Well Groomed: A Wedding Planner for What's-His-Name (and His Bride)
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Peter Scott grew up in post war austerity Britain and joined the RAF.He was lucky enough to be posted to Kenya which sparked an interest in mountaineering and the local ecology, but it also acquainted him with the cruelty inherent in our own species.Later, as an aircraft engineer in various parts of the world he could see the difficulty of squaring rapid population growth without poverty and damage to the natural environment.Now settled at home he dismally concludes that his own precious island is also struggling to be a green and pleasant land as the population heads for seventy million.Apart from being a general misery, he enjoys playing clarinet and jazz saxaphone; ranting on the BBC, and writing.
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Well Groomed - Peter Scott
Well Groomed
Well Groomed
A Wedding Planner for What's-His-Name (and His Bride)
PETER SCOTT
BLOOMSBURY
Copyright © 2006 by Peter Scott
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Scott, Peter, 1976-
Well groomed : a wedding planner for what's-his-name (and his bride) / Peter Scott.—1st U.S. ed. 2006.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
eISBN: 978-1-59691-905-1
1. Weddings—Planning. 2. Weddings—Humor. 3. Bridegrooms. I. Title.
HQ745.S36 2006
395.2'2—dc22
2005017991
First U.S. Edition 2006
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
Typeset by Westchester Book Group
Printed in the United States of America by Quebecor World Fairfield
Contents
Introduction
1. How Can a Magazine Cost $12.95 and Not Have Pictures of Naked People in It? An Introduction to Bridal Magazines
2. Why Is Mussolini Planning Our Wedding? Choosing a Wedding Planner
3. Why Are We Getting Married in a Barn on the Outskirts of Calgary on February 4th? Date and Venue
4. Do We Really Need Another Tiny Crystal Bowl? Creating Your Gift Registry
5. Why Didn't I Become a Florist? The Surprising Cost of Your Wedding Vendors
6. Shouldn't I Know at Least Some of These People? Making Your Guest List
7. Do All These Drunk People Really Need to Be on a Sugar High, Too? The Wedding Cake
8. Is There Anyone Coming to the Wedding Who Isn't a Bridesmaid? Selecting the Bridal Party
9. Why Are You and Your Mom Acting Like Rival Street Gangs? The Complicated Relationship You Have with Your Parents During the Wedding Planning
10. Why Don't We Just Use E-vite? Creating Your Wedding Invitations
11. Why Is Everyone Suddenly Acting Like a Moron? Dealing with Out-of-Town Guests
12. Um . . . Sweetie, Are You Okay? An Interlude While Your Bride (and You) Have a Quick Meltdown
13. Should My Finger Be Turning Blue? Selecting Your Wedding Rings
14. The Airlines Charge People for Meals Now, so Why Can't We? Selecting the Dinner Menu
15. So, Basically Your Dress Costs a Thousand Dollars an Hour, Right? Getting Your Outfits for the Big Day
16. Honey, Is Our Love More Like a Gentle Snowfall or a Beautiful Sunset? Creating Your Wedding Ceremony
17. Why Is Vomiting a Prerequisite to Marriage? The Highs and Lows of the Bachelor Party
18. Is There Any Money Left for a Honeymoon? Planning a Much-Needed Vacation
19. Who Asked This Person to Speak? The Rehearsal Dinner
20. How Come It's Raining and Does Anyone Know Where Grandma Went and Is It Normal to Feel Nauseous? The Big Day Arrives!
21. Warning! Don't Ask These Questions!
22. Reward Yourself Using This Checklist
Conclusion: It's All Worth It
for my wife, Emily
(obviously)
Introduction
Planning a wedding reminded me a lot of the first time I ever went skiing. Beforehand, I was excited, a bit nervous, and knew that I needed to buy some expensive, new clothes. Later, after everything was over and done with, I was exhausted, oddly hungry for a cheeseburger, and in desperate need of a trip to Hawaii. The real surprise for me, though, came in between the beginning and the end of both events. On those occasions, there were many moments where I found myself totally confused and saying, My God! I had no idea it would be this complicated!
I don't mean to suggest for a second that being engaged isn't completely wonderful. It is. In fact, here's a secret that surprises a lot of women: Men really enjoy being engaged. Why? First and foremost, we're in love. And if the cost of being in love is forty-two trips to the florist over the next six months, so be it. It's a small price to pay.
The second reason men enjoy being engaged is that in accepting our engagement ring, the woman we love has agreed to let us look at her boobs for the next seventy-five years. This makes us feel very secure and happy. I've heard some women express concern that their husbands may not be as attracted to them as they grow older. Nonsense. A man's desire to look at his wife's boobs will never be satiated.
But even with the excitement of being in love (and the boob-viewing potential that came with it), there were many moments in the engagement process for which I felt totally unprepared. I kept wishing there were a tribal elder in my village who could sit me down and tell me, Kid, just so you know, here's what your engagement is going to be like.
But since I live in the village of Los Angeles, the tribal elders are also marrying women in their late twenties, so they're learning right along with me.
Something needed to be done.
What This Book Is Not
I went to the bookstore and quickly discovered that books for the bride outnumber books for the groom by a ratio of about 86,952 to 1. Moreover, the wedding books for men were all step-by-step manuals on how to be a good groom. And I think how-to books are rather silly. A doctor doesn't need a how-to book in order to remove someone's tonsils. If he does, you should think of him less as a doctor and more as a dude with a knife.
More to the point, every engagement is different and carries with it a unique set of responsibilities for each groom.
Okay. That's a lie. The truth is you don't need a whole book to explain how to be a good groom, because for 97 percent of us it can be summed up in two easy steps:
Golden Groom Rules
1. Have an opinion on everything.
2. Immediately concede that opinion when it's made clear that it's wrong (usually 2.6 nanoseconds after it's been expressed).
Consider the following example:
BRIDE: Babe, what font do you think we should use on our save-the-date cards: Times New Roman or Palatino?
GROOM: Palatino.
BRIDE: I prefer Times New Roman.
GROOM: Me too!
[Bride kisses groom.]
BRIDE: My mom thinks we should use Helvetica.
GROOM: Darling, I love your mother, and while we don't want to hurt her feelings, if there is a difference of opinion, I think you should always get what you want.
[Bride makes love to groom.]
How to Use This Book
Now that you know how to be a good groom (wasn't that easy?), the goal of this book is to help you be a knowledgeable groom. Why is this important? Because you will care a surprising amount about your wedding details. Not every guy will care the same amount, mind you, but every guy will care more than he personally expected. Planning to have no involvement? Wait until it's time to select the booze. Planning to be involved just a little bit? Trust me, after meeting with seven photographers, eleven bands, and twenty-nine caterers, you'll feel very involved. Planning to be the groom of the year? Then be prepared to wake up in a cold sweat at night and yell, Did we block off enough hotel rooms?!
Your wedding is a big event and you won't want to watch from the sidelines. Think of the engagement process as a long road trip that you and your bride are taking together. In the history of road trips, no guy has ever said, Honey, you drive the car, and I'll just sit here quietly and look out the window without any interest in how fast you're going or which route we're taking.
At each stage of my own engagement, I found myself asking a series of questions that I never dreamed I'd be pondering. Each chapter of this book will answer one of these questions, beginning with those you'll ask moments after getting engaged and ending with the ones that will still be dancing around in your head as you say, I do.
In the end, I hope that having the answers to these questions means your engagement will be free of the stress and confusion that typically surround wedding planning. Or, at the very least, you can laugh at the stress and confusion when they do occur, because laughter is the best medicine... unless you have dry skin, in which case I'd probably recommend moisturizer and some vitamin E instead of laughter.
Knock Her Socks Off
At the end of each chapter I've included this little section to help you, the groom, show off all the knowledge you've just gained. Consider it an insider's tip—a relevant word to add to your vocabulary, a cost-saving technique, a handy Web site—with which to impress your lady. Chances are she's already well aware of whatever you're telling her. Moreover, you'll probably find yourself accidentally using the new vocabulary incorrectly (like how I always say coffee table when I mean side table, which, in some circles, is an error more heinous than manslaughter). Nonetheless, you'll be richly rewarded for your effort.
And if you're worried that these wedding tips don't feel macho enough, you should know ahead of time that when you're engaged, your competitive juices will suddenly change from Dude, how much can you bench-press?
to You don't know the first thing about videographers, do you, punk?
For the Bride
Ladies, let me first congratulate you on your recent engagement. In each chapter I have also included this section especially for you, since, as you know, it is unwise to talk about the engagement without including the bride. This book is meant to be a guide for you as well as your groom. Even those of you who have been thinking about your wedding since you were zygotes will nevertheless find that there are twists and turns in the planning stage that you didn't expect. This book will give you some additional information to complement the knowledge you have already gained over the years, because, in the words of G.I. Joe, knowing is half the battle
(the other half of the battle, by the way, is your parents).
This section will also attempt to explain why your man has so many questions about the wedding planning, most of which must seem as moronic as asking: Is peanut butter a country and Italy a sandwich spread, or is it the other way around?
Just remember that we're usually asking these questions because we love you and because we want to learn more. Incidentally, you ask us dumb questions, too—not about weddings, but about other things. Questions like: Are you sure you know what you're doing?
and Want to try some of my tofu?
So good luck, happy planning, and, just so you know, here's what it's going to be like.
1
How Can a Magazine
Cost $12.95 and Not Have
Pictures of Naked People in It?
An Introduction to Bridal Magazines
Immediately after you become engaged, and in some cases as you are putting the ring on her finger, your brand-new fiancée will celebrate the commitment you have just made to her by leaving you alone at home while she goes off to buy bridal magazines. This isn't to suggest that she doesn't already own several bridal magazines. She does. But she's hidden them, just like you've hidden your porn. Now that she's officially engaged, though, it's time for a new crop of magazines that can be proudly displayed in public. (Your porn, however, should still remain hidden.)
Upon arriving at her local newsstand, your fiancée will be met by several of her closest female friends. These friends have not been called—they have been summoned to this particular location by supernatural powers, just like all those people who drove to Iowa to watch dead guys play baseball in the movie Field of Dreams.
The first thing her friends will do is look at her engagement ring and discuss how much they love it. Or rather they will say how much they love it but will really be speaking in secret girl code.
After these pleasantries are exchanged, your new bride-to-be and her best friends will proceed to buy every bridal magazine in the store, for a total cost of $409.83. Even if your bride isn't particularly interested in bridal magazines, this is her one big chance to buy them and she feels obliged to do so. Not getting them would be like going all the way to Egypt and then skipping the pyramids because you decide it's too hot outside.
As I alluded to earlier, the best way to understand why your fiancée is spending large amounts of money on bridal magazines is to think of them as porn for the engaged woman.
Similarities Between Bridal Magazines and Porn Magazines
1. Both contain lots of pictures of women in outfits they