Dating and Mating: The Power of Attraction

By Darren G. Burton

What is the power of attraction between men and women? How can we develop it and emanate more of it?

Dating and Mating: The Power of Attraction helps you develop your powers of attraction through learning what attraction is, how to make yourself more attractive, practicing the art of successful flirting and developing your body language skills.

What's inside:

The Power of Flirting

•What Is Flirting?
•Examples of Flirting
•Flirting In The Dating Game
•Flirting In Relationships
•Flirting In The Bedroom

Attract The Opposite Sex

•What Is Attraction?
•Get To Know Yourself First
•Personality and Character
•The Physical You
•Tips For The Dating Game

Reading the Body Language Signals

•What Is Body Language?
•Examples of Body Language
•What's Your Body Language Saying?
•The Dating and Mating Game
•The Chemistry Is Right

Whether male or female, how to be attractive to the opposite sex, increase your sex appeal and master the art of magnifying your attraction factor. Become highly irresistible, admired and desired by the opposite sex.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Darren G. Burton
• Release date: Jul 28, 2010
• ISBN: 9781452399331

Darren G. Burton

I have been a writer for over 30 years. I've written numerous full length works of fiction and non-fiction, as well as many short stories and [e-mail]

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Dating and Mating

The Power of Attraction

Darren G. Burton

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Contents

The Power of Flirting

What Is Flirting?

Examples of Flirting

Flirting In The Dating Game

Flirting In Relationships

Flirting In The Bedroom

Attract The Opposite Sex

What Is Attraction?

Get To Know Yourself First

Personality and Character

The Physical You

Tips For The Dating Game

Reading the Body Language Signals

What Is Body Language?

Examples of Body Language

What’s Your Body Language Saying?

The Dating and Mating Game

The Chemistry Is Right

- The Power of Flirting -

What Is Flirting?

What exactly is flirting?

Flirting is a form of communication between the sexes that can be non-verbal (body language) or communicated orally. Flirting usually contains overtones of sexual promise and subsequent connotations. In essence, flirting is a very powerful art form, and one that can raise levels of interest and desire to the point of natural intoxication.

Dictionary Definition

Playful behaviour designed to arouse sexual interest

Sexual or romantic interest displayed without serious intent

Talk to or behave amorously

Behave carelessly or indifferently to a given situation or person

* Definition courtesy Webster Online Dictionary

Sexual Chemistry

Pheromones are a natural substance inherent in the human body that are excreted externally. These substances become airborne and have the ability to attract others, generating a social response. Biologists defined pheromones in 1959 as a substance that attracts and triggers a sexual response in animals of the same species. The same goes for the human race.

That elusive thing called sexual chemistry is often a result of one person’s pheromones being picked up on by a member of the opposite sex. And the other partner is also attracted to the pheromones of the first person.

Pheromones are a natural scent (although not offensive body odor). These smells are obviously transferred subtly through the air and sensed by the nose of another. We all have individual smells and pheromones. While our pheromones may attract one person, they will not necessarily attract another.

Sexual chemistry has the power to incite sexual interest, and therefore the desire to flirt with that person of interest.

Serious Interest, Or Just For Fun?

So if someone is flirting with you, does that mean they are genuinely interested in meeting and taking things further? Or are they just playing around for a little harmless fun?

This is an age-old dilemma for which there is no definitive or easy answer. The art of flirting has been around for as long as mankind has roamed this Earth. And no doubt flirting of every kind will be an integral part of human interaction for as long as humans inhabit the planet.

Flirting can be either form – serious or fun - while still adopting and displaying exactly the same actions.

I think we have all been guilty on occasion of flirting with someone that we were not interested in; either just for the hell of it, or just because we can. Maybe even an effort to get some attention. Or to incite interest that’s not reciprocated. Interest that lifts us up, makes us feel attractive, makes us feel good inside that someone is responding favorably to us. We all need to be liked, to be found attractive in some form by the opposite sex. It’s a natural part of life.

Of course, on the other side of the coin, someone may be flirting because they are genuinely keen on the person they are flirting with. If you are being flirted with, the only way to answer the question of whether the interest is real or not is to take things a step further. If the flirting is a sign of sincere interest, then the flirting party will respond favorably. If, however, the flirting is just a bit of fun, the flirt will soon back off once the ball is hit firmly back in their court.

Physical Attraction

Physical attraction is certainly one of the main catalysts to inspire one to either flirt, or be flirted with. Both men and women are attracted to good looks, or things they find appealing about the opposite sex, and a natural byproduct of that attraction is a desire to flirt.

Physical attraction can be defined by the following points:

Face

Body/Physique

Clothing

Mannerisms or Body Language

Personal Style

Scent

Pheromones

These all impact on how attractive we find a person to be, or someone finds us to be. But everyone is different, and what appeals to one person will not definitely translate into attraction for another.

Flirting, however, is not just confined to those which we find attractive. As mentioned in the previous topic, we have the inherent ability to be able to flirt with anyone and everyone.

Reason for this will include, but will not be limited to:

Harmless fun

Attention seeking

To gain an advantage

To seek favors

A desire to coerce someone into giving us something we want

To get our own way

Genuine attraction – sexual and romantic interest

Personality and Character

Although not among the very first things that attract one person to another, a person’s personality and, to a lesser extent, their character, can add to the overall attraction package of a person and thus lend itself to the desire to flirt or be flirted with.

A vibrant and infectious personality can also override a person’s lack of obvious physical attraction.

Examples of Flirting

In this section we will very briefly glance at some of the more common examples of typical flirting. Some of these are performed by both men and women alike, while others will be predominantly either the male’s or female’s domain.

Typical Flirting Gestures

Casual glance

Short, darting glance

Sideways glance

Double take, second glance

Eye contact, gaze

Body scan

Looking at lips or body parts

Open smile

A coy smile

Laughter

Giggle

Wink

Head nod

Toss of the head or hair

Playing with the hair

Raised eyebrow

A solitary dance

Dance with acceptance gestures

Dance request

Parade oneself

Hang out close by

Pointing or granting permission to approach

Gesticulation

Lean closer

Neck presentation

Accentuated hip swaying

Pouting lips

Lip licking

Lipstick application

Caressing objects

Playing with accessories

Clothing adjustment

Skirt hike

Unbuttoning shirt

Trouser adjustment

Mirroring other person’s body language

Open body language

Arm flex

Puffing out of the chest

Strutting

Hand gestures

Open palm gestures

Preening

Whispered conversation

Suggestive conversation

Approach

Leg caress

Arm caress

Back caress

Torso caress

Face caress

Hair caress

Touching the knee

Stroke or brush of the thigh

Tap

Hand hold

Hug

Pat on the buttocks

Shoulder hug

Playful behaviour

Feet facing toward you

Face to face contact

Frontal body contact

Body contact laterally

Breast touch

Entering someone’s personal space

Kiss

Flirting Clusters

Just as with reading a person’s body language, in order to accurately decipher someone’s flirting gestures, it usually has to be read in clusters; meaning, more than one action that points to the same conclusion.

Some simple examples of clusters:

Eye contact accompanied by a smile

Eye contact accompanied by a wink and clothing adjustment

Suggestive conversation followed up with physical contact such as a thigh caress

Hanging close by and subtly moving in closer

An approach