How to Grow a Beautiful Relationship: Transforming the Deep Roots of your Inner Garden to Cultivate Fulfilling Relationships

By Heather Donaldson

What makes me a qualified reporter and results-maker for relationships is that after suffering with relationships that simply weren't working, I had to find a way to have more fulfilling relationships. I did the research, attended counseling, listened to the experts, synthesized all that I had gathered and summarized it. Thus I learned what was I doing wrong and found the path to creating a functional, mature and fun relationship. Then I came up with a simple strategy, system and tools which I packaged so that others could easily use them. While this book covers all the bases, one golden tool that is applied throughout is the popular and scientifically validated Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), which I fully credit for the turn-around I experienced. Learn how you can do the same as this unique guide explains how EFT can be used to clear the weeds of your ‘inner garden’ and your ‘relationship garden’. In other words, it gives you solutions to your personal strife so you will have more satisfaction, harmony and bliss in your relationships. No matter what your situation is, from initiating dating through to consciously becoming single again, this book will bring you closer to your ‘garden of paradise’.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Heather Donaldson
• Release date: Aug 23, 2014
• ISBN: 9781310957062

Heather Donaldson

Bio:About the AuthorHeather Donaldson, a skilled, compassionate, and dedicated healer working in the Sea to Sky corridor between Vancouver, Squamish and Whistler British Columbia, Canada has always been drawn to all things ‘natural’, balancing work and leisure. Her outlook is to simply live and enjoy life, including rest, healthy eating, activity and value exchanges, relaxed in the knowledge that there is enough for all. is . She brings her unique and diverse expertise, extensive qualifications and over thirty years of experience to her holistic health promotion practice encompassing nutrition, massage, shiatsu, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and tai chi. Within government, she managed programs, which included media communications and campaigns.With a commitment to helping others access more easeful living, as she has done herself, her current offerings provide a rich range of physical and metaphysical benefits—reduced emotional and physical pain, improved relationships, and a greater sense of peace, joy, ease and confidence in everyday life.Heather is fulfilling her vision of herself as a calm, caring communicator co-creating conscious evolution. She connects powerfully with clients both in-person and through her books, online videos, group programs, live seminars, and private SKYPE or telephone sessions.Her business, Nature's Way Holistic Health, provides an integrated range of services and programs designed to revitalize body, mind and spirit.The unique ‘RootsEFT’ (Emotional Freedom Technique) program was created by Heather to help individuals through profound and lasting transformation, with a recent focus on intimate relationships. She guides clients to break down barriers, current belief systems and emotional patterns that no longer serve, in order to create increasing levels of health and happiness, bringing more balance, strength and vitality into their lives.

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HOW TO GROW A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP

Transforming the Deep Roots

of your Inner Garden to

Cultivate Fulfilling Relationships

Heather Donaldson

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Canadian Cataloguing First Publication Date: March 2014

ISBN-13: 978-1497368880 ISBN-10: 149736888X

Heather Donaldson

HOW TO GROW A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP

1. Relationships 2. Personal Development

Edited by Lee Johnson, Literary Consultant and Book Enabler

Cover design by Lee Johnson

Layout and Kindle Preparation by Lighthouse24

Table of Contents

Title/Copyright Page

PREFACE

Introduction: It’s all about Me! (i.e. You!)

My Relationship Story

PART ONE: Preparing the Inner Garden

Step 1: Weeding

The Deep Roots

Step 2: Allowing the Flowers to Bloom

PART TWO: Best Gardening Practices for Relationships

Step 3: Planting Seeds or Re-visioning a Relationship

The Healthy Relationship Garden

The Natural Cycle of Relationships

Step 4: Weeding the Relationship Garden

Step 5: Nurturing the Flowers

The Friendship Flower

Heather’s Five Sparkling Hours

Enjoy the Blossoms of Sexual Intimacy

Communication ‘Best Gardening’ Tools

Tool 1: Compassionate Communication

Tool 2: Communication Games

Tool 3: Advice about Listening

Tool 4: Couples Tapping

Step 6: Harvesting

Appendix One: Compassionate Communication: Feelings Chart

Appendix Two: Compassionate Communication: Needs List

Appendix Three: Difficult Conversation Formula

Bibliography

About the Author

Endnotes

Preface

I

Have you ever loved and lost?

Do you find yourself repeating the same mistakes in your relationships—time and time again?

Do you feel you’ve given so much, and gotten so little in return?

Have you sometimes tried the opposite of what failed in the past—and it still failed?

Have you ever found a relationship that worked—finally!—only for it to fall apart in the end... again...?

Did all this leave you feeling frustrated, hurt, sad and resentful?

If you said ‘Yes’ to any of these, then you’re not alone. Millions of other people have experienced the same frustrations—including me.

Although I’ve changed the way I view my own relationship experiences now, I wanted to share with you that I’ve ‘been there’ too with regard to relationship difficulties.

That’s what motivated me to study relationships, develop my ‘Inner Gardening’ course to help cultivate a better relationship, and of course write this book.

My intention in writing this is to hopefully coax and guide you to a favorable new perspective that will enhance your relationships forever. Together, we will explore and distill the often confusing, frustrating and even painful aspects of intimate relationships... right down to the workable, irresistible essence of what it takes to succeed.

And, while this alone can offer some relief if you have been struggling, we also offer some tools to give you renewed confidence and a practical means to move forward.

II

Throughout the book, we use a simple gardening analogy to refer to our inner selves, as well as to our relationships.

The ‘inner gardening’ analogy also helps to explain how Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) can enhance our relationships—and all aspects of our lives—by getting right down to the root of our problems.

Unless we identify and control these ‘weeds’, we cannot hope to cultivate the beautiful garden we desire.

It’s important to know that prior experience with EFT is not essential to gaining some benefit from this book. We’ll cover some basics here, but if you would like to know a little more about EFT, you can find introductory guides, video demonstrations of