Musical Complement

By Nonen Titi

Who am I? Who are you?
Do you ever have one of those days when you feel you’re in the wrong relationship or wonder if you’ll ever make any friends?
Do you feel like you’re forever running after good advice – and it never quite works?

People are not identical copies of each other. Every person is born with a different set of natural talents. Ignoring your natural talents can make life difficult and frustrating; living in harmony with them makes success and happiness easy to achieve.

This book describes the 16 human types and allows you to quickly discover not only your own personality type, but the personalities of your partner or friends. Simply take in mind one person you know relatively well, begin at the start and follow the instructions at the bottom of the page. Within four to eight pages, you will not only know this person’s personality type, but have an explanation as to why you two do or do not get along.
Based on the Myers-Briggs and Jungian psychological types, this format requires no tests and no separate instruction.

Whether you are looking for a long-term relationship or for a friend or companion, the right person (your complement) will have certain traits that you admire and you will have some they do. This keeps relationships exciting and alive. This book helps you find out what those traits are.
You don’t need luck to find the right partner; you just need to know who you are.

• Language: English
• Publisher: N Titi Publishing
• Release date: Jun 12, 2017
• ISBN: 9780987669865

Nonen Titi

I started my career in physical and mental healthcare, tropical nursing and midwifery, including an assignment with Medecins sans Frontieres to Columbia and four summers in a camp for children with type one diabetes. Those experiences still provide a lot of the material for my books. More recently I added hypnotherapy to my healthcare training.After my children were born, I changed to education and worked a few years as a Montessori teacher before opting to educate my own children at home. That was one of the most wonderful experiences of my life. In the meantime we had moved from Europe and the UK to the USA, Australia and now New Zealand.Nearly twenty years ago I became interested in the theory of psychological types of Carl Jung (and of Myers-Briggs and David Keirsey) which has changed my perspective on life completely and which I have made my special interest of study. When my children went off to university, I decided to join them and get a degree in philosophy. Since then I have been a writer of both fiction and non-fiction books inspired by the inborn differences that influence the beliefs, behavior and natural talents of every person on Earth.Although I enjoy writing non-fiction books, I believe that fiction is best suited to help bridge those natural differences. Hence, my books portray human nature to a depth where the study of psychology cannot reach, each character an easily recognizable personality and together in pursuit of a positive future.

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1. An Understanding Relationship

Do my friends consider my feelings? Do they understand my logic? Is my partner my match? Do we give each other enough space? Do I feel jealous at times? Is there any reason for that? Do we stay in or go out and is that what we all want?

Whether we like it or not, whether we are good at it or not, and whether or not we even consider it socially desirable, the fact remains that most people seek a companion to share their daily life with, whether in marriage or friendship. A bond like that, especially if there are dependants, has to withstand emotional problems, social responsibilities, disagreements, hard times, tempting other offers, and much more.

But in spite of the proverb opposites attract, most people expect to find their mental match, their sexual satisfaction, their ideal playmate and their emotional outlet all in one person, and assume they have the right to be annoyed if someone can’t live up to all that.

But why? People need to reproduce and raise their offspring. Why isn′t it acceptable for some of us to be better at the reproductive part of parenting (nature) and for others to prefer to provide nurture?

We are attracted to our complement, not our opposite. The other person fascinates us because they are what we are not, but if we want to avoid problems we have to know and respect who that person is, what his or her needs are, and what motivates them; we have to know and respect their four-letter typename.

The personality types used in this guide and their letter indicators were first written down by Carl Jung in 1921 and later completed and popularized by Myers-Briggs and David Keirsey, and the concepts belong to them. Here, instead of a self-assessment indicator in which you answer questions in order to discover your own personality type, the descriptions (which are based on the works of the above-mentioned people and on my fifteen years of observing and studying personality types) are directed at a third person – a person who is trying to understand somebody else.

Musical Complement is one of four books originally published together as Playing with Natural Talents. It allows you to discover the personality types of your friends, peers, or partner. You do this by choosing one person (for every new person you want to know the type of, start again from the beginning) and continue reading the descriptions with this person in mind (read he as she if you need to) and follow the instructions (YES of NO) according to which of every two descriptions fits this person best. At the bottom of every second description there is a reference to the quick-guides, which make a side-by-side comparison between each pair of opposing letters (traits) in case you’re not sure, or you can reconsider an earlier choice. With every additional letter the picture of the person you have in mind will get a little clearer. It may help if you find out what your own typename is first.

When reading, keep in mind that this is not an exact science; regardless of their typename, each person has to deal with the beliefs, truths, and perceptions of their environment and some types are more inclined to do so than others, and people tend to behave differently at home than in public. Yet the inborn motivations do not change.

Also remember that the descriptions in this guide are extremes meant to allow you to choose between two opposites, but some people have no extreme tendencies and may be harder to recognize. Stressed behaviour is not typical so it is best to use a general view of the person, and I never mean to imply that certain problems are exclusive to only one type.

The basic message of typology is that different people deal with information differently, that this is an evolutionary necessity, and that this causes them to experience everything they encounter differently, so we can never assume to know what others are thinking, feeling, needing, sensing, or how they experience life itself. This means that we should be careful of prejudice and not take the view that some people should change to