Honourable Marriage

By Harry Thompson Tawiah-Ussher

Marriage is the most honourable institution above all else God has ever instituted. But how one’s marriage becomes honourable does not depend on God but on the individual concerned. In fact, God wants everyone’s marriage to have the kind of honour it deserves, but is that what we are seeing today?
No matter your race or how you are framed, there is someone you love or will love and want to settle down with one day. In this book, the author upon carefully studying what brings about dishonour in marriages, has addressed very small and pertinent aspects that most couples have ignored but which are responsible for making marriages honourable. He has also outlined very important points the unmarried should take note of as they prepare themselves for marriage, in order for them to have a blissful and honourable marriage.
This book will further help you to understand:
what marriage does to a person,
the purpose for which God brought two different people from different backgrounds together,
the will of God regarding your choice of a spouse,
the common mistakes people make before and after marriage and how to avoid them,
the honour and favour marriage brings to a person,
the principles of marriage,
what is expected of every husband and wife,
how most men failed the test of riches and wealth,
how to talk to your spouse,
how to prepare your children to become good husbands and wives,
how to make your spouse’s birthday special and memorable,
how divorce is not an option for marital challenges and the kind of prayers to pray, etc.

It is a book you would want to have in your home as a married or single person to read over and over again for guidance and to recommend to others.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Harry Thompson Tawiah-Ussher
• Release date: May 15, 2017
• ISBN: 9789996802447

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Honourable

Marriage

Honourable

Marriage

A Guide for Spouses and Spouses to Be

Harry Thompson Tawiah-Ussher

Copyright © 2017 Harry Thompson Tawiah-Ussher

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First edition 2017

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Dedication

I dedicate this book to my children Rodney, Lordina and any future offspring.

Acknowledgements

My sincere appreciation to Kelebogile (Kelly). Thanks for being my wife, best friend, most faithful supporter and pillar of strength beside me. You are my worst critic yet indispensable, superb and extraordinary. As the devoted mother of our children you always light up the house with your presence. Words cannot express your worth and how much you mean to me. May God bless you abundantly for always being there for each of us.

To Almighty God my father, to Jesus, my elder brother and the Holy Spirit, my professor who helped me to write this manuscript.

About the Author

Harry Thompson Tawiah-Ussher is the founder of Glory House Chapel International, a church established in 2009. He is an evangelist by calling, an intercessor, a teacher of the Word, and a writer. One of his passions is to see every marriage fulfil the purpose for which God brought it together. He holds marriage seminars to help couples bring life into their marriages. He also holds regular singles seminars because he believes there is a need for all singles to keep themselves pure as they prepare themselves for marriage. The mandate of the church is to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ without fear or favour to every single soul by going on aggressive evangelism and crusades to win souls for the Lord Jesus Christ. No matter how much it costs, intercede for the deliverance of souls and community transformation. Furthermore, the ministry trains people to have a soul winning mentality, to have right standing with God and the art of warfare. Mr Tawiah-Ussher resides in Francistown, Botswana with his wife and children.

Table of Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgements

About the Author

Introduction

What Is Marriage?

What Is Honour?

Singlehood

The Will of God Regarding Your Choice of a Spouse

There Is No Perfect Woman on Earth

What Makes Marriage Honourable

What Does Not Make Marriage Honourable?

Principles of Marriage

The Favour of God in Marriage

What Is Expected of Every Husband

What Is Expected of Every Wife

How Most Married Men Have Failed the Test of Riches and Wealth

How to Talk to Your Spouse

Making Your Spouse’s Birthday Special and Memorable

Honourable Children

How to Prepare Your Children to Become Good Husbands and Wives

God-Fearing Parents

The Prideful Parents

The Christian Home

How Premarital Sex Has Destroyed Many Marriages

The Consequences of Adultery

How Some In-Laws Influence Marriages

Maidservants in Homes

Before You File For a Divorce, Think Again

Prayer Section

Other Books by the Same Author Yet to Be Published

Introduction

Over the years certain worldly people and Christians alike have made it look as if marriage has no honour, but the Bible says that marriage is honourable amongst all. Hebrews 13:4 says, Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Marriage is the highest form of institution God ever ordained. Through the sacrament of marriage His will for humanity and the world at large is realised. God has more than seven billion plans for His children and the only way they can be manifested is through people. Those people can only be birthed after union between a man and a woman in marriage. When God wanted to save the world through the second Adam, Jesus Christ, He could have done so by merely allowing Jesus to appear in the skies without any form of question. Although He has the power to do anything He pleases, He chose a virgin on the point of marriage. In His wisdom He stresses the importance of marriage and honours it.

As a couple is married, a number of miracles take place in the realms of the spirit. With the passage of time all those miracles gradually begin to manifest physically in their lives. For this reason many married people have experienced astounding good fortune. Those who had despaired of finding work, becoming financially secure, building houses, owning companies, buying new cars, owning real estate or private jets reached their goals and became prosperous in all respects. This is all thanks to the favour of God on marriage.

In John 2:1-11 we understand that the first ever miracle Jesus performed was at a marriage ceremony in Cana of Galilee. This illustrates the importance of marriage in God’s eyes.

The Effects of Marriage On A Person

There is nothing as beautiful as a loving marriage between a man and a woman. Imagine the world without men and women, or life without marriage. What would it be like? When God wanted to bless Abraham, He waited for him to marry and then through his son He made a covenant with him: Then the Angel of the Lord called to Abraham a second time out of heaven, and said: "By Myself I have sworn, says the Lord, because you have done this thing, and have not withheld your son, your only son, I will bless you, and I will multiply your descendants as the stars of the heaven and as the sand which is on the seashore; and your descendants shall possess the gate of their enemies. In your seed all the nations of the earth shall be blessed, because you have obeyed My voice" (Genesis 22:15-18).

Many of those formerly regarded by society as being useless, nondescript, promiscuous, cheap, prostitutes, womanisers, drug addicts, thieves and the like, became respected in society after they marry through the honour that comes with this sacrament. Marriage brings dignity to a person. As a pastor, after you are married God can trust you with more responsibilities and saving more souls. In 1 Timothy 3:1-2, 4, 5, we can fully understand God’s requirements for being a pastor: This is a faithful saying: If a man desires the position of a bishop, he desires a good work (Verse 1). A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behaviour, hospitable, able to teach (Verse 2). One who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence (Verse 4). For if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God? (Verse 5)

God can also bless or trust people with finance when they marry because He knows they will be able to handle it, support His work, and be a blessing to others. A large amount of money in the hands of a thirty or forty-year-old bachelor is similar to an incompetent banker who has been appointed to head a multimillion dollar bank. Marriage is a lifetime journey on which everyone must embark. You may be someone who likes travelling but if you have never been married, you have never travelled! Therefore you do not know what it means to stay calm when there is a great deal of turbulence in the air. As soon as you marry, God releases double grace over your life to help you to function the way you ought to, either as a husband or as a wife.

In certain well-known organisations, they can only promote you without hesitation and trust you with certain responsibilities once you are married. When you are not, they often compel you to marry first before thinking of promoting you and giving you important responsibilities. Large financial institutions often make these demands because they know marriage makes people grow, mature and become level-headed.

Marriage gives people a good sense of responsibility and promotes stability. We marry to obey God’s commandments of replenishing the earth. In Genesis 1:28 the Bible says, Then God blessed them, and God said to them, Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. We marry for fellowship and fellowship is that which sustains marriage. In Genesis 2: 18, the Word of God says, And the Lord God said; It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.

Marriage is also intended for partnership. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-11 the Word of God says, Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour (Verse 9). If they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls; he has no one to help him up (Verse 10). Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? (Verse 11)

One of the greatest advantages of marriage is that you are delivered of sexual sin unless you decide to indulge in it again. This is a fact of which the majority are completely unaware. Through deliverance from sexual sin, there is absolutely nothing you cannot achieve in life and no height beyond your reach. Marriage helps people to serve God well without losing focus. In other words, it helps you to become an obedient Christian.

The Challenges That Come With Marriage

Compatibility with the person you are going to marry is extremely important for success. Should this not the case, you are likely to encounter many challenges. Marriage is the most excellent institution God has ordained because it is honourable and glorious. Unfortunately many people are bitter, frustrated, angry, and unfulfilled with deep regrets of their marriages. They can only speak of the numerous battles and difficulties which they have faced since taking this step.

Some people even see divorce as a way of ending marital problems. Many couples wish they were never married because of the unhappy outcomes of their marriages. However, others are so happy and blessed with glorious, fruitful, and honourable marital life. Whichever way you look at it and according to the Bible, marriage is honourable amongst all.

Apart from the challenges that come with marriage, it is far better to be married than to remain single. The benefits that come with marriage are way beyond the imagination. I have come to realise that challenges make you a better person and draw you closer to God. If you are experiencing marital challenges you really need to be strong, as it will be to your advantage in the future. Just keep believing in Jesus. The Bible says in Romans 8:28, And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. This scripture leads us to understand that everything a believer endures works out for his or her good in the end. So whatever happens, hold on! It will not kill you but make you a better person. The divorce you are contemplating is not a solution to your problem but rather a disastrous end to your life. The devil throws a lot of missiles at people when they marry, so if you are going through spiritual problems, please seek help as God wants you to succeed in marriage.

Most people fold their arms and watch things going from bad to worse but refuse to seek help. If you are in this category, please take action and seek help from God. Whatever your thoughts regarding the flaws and bad experiences in your married life, there is no difference in the way God sees marriage, including your own. Hold onto your faith because you will laugh in the end. Every marriage has the backing of God, except for those instances where a husband or wife has been snatched or killed in the process. No matter how good or bad life has been since you were married, marriage is still honourable. Life is what you make it, so make your marriage the way you want it to be and enjoy it.

Chapter 1

What Is Marriage?

My limited research on marriage allowed me to discover that the definition of marriage varies according to different cultures. However, it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged. In some cultures,