The Winning Family

By Mutea Rukwaru

The Winning Family is a highly motivational book. What is expounded in Winning Family is timeless truths which will equip you with knowledge for filling your life with more joy, strength and purpose. To live life to the fullest, you can't afford the luxury of a negative thought.

Those who truly embrace the magical dance of life adopt a positive paradigm about their world and all that is in it. In life there are no negative experiences, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of full potential. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny inner sparks of possibility into the flames of great achievement. As long as you have faith in your own cause and an unconquerable will to win, no one will deny you victory.

The book The Winning Family expounds time tested methods on how to become a winner. A family is composed of individuals. If individuals become successful, the family in turn will become a winner. Successful individuals in a family can parachute a business enterprise to success if given a chance. What is being postulated in this book are not man’s guesses and opinions. They are proven approaches to life’s situations and they work.

Winning Family covers:-

What is success
Winning Family and time management
Winning Family and winning team
Winning Family and stress
Winning Family and beliefs
Winning Family as a dreamer
Winning Family apology and forgiveness
Family Parliament

• Language: English
• Publisher: Mutea Rukwaru
• Release date: Jun 7, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370614202

Mutea Rukwaru

Mutea Rukwaru is an accomplished author of international reputation.He is an author of 17 bestselling books. He has written widely in the areas of research and family. He has wide knowledge in world of practice having been in the Department of Social Development for 33 years and also being in the world of academia, that is Universities and Kenya Schools of Government.Some of the top selling books include:Anatomy of CrimeFinancial Success Every Family's DreamEducation at CrossroadTraining at its bestMilestones of lifeHow to be a better CounselorThe winning familyThe Tie that bindsHappy though marriedFundamentals of social researchWhat happy couples knowSuccessful time managementStatistics can be funStrong in the stormSnapshot view of Social ResearchSocial Research Methods a complete guidePowerful Proposal, Powerful PresentationUpcoming titles being published by Eureka publishers are: Limits of Medicine, Dreams of my Motherland and A Place to feel at HomeMutea Rukwaru holds a Masters of Arts in Sociology (Counseling) and a Bachelor of Arts (Sociology), Upper Second class honors from Nairobi University

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The Winning Family

ISBN 978 9966-7282-1-X

About the Author

Mutea Rukwaru was born on December 24 1957 at Kaaga Village in Meru District. He had his early education at Mwithumwiru Primary School before proceeding to Meru School for his secondary and high school education. Mutea Rukwaru proceeded to the University of Nairobi where he graduated in 1984 with B.A (Sociology), Upper Second Class Honours.

He has worked in the Directorate of Personnel Management (Office of the President) as a lecturer at Government Training Institute Maseno (now Maseno University) and Government Training Institute Embu where he taught on Research Methods, Statistics, Criminology, Family and Child Welfare Management.

He has been in the Ministry of Gender, Sports, Culture and Social Services where he has served as a Director of Social Services in North Eastern province, Central Province and currently in Nairobi Province. He has been involved in extensive community work and has done extensive consultancy work for a number of organizations.

He is a family counsellor and is the Vice Chairman of Kenya National Association for Social Workers as well as the Representative of the Association of Schools of Social Work in Africa (ASSWA) in the United Nations.

He is married to Stella Mpinda and they are blessed with three children – Johnmark Mutuma, Annrose Karimi and Michael Muthuri.

Other Books by the author

In order of years of Publication:

Happy though married (2003)

The Tie that Binds (2005)

Successful time management the challenge of the modern manager (2006a)

What happy couples know (2006b)

Fundamentals of social research (2007)

Milestones of life (2007a)

How to be a better counsellor (2007b)

Anatomy of crime (2008)

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Table of contents

About the author

Other books by the author

Copyright

Table of contents

Acknowledgment

Dedication

Foreword

Success

Winning family as a dreamer

Winning family and time

Winning family and a winning team

Winning family and stress

Winning family and beliefs

Winning family apology and forgiveness

Family parliament

Conclusion

References

Acknowledgments

I wish to express my gratitude to my colleagues and staff of the Ministry of Gender Sports Culture and Social Services, relatives and my family who have taught me so many valuables lessons.

I am also indebted to Mr. and Mrs. Fred of Freelance Advertising for their generous encouragement which has given me a high level of motivation.

Special gratitude go to Charles Nkuru of Wapendwa Bookshop, Meru, a bosom friend, a wonderful motivator, a beacon of encouragement and a man of integrity. Thank you for being my model of vision, purpose and passion.

I am indebted to Dr. Warire of the Department of Sociology, University of Nairobi. Thank you very much for your beautiful spirit and encouragement.

I am also grateful to my niece Judy, nephews Edward, Ronald and Nicholas. Your enthusiasm with regard to my work, reminds me of your Dad’s love for the written word. I say thank you.

I am also grateful to the following friends who have always spared their precious time to listen to my ideas and from whom I have learnt so much.

Mr. Silas Karuchia.

Mr. Mwenda Murugu (Captain)

Mr. Stephen Thuranira (Waachia)

Mr. Nangithia Mbogori (Baamo)

Doctor Gikunda Mburugu

Mrs. Janet Rotich

Mr. Mahinda Mathenge

Mrs. Lilian Karimi Mathenge

Mr. Sammy Njue

Mrs. Esther Njue

Mr. John Mariene

I am also grateful to Mr. Kikuyu for his wonderful support

Special thanks to my family for their love and support. Thanks for your understanding during the long hours and the sacrificed weekends I holed myself to finish the manuscript. Thank you for the support. I am indebted to our children Johnmark, Annrose and Michael for their interest in Dad’s work, which has always filled me with pride.

Dedication

This book is dedicated to those courageous men and women who have gathered courage to step out of the dominant life of resignation and mediocrity and have endeavored to create the life of their dreams.

Foreword

Life is interesting especially in the world of writing. This is because writing in many cases is through inspiration. After having written the following books: Happy Though Married (2003), The Tie that Binds (2005). What Happy Couples Know (2006b) and Milestones of Life (2007a) I felt I had written enough on the areas of the family. [No wonder my relative Lillian Karimi Mathenge asked me one time if I was not planning to write another book on the areas on family, I told her that I was not intending to]. However, one day as I was traveling from Nairobi to Meru in a Matatu the idea to write The Winning Family was born. People in that Matatu were extremely quiet. In that meditative mood the idea to write this book like an inspiration from above suddenly struck. How strange!

The game of life is challenging. Many times it is full of intrigues. Other times it is dramatic. Everybody in this world yearns for success. Even those who seem to have failed are also yearning for success. During these turbulent times to be a winner sometimes seems elusive. Any game has to have rules. A ‘success game’ has rules too.

The book The Winning Family expounds time tested methods on how to become a winner. A family is composed of individuals. If individuals become successful, the family in turn will become a winner. Successful individuals in a family can parachute a business enterprise to success if given a chance. What is being postulated in this book are not man’s guesses and opinions. They are proven approaches to life’s situations and they work.

Now that you are reading The Winning Family is a sign that you are interested in being a winner in this game of life. You want to fulfill your dreams. Many people in their endeavour to be winners in this life forget there are tools that can help them get there.

It is important for you to know that this is not a book about coping with the family or fitting yourself in to make a tame and a comfortable marriage. The book is about how to turn the situations into a fire of honesty which will burn away your hangs-ups, your limitations and leave you freer and more fulfilled than you currently might think possible. It will also help you break free from the modern madness of hurry – earn- and – spend and get a life.

This book will liberate you. This is because it will take away confusion by providing a map and tools for the journey. Life becomes very challenging especially if you have a family. When you are a parent especially of young children, your fondest hope is getting half an hour’s break and having a good lie down. A wild fantasy would be reading a newspaper right through or getting to bed with energy to make love to the stranger that is your partner. Before you know it, you’ve got adolescent children and all the mental anguish they bring. If you’re not careful, life can be what happens to you while you’re too busy to make other plans.

Family life is tough and we get very little help from the society. There is no tradition in most societies for making marriage work, only for making it endure, which is not the same thing.

Because of the poor quality teaching that we get in human relationships, many people find family life to be a dark episode in their lives. Don’t forget you’re given a marriage certificate without having gone through a course on marriage!

It is sad and a dark commentary that many people feel more successful and also feel as winners at their work place than at home. Instead of being a harbor and haven of comfort and security, a home can be the place of scare and despair.

You might have been feeling like a failure at family level. It is important to recognize how much you are actually succeeding. Don’t forget all the other benefits. To many marriage has become a disposable item to be thrown away if it doesn’t work. Work and family life need to be reviewed from time to time. The family is the root and work is the flower. If you don’t feed the roots, there won’t be many flowers. So the family is the cornerstone of a nation and all other organisation.

Life has natural priorities which cannot be bypassed. But this does not mean getting caught up in the pressure of an insane society – with its rush to earn and spend. But we should also realize that time is a precious commodity in life and you should invest in it wisely. Time is the central issue of modern life, but this should be replaced by love and people.

If you are married, the best thing you can do to strengthen your family is to build your marriage relationship. Its certainly the best thing you can do for your spouse, but it also has an incredibly positive impact on your children. The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. The greatest thing a mother can do for the children is to love their father.

A most missing ingredient in many marriages is dedication to make things work. Marriages may start because of love but they finish because of commitment. Individuals who have a determination to make the marriage persist, force themselves to adjust and to accept situations which would seem sufficient grounds for breakup. If you want to help your spouse, your children and yourself, then become committed to building and sustaining a strong marriage. There is definitely a correlation between family success and personal success. Not only does building a strong family lay the groundwork for future success, but it also gives life deeper meaning.

Few people have ever been genuinely successful without a positive supportive family. For most people, a good family helps you know your purpose and to develop your potential, and it also helps you enjoy the journey along the way with an intensity that isn’t possible otherwise. If you have been travelling the road on the success journey and you have neglected to carry your family along, it’s time you have to make a U-turn. Don’t forget to pick up the people who are significant in your life. There will be great joy if you do.

I am sure that this book The Winning Family will be a turning point in your life. It