Helping with Life Transitions: Engaging Young Adults with Disabilities Into the Life of Your Church
By Mike Dobes
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Come Alongside Teens and Adults and Share Life Together
Children affected by disability don’t stay children forever. In the same way that parents must adjust their parenting strategies, our churches must adapt ministry strategies to appropriate age levels and expectations in order to serve people affected by disability well. Eventually, ministry programs will naturally extend beyond our church gatherings and grow into true friendships. As we discuss the logistics of ministry to teens and adults, our attitudes should be more about coming alongside others and doing life together than providing ministry for others. It is our desire to see churches become irresistible—places of authentic community that compel people of all ages affected by disability to fully belong.
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Helping with Life Transitions - Mike Dobes
Introduction
Mike Dobes, co-author of this book, clearly remembers the day that his daughter was born. All the moments leading up to her birth, and her actual birth, are firmly etched in his memory—even down to the detail that she was born in the same hospital where his father was born. Talk about a cool legacy story! The busyness of the nurses and the doctor, the expert coaching that he received, and their family waiting eagerly outside the room, all culminated with a final moment. His daughter was born! Mike was able to cut her umbilical cord, wrap her in a blanket, and hold her briefly before she was whisked away by the medical staff to check her basic stats and vitals. The days and months that followed were spent feeding her, changing her diapers, bathing her, and lots of family naps. A truly life-transforming event!
Now, fifteen years later, the way that he continues to care for and look out for her has changed drastically. She is now seeking her identity in Christ, learning how to stand against the crowd, and trying to decide what she wants to be when she enters adulthood. Mike now acts more as a listener and counselor than as a director. His heart for her, his prayers over her, and his desire to see her succeed have only increased since she was born. But how he expresses these things must constantly change to meet her age-appropriate needs. Adjusting parenting strategy and style is necessary as time passes—a reality that every parent faces, regardless of the culture you live in or the ability level of your children.
Unfortunately, many churches approach disability ministry as if it is something that is frozen in time. Whether it is intentional or not, most churches make their children’s ministry responsible for any efforts related to disability ministry. Perhaps it is easier for volunteers and leaders to envision themselves serving cute babies and young children with Down syndrome rather than adults with cognitive delays. Perhaps churches are tight on resources, and staff members have a very small margin for any additional programs. Both authors of this book spent many years as youth pastors, so they understand the mindset that if you serve children well, their parents and extended family will often participate in the life of the church. Regardless of the reason, the difficult reality is that disability ministry programming doesn’t often exist outside of a children’s ministry buddy program, leaving many of our young adult or adult friends affected by disability without a place to belong in the local church.
Children affected by disability don’t stay children forever. And in the same way that parents must adjust their parenting strategies, so too our churches must adapt ministry strategies to appropriate age levels and expectations in order to serve people affected by disability well. We hope that this book will encourage more people to engage in ministry with youth or adults affected by disability. It is our desire to see churches become irresistible—places of authentic community that compel people of all ages affected by disability to fully belong.
Considering Ministry Logistics
Transitions
During our many years on full-time church staff, we were both privileged to serve a variety of age groups. Ryan is quick to say that in his many areas of responsibility, transitions were always a key component. Whether it was preparing upper-elementary kids for the different culture that youth ministry would present, or reassuring nervous parents that high school youth group was a healthy and godly place, transitions were critical. If transitions were not handled well, people could get hurt, families would become offended, and, depending upon the severity, church attendance might drop. Transitions in any environment—ministry, jobs, or personal—do not happen well without intentionality.
Transitions are difficult for most people, but this is especially true for our friends with disabilities. As you work to transition your friends from the children’s ministry to the youth ministry or from the youth ministry to the adult ministry, you will inevitably experience