Ready to Answer: Words of Affirmation and Hope for Lgbt Christians
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They want to pick and choose what parts of the Bible to obey!
God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve!
Most same-gender-loving Christians from fundamentalist backgrounds have heard these phrases, over and over again, from their Accusers homophobic Christians who refuse to acknowledge LGBT Christians as part of the Body of Christ. In Ready to Answer, Rev. Marilyn Bowens responds to their favorite slogans; and shares additional insights from her journey from fundamentalism to peaceful, authentic, and intimate relationship with God.
Ready to Answer is food for the souls of LGBT Christians who are struggling to heal from the abusive theology, policies, and practices of Accuser churches.
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It is critically important that all LGBT Christians have an answer for those who would dare suggest that we are not embraced by the extravagant grace of our loving God. In the much needed and long awaited book, Ready to Answer , Rev. Bowens will enable us, our families and allies to conquer the fears within and the foes without.
Rev. Dr. Yvette Flunder
Founder and Presiding Bishop,
The Fellowship of Affirming Ministries
This is a book that can save lives, sanity; can help people really entrapped. It is very disarming.
Rev. Dr. Nancy Wilson
Moderator, Metropolitan Community Church
Rev. Marilyn Bowens
Raised in a fundamentalist church environment, Rev. Marilyn Bowens speaks from the experience of her successful quest for spiritual peace as a same-gender-loving woman. A former attorney and law professor, Rev. Bowens is a dually ordained minister of the Metropolitan Community Church and The Fellowship of Affirming Ministries.
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Ready to Answer - Rev. Marilyn Bowens
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Contents
Acknowledgements and Dedication
Introduction
Essays
Religion or Relationship?
Neither Lifestyle
Nor Choice
What Is An Abomination,
Anyway?
Adam and Eve and Steve
Picking and Choosing
What the Bible Says About Homosexuality
The Word in the Words
S&M in the Church
The Accuser Within
The God That I Know
By Their Fruit You Shall Know Them
An Open Letter to the Accusers
An Open Letter to the Accused
Selected Sermons
The Lord is Our Shepherd
Be Rooted In Him
Know What You Know
Calling All Cracked Pots
Come Down From Your Sycamore Tree
Do Justice, Walk Humbly, Be Kind
The Top 10 Ways to Recognize Free People
The You That God Knew
Acknowledgements and Dedication
Many people in my life have contributed, in some way, to the inspiration, insights, and experiences that led to my writing this book. I could never name them all. I hope that those who are not named will understand that, and know how much I appreciate you all. There are some, however, that I must acknowledge by name.
I am grateful for the spiritual foundation that I received as I was raised in the United Holy Church of America, Inc.; and particularly, Faith Tabernacle U.H.C.A. in Washington, DC. It was there that I came to know God as One with whom I could have a personal relationship. I had many examples of what it means to put God first in one’s life; to make doing God’s will one’s highest priority. Though some of you, no doubt, think that I have made a drastic departure from the values instilled in me there, I hold fast to that which you gave me which is most important. I thank you for it; and I pray to see the day when we all can agree that the things that we still have in common vastly outweigh our differences.
To the Metropolitan Community Church; and particularly, St. John’s MCC in Raleigh, NC, and MCC-New Haven: St. John’s, thank you for being my church home. Thank you for being a place of healing and restoration for me. Thank you for embracing me—all of me—without requiring me to hide or deny any part of who I am in order to be welcomed at Christ’s table among you. Thank you for participating in the discernment of my call to ministry; and for your support, on which I know I can rely to this day. Thank you, MCC-New Haven, for your willingness to take a chance on a brand new pastor, before the ink was dry on my license! The opportunity that you gave me has resulted in so much growth; so much learning that comes only through experience. Your place in my life story, and my heart, is sealed forever.
To The Fellowship of Affirming Ministries: Thank you for paving the path that has led me back to my Pentecostal roots! I know that God led me to you; and I am excited to see how my journey with you will unfold!
To Rev. Elder Troy Perry, Rev. Dr. Nancy Wilson, Bishop Yvette Flunder, Mother Shirley Miller, Rev. Wanda Floyd, and Rev. Brenden Boone: You are my heroes and she-roes
! Each of you, in the course of your ministries, have inspired me, taught and mentored me, and enabled and empowered me to see possibilities that I did not know existed. You each, in your own way, changed my life; and brought me one step closer to the fulfillment of God’s purpose for my life. Thank you!
To my sister, Jo: There are no words. Really. I just wouldn’t know where to begin. I have to trust that you know.
To my sisters, Sheila and Carla: Thank you for the knowledge I have always had that, when all is said and done, you will be there and you will have my back!
To my sons, J.T. and Trey: I have always called you the eternal loves of my life.
You always will be.
I dedicate this book to the memory of my parents—Bishop Joseph Thomas Bowens and Mother Clara Washington Bowens—with all of the love my heart can hold. I minister to many people who lose everything, including the love of their parents, when they come out as lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, or transgender. Both of my parents knew exactly who I am long before they died. And both of them made sure that I know that they loved me no less. For this, and for everything I received from them that I cannot adequately articulate, I am deeply and eternally grateful.
Love to you all —
Marilyn
Introduction
1 Peter 3:14-16 (KJV):
¹⁴But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; ¹⁵But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: ¹⁶Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
There is a principle that I live by that I call redeeming the pain.
That is my way of expressing my belief that something good can come out of any pain we experience. The basis for that belief is Romans 8:28—We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.
Looking for ways to bring good out of my pain is what I call redeeming the pain.
To the extent that I can do that, I am relieved of the feeling that I went through whatever I went through for nothing.
I find that sharing our stories is often a way to redeem our pain. Those experiences that sear our souls, the ways that we find of getting through them, and the insights that we gain in the process, are often exactly what another person needs; sometimes what another person is desperate for, to get through their own experience of similar pain.
I feel inspired to write this collection of essays and musings with a few hopes and prayers in mind. First, my prayer is that Christians of minority sexual orientation and/or gender identification and expression will find hope, comfort, peace, and freedom from the torment of the Accusers.
The Accusers
is my label for those in Christian churches who persist in refusal to affirm and embrace us as the full-fledged, equally beloved children of God and members of the Body of Christ that we are. I know that pain. I am on a journey that has taken me through fear of loss of my soul, because of one aspect of who I am that I did not choose and cannot change, to the blessed assurance of God’s unconditional and eternal love for me. It took a while to get through the torturous part of the journey. But I did, with the help and by the grace of God. I want others on that path to know that the same help and grace are available to them. It would redeem my pain if this book conveys that to one person.
I also pray that this work will find its way into the hands of our Christian allies and those of straight
Christians who are asking the hard questions and engaging in the difficult conversation about whether faithfulness to Christian faith allows for the full inclusion of people who are lesbian, gay, bi-sexual or transgendered in their churches. It does; in fact, it requires it. I am grateful for all who have engaged in that conversation without investment in protecting the status quo in most churches, but with sincere desire to discern and do God’s will. It will redeem my pain if this book assists even one of you in embracing and helping others to embrace an understanding of God’s love as radically inclusive of all of humanity.
Finally, I pray that some Accusers will, somehow, be led or persuaded to read this book. Even if their original intent is to chew it up and spit it out; to play scripture war games,
pitting each reference to scripture that I make against one that they choose to prove
me wrong, I hope some will read this. Why? Because I trust the Holy Spirit to bear witness to truth. And I trust that, even if they start reading this with the intent of refuting it and discrediting me, God is able to change their hearts, minds, and intentions by the time they reach the end of it. I have no illusions—that will not be the case for all of them; probably not even most. But it would redeem the pain I have borne if this book plays any part in there being even one less Accuser in this world inflicting that same pain on other LGBT Christians.
My intent is to speak in my own voice, from my own experience, in a way that will be accessible to many people. There is a lot of readily available published material in which gifted Bible scholars—LGBT and straight—exegete scripture, do word studies, mine and compile historical information and present eloquent arguments for the full inclusion of LGBT’s in the life of the church. I am grateful for their work. It is not my intent to write a weak imitation of that kind of scholarship. What I hope for is to engage whoever will read this in holy conversation about the topics herein; sharing my thoughts and stimulating thought in them.
I am who I am.