The Blueprint for Marrying a Strong Black Christian Woman (Sbcw): She Is Your Partner Not Your Puppet

By James “CJ” Barnes Jr

Understanding a Strong Black Christian Woman through Marriage can be very challenging or difficult but we as men must be strong in the Lord first because with Jesus guidance we can conquer all
James CJ Barnes Jr.

The Blueprint for Marrying a Strong Black Christian Woman (SBCW) is your go-to guide for understanding and learning how to treat a SBCW in Marriage through scripture. With the aid of the Holy Spirit, The Blueprint for Marrying a Strong Black Christian Woman (SBCW) will..

Teach you how to treat your wife through Scripture
Define the role of being Head of Household
Give understanding of submission
Guide you in your marriage to become as one

Marriage is beautiful, but any mismanaged relationship can cause a persons life to be full of strife, discord and misery. This blueprint contains strategies that will help you understand your wife and what YOU may be doing wrong.

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

Proverbs 31:10

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Jan 27, 2012
• ISBN: 9781468531824

James “CJ” Barnes Jr

James "C.J." Barnes Jr. is from Goldsboro, NC, graduated from Fayetteville State University and is currently seeking his Masters in Pastoral Counseling from Liberty University. James is married to his SBCW Ayonna Barnes. James gives all the glory to Jesus Christ his Lord and Savior for Jesus deserves all the credit! James is nothing compared to Jesus Christ.

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Contents

DEDICATION

INTRODUCTION

PART 1

We As Men Must Step Up

DEFINITION OF HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD- THE SCRIPTURE WAY.

PART 2

What Defines A Strong Black Christian Woman

SBW VS. SBCW

PART 3

How To Have A Successful Marriage With A Sbcw

SCRIPTURES PERTAINING TO MARRIAGE

PART 4

I Am Not Your Puppet But Your Partner

PART 5

Guide For Handling A Sbcw And In Marriage

APPENDIX SOME SCRIPTURES PERTAINING TO MARRIAGE

DEDICATION

I like to thank my Father Jesus for giving me the opportunity to share this book with others. I give all the glory to Jesus Christ. I thank my wife Ayonna Barnes for supporting me and for being my better half. My wife has been there for me through thick and thin. My life had no direction until God placed her before me. I haven’t been the perfect Husband but I thank God for giving my wife patience for my growth in being the husband God called me to be. I thank my mother Janet Barnes and my Pops James D. Barnes Sr. for raising me. I thank my mother for bringing me up with the Word of God. I thank my Father for all he has done and the special moments I have shared witnessing him singing in the Church.

To my sister Jaranda thanks for just being there for me whenever I needed you.

I wrote this book because God placed it in my heart to do it. I pray it will open the eyes of many and direct them in the right way to understand and treat a SBCW the right way through marriage by placing Jesus Christ first in our lives so He can lead us.

GGTG

Give God the Glory Amen!!!

James Barnes

INTRODUCTION

First off, I would like to say that marrying a strong black Christian woman is a blessing in disguise. It takes a real man to handle a real woman of God through God’s guidance. Without God I would be divorced and in the world.

The day I can truly say my walk with Christ started was when I married my Queen Ayonna Barnes and yes I married young, I was 22 years old. Just to enlighten you on my testimony and inspiration of writing this book, I will start with my past. I was lost in the world listening to rap music, fornicating, going to the club, and my focus was off of Jesus. I was what the sisters would define as a gardening tool. I was filling a void that could not be filled in my life. During this time I was in college at Fayetteville State University.

I dated all kinds of women, I didn’t discriminate. I was noticing I had a gift but I used what God blessed me with to my advantage, nothing that I am proud of. I understood women and what they wanted. God gave me discernment and at that time I use it for the wrong reasons. Through this journey I knew what kind of woman I wanted and I am not suggesting that you take this journey but every case is different. This is just my story.

Now in my childhood I lived with my father and mother until I was in middle school that was when they separated. After that I was mostly with my mother and sister, who I can say are very strong women. At that time I didn’t see