Defense serving military members and their families. jameson.al@gmail.com
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Intervention - Al Jameson
INTERVENTION:
REDUCING COMPASSION FATIGUE
78651640.jpgAbout to give up on someone who needs help?
Al Jameson,
Licensed Professional Counselor,
Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor
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Contents
INTRODUCTION
Chapter 1 Do We Need to Confront?
Chapter 2 Are You the Best One to Confront?
Chapter 3 Family Examples
Chapter 4 Serenity Triangle
Chapter 5 Healthy Boundaries
Chapter 6 Define the Problem
Chapter 7 The Pain of Change
Chapter 8 Taking a Roller Coaster Ride
Chapter 9 Preparing for a Maxi-intervention
Chapter 10 Interruptions
Chapter 11 Roadblocks to Success and Serenity
Chapter 12 Legal Fears
Chapter 13 Intervention Participants
Chapter 14 Mini-interventions
Chapter 15 After Agreeing to Accept Help
Chapter 16 Early Days of Treatment
Chapter 17 Continuing Care
Conclusion
Appendix
About the Author
intervention
REDUCES
COMPASSION
FATIGUE
A practical, step-by-step guide
discussing the dance or process
of asking a troubled
acquaintance
to accept direly needed
assistance.
Need help to confront?
Confrontation is your friend
and
is the friend of the one you love!
Serenity is not the absence of
confrontation!
Serenity is dealing with
confrontation
effectively, without compassion fatigue, efficiently and respectfully.
Serenity is the opposite of
compulsivity.
INTRODUCTION
Dear Reader,
This book is designed to help religious leaders, professional counselors, concerned family members, and individuals offer viable appropriate levels of care to someone with an addiction problem or a person who refuses to accept assisted living conditions or comply with medical advice. Use the tools in this book to increase the awareness of the issue and acceptance of recovery.
Learn how to avoid compassion fatigue while using healthy personal boundaries. Because these tools are likely used in an emotional setting, the least emotionally involved helper or leader is the best person for attempting an organized intervention. When that less emotionally involved person is not available, a family member may choose to use this material and know they have attempted to offer choices. The family members will be able to find serenity after going through this process.
This book teaches a mini-intervention or one-on-one short meeting as a setup for a full-blown maxi-intervention later, if necessary. If the maxi-intervention is not successful at first, next steps and consequences are taught. These steps are in keeping with Jesus’ instructions on how to approach someone with an issue.
This book compiles thirty-nine years of studying and experience of achieving compliance with the best of care for someone refusing help with a serious issue. I have led over 800 family interventions. In using these steps and illustrations, 90 percent of the full maxi-interventions result in beginning the first stages of treatment or recovery. If you or I learn of a more effective approach to a reluctant person with a problem, please let us share. This is simply where I am today on the journey of learning and serving.
Al Jameson, LPC, LCDC
Chapter 1
Do We Need to Confront?
Do you want to help someone with a serious problem who does not want help? He/she either does not realize there is any problem or is refusing to seek viable, available appropriate solutions.
Rather than using he/she
or your loved one,
allow me to simply refer to them as Addie
and he.
I will say problem
to refer to gambling, workaholic concerns, sexual issues, video game obsession, or other damaging excesses. Addie could be a loved one with a religious cult control conflict, or he may have a problem with chemical abuse, including alcohol or any other mind-altering substance, addictions, mental disorder, or noncompliance with medication or medical advice. An intervention also works for an elderly person who refuses to accept a higher level of healthcare, such as assisted living, not taking necessary medication, declining medical attention, or any other perceived problem.
I’ve helped church leaders gather groups to confront a church member with a spiritual issue, such as compulsive lying or writing hate mail. This is the third step of Jesus’ instructions in Matthew 18 to retrieve someone with a problem. Even in a secular setting, I insist on knowing when the prospect needing help was approached one-on-one before I participate in a group confrontation or intervention.
You may be the only one thinking this is a problem. You and/or others may have tried to approach this person to no avail. If you absolutely cannot engage others to join in an intervention, then this is not the correct approach. I will suggest other approaches later. Addie probably assumed a position to resist all changes. This background can affect all relationships: professional, church, and personal. This material will help you decide if a confrontation is needed and to adopt a better strategy in the myriad dances, processes, or negotiations that happen in the days before and after an intervention. This is really an issue of conflict resolution.
Why Consider an Intervention as Respect and Concern for the One You Love?
Common Core Issues from Concerned Others and Addie
SELF-TEST: Use the following questions to determine if you are enabling or participating in an out-of-control person’s death or if you desire to look into an intervention.
Chapter 2
Are You the Best One to Confront?
Most family groups ask me, "Don’t you feel guilty encouraging us to talk behind his back? I feel like we are gossiping, meddling, ganging up, and conspiring against our loved one. This does not feel like decent activity for a moral family."
Often a group member will say, You see, we are Christians, and doing this does not seem Christian.
This is a common, expected feeling. I felt the same the first time I was invited to help with a friend’s intervention in 1973. I didn’t show up at the second