I Just Want To Be Happy: "How To Be Happy By Understanding The World and Finding Your Place In It"

By Rohan James

In this easy-to-read common sense guide, international Author and Life Coach Rohan James clearly describes the Universal Laws that govern the largest of stars, the smallest of particles and everything in between - including us! He also shows that even though our genetics, outer circumstances and dreams may appear to be very different, the basic composition of all human beings is the same.

With scientifically proven Universal Laws governing our lives and our inner framework the same, there must also be a universal blueprint for our happiness that supersedes and overrides all individual circumstances.

After twenty-one years of research, experimentation and refinement, Rohan now reveals this model and makes it available to you. His down to earth style, every day language and humour will keep you engaged and entertained as you learn the deepest truths about your existence and purpose, but most importantly – how to be HAPPY!

You will also learn:
Why your life is the way it is
How you can put stress, anxiety and depression behind you – forever!
How you can develop robust health & vitality
How you can look and feel younger
How you can find your life’s purpose
How you can make more money easily and effortlessly
How you can predict the future!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Rohan James
• Release date: Aug 8, 2014
• ISBN: 9781310401060

Rohan James

I became fascinated with the psychology of Human Performance and Potential more than twenty five years ago, while looking for “an edge” when I was competing as a professional sports person...This obsession with Human Potential has continued ever since and over the years I have studied, trialed and documented methods from several hundred success, health and happiness books...I have applied these principles into my own life and I have been fortunate to have had many rich fulfilling experiences such as; competing on the pro golf tour, building and running my own successful businesses as well as managing others in the corporate arena...I also know that no research into Human Performance and Potential would be complete without a thorough understanding of what many people call our “spiritual” aspect...With this in mind, over the past twenty years I have also studied our “spiritual” existence and potential from the perspective of several different “schools” that include, Quantum Mechanics, Sacred Geometry, World Religions, various Shamanic Cultures, Indian and Chinese Philosophies, Cosmology, as well as various forms of Yoga and Qi Gong...All this study and “real world” experience has allowed to me to practice, observe and refine what works and doesn’t work for me and for thousands of others to achieve outstanding success, health, fulfilment and happiness...I love waking up in the morning, happy, knowing that I have the privilege of working with people from all walks of life who trust me to be able to empower and guide them towards their own vision of success...I am so passionate about helping others to become all that they really want be, that I have written and produced four books so far!I have written them to help share some of this knowledge to those who otherwise wouldn’t have access to it.These titles are:Pain Free Success - The 4 Steps Successful People Know That the Others Don'tThe Yoga Revolution – “Bridging the Gap Between Spiritualism and Materialism”I Just Want To Be Happy! – “How to Be Happy By Understanding the World and Finding Your Place in it”5 Steps To Looking Younger – “A Practical Step-by-Step Guide To Anti-Aging”.“Sometimes, I have to pinch myself to see if my life is real...”I am doing work that I absolutely love doing and I live and work in a beautiful environment overlooking the beach less than five minutes from Gold Coast Airport, Australia...When I am not helping others to achieve their unique version of success, you will find me socializing with my friends and family or catching a wave at one of the world-class surf breaks available on my doorstep.

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DISCLAIMER

All the information, techniques, skills and concepts contained within this publication are of the nature of general comment only and are not in any way recommended
as individual advice. The intent is to offer a variety of information to provide a wider range of choices now and in the future, recognizing that we all have widely diverse circumstances and viewpoints. Should any reader choose to make use of the information contained herein, this is their decision, and the contributors (and their companies), authors and publishers do not assume any responsibilities whatsoever under any condition or circumstances. It is recommended that the reader obtain his or her own independent advice.

I Just Want To Be Happy!

Rohan James

Smashwords Edition

Copyright 2014 Rohan James

ISBN: 9781310401060

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National Library of Australia Cataloguing-in-Publication entry:

James, Rohan:
I just want to be happy: how to be happy by understanding the world and finding your place in it / Rohan James

Happiness / 
Stress Management / Life Skills / Depression

Acknowledgement

Traditionally this is the page where I say thanks to all the people who have contributed to making this work a reality. I am going to break with tradition slightly and acknowledge just one very special person. I am sure that the other wonderful people involved in putting this body of work together will not be put out by this break in tradition.

Even though I am a writer I sometimes struggle to find the words to express the level of my gratitude for this amazing person, without whom this book would never have been possible.

Her involvement, unconditional love and support have been so incredible, that she is just as, if not more, responsible for the successful production of this book than I am.

With that being said, I would like to say my utmost Muchas Gracias to:

Giselle Te’ Amo

She is truly an angel here on Earth.

Dedication

This book is dedicated to you and your happiness!

Contents

Introduction

Important – Please Read This!

Part I - Laying the Foundation

Chapter 1 - The Search for Happiness

Chapter 2 - Understanding the World

Chapter 3 - Who You Really Are

Chapter 4 - Why Your Life Is the Way It Is

Part II - Understand & Develop Your Inner Structure

Chapter 5 - The Fundamentals of Physical Health

Chapter 6 - The Five Energy Boosters

Chapter 7 - The Three Causes of Unhappiness

Chapter 8 - Managing Your Emotions

Chapter 9 - The Art of Thinking Clearly

Part III - Your Life, Your Way!

Chapter 10 - Discovering Your Life’s Purpose

Chapter 11 - Guaranteeing Your Success

Chapter 12 - How To Predict the Future

Bibliography

A Little About Me (About the Author)

Introduction

Warning! This book will change your life!

I know you have probably heard this before, but I am very serious; if you are a person that doesn’t like change, this book is not for you. If you are set in your ways and are not interested to consider another way of looking at the world and your life, please put this book back on the shelf and allow someone else, who really needs it, to pick it up from where you found it. If you are content with the current status quo in your life, please do not read any further. Continuing could shake you up because you may discover that you have been putting up with far less than what you really want or deserve. If you have picked up this book out of curiosity, just to see what theories this guy is throwing out there, then you are in very grave danger. If you are one of the curious, be warned that this book will hit some nerves that may induce a state of restlessness. This could happen because you will be learning about Universal Laws. These Universal Laws can now be scientifically proven and they resonate so deeply within the core of your being that once triggered there can be no turning back. Universal Laws are nature at work; they operate and affect your life 24/7 regardless of what you believe. For example, The Law of Gravity stops you from flying off this planet whether you consider yourself to be lucky or unlucky, a religious person or an atheist, a brave person or a coward, a motivated person or lazy, a successful person or a failure and so on.

"LOOK DEEP INTO NATURE, AND THEN YOU WILL UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING BETTER." – Albert Einstein.

This book is for you only if you can approach new information with an open mind. You must be open to growing and understand that with growth, some things in your life may change. Failing to be open to the possibility of change while reading this material will leave you living with internal conflict, what psychologists call Cognitive Dissonance and I do not want that for you or anyone. The bottom line is that if you are fixed in your ways and you are not prepared to accept and embrace change, reading this book could be to your detriment. On the other hand, if you are committed to going after all that you really want from life and if you are prepared to work with the Universal Laws, with nature, then proceed to the checkout and buy it now. But don’t just buy it and leave it on your coffee table. This book is not to be read as a novel, it is a reference book from which you can keep learning regardless of how many times you read it. I don’t say this because I think I am the world’s greatest writer, far from it, I say this because I am presenting, amongst other information (and as already mentioned), Universal Laws for your understanding and assimilation.

The interesting thing about Universal Laws is that our understanding of them is determined by our view of the world at the time of reading. As we move through and grow in life, our view changes and with our new perspective, our depth of understanding these laws changes accordingly, so be open to reading and re-reading this information often. Also, be warned that once you begin working with this information, it is in your best interest to never stop studying and practicing for two reasons: 1. The process of nature is growth and expansion and if something is not growing it is in decay or decline and, 2. Ultimate happiness is a final destination, however this destination can only be reached by degrees, i.e. feeling happier and more content today than you did yesterday and so on.

Am I Happy?

Twenty-one years ago I consciously embarked on a journey to find true happiness and today, while I haven’t yet achieved the destination called ultimate happiness, I can honestly say that I am a happier more content person than I was yesterday. There have been many speed bumps along the way, but even so, this is generally how I have felt about my life for the past twenty-one years. Also know that my feelings of happiness are not a result of looking at myself in the mirror each morning and repeating affirmations over and over, so that I can face the world with a big smile on my face. My definition and experience of happiness is at a much deeper level. My happiness is a profound sense of stability, contentment (peace of mind) and purpose.

We All Want To Be Happy!

Over the years, I have studied anything and everything I have been able to get my hands on to learn how other people, schools of thought and institutions work towards the same end. What I discovered from all my research and experimentation is that there are as many ways to human happiness as there are people on the planet and maybe even a few more. However, as I became less of a self-created happiness guinea pig and my life took shape in the form that I had always wished that it would, I began to see the similarities in all of us more and more.

It’s obvious that we all want to be happy, have purpose and have an abundance of money (more than we really need), however, what became fascinating for me the more I studied and experimented, is that there are scientifically proven Universal Laws that govern everything from the largest of stars to the smallest of particles and everything in between, including us! As I have already mentioned, these Universal Laws are different to what you believe in. They don’t care if you are rich or poor, a spiritual person, a religious person or an atheist; they just keep on working and affecting you and your life circumstances regardless. In addition to the Universal Laws, I also learnt that even though our genetics, our outer circumstances and dreams may appear to be very different, the basic composition of human beings is constant from person to person. This is what makes us human beings as opposed to an animal or a plant.

The Blueprint

Given that there are irrefutable Universal Laws governing our lives and that the inner structure of all human beings is constant, then there must also be a model or a formula that can supersede and override any individual circumstances to produce human happiness and fulfillment. In this book I offer you exactly this model.

Theoretical or Real-Life Application?

During the planning of this book, I decided that I would relate some of my own experiences as a way of illustrating some of the principles. I have not done this from a place of narcissism, but because I felt it was important to be able to show you how to apply the knowledge and techniques to real life and its many challenges. I chose to relate some of my own experiences for two reasons; firstly, I am just an ordinary boy from the suburbs, no different to anyone else and secondly, because my path to happiness and fulfillment has been a long bumpy ride. I experienced my first episode of clinical depression just prior to my eighteenth birthday and this abnormality in my physiological makeup continued to manifest frequently over the next twenty-five years.

[Note: It is believed that clinical (biological/major) depression is caused by changes in the levels or activity of certain chemicals within the body – particularly serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine – which are the three main chemicals related to mood and motivation that carry messages within the brain (Source: beyondblue.org.au).]

Over this period I experienced regular bouts of severe lethargy, irritability, mood swings, inability to concentrate, extreme sensitivity to my environment, irritable bowel syndrome, anxiety and panic attacks. These recurring symptoms made my life very difficult for a long time. I often felt as if I was going insane and daily life for me was like walking through quicksand. The symptoms were so unpredictable that at one point I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and three years later I was hospitalized with suspected heart problems; following all the usual cardio stress testing and a catheter procedure (inserting a flexible tube into a blood vessel in my groin and threaded it up into my heart), various neurological tests and psychoanalysis, the diagnosis was nervous exhaustion, or in old school language what would be called a nervous breakdown. There have been times when I didn’t want to participate in life any more, but somehow I managed to muster the strength to keep going and now thanks to my relentless research, experimentation and practice I have been able to win the insidious prolonged battle with my physiology and I have created unshakeable (almost always) inner peace and contentment.

As I became happier and more content on the inside, I found that my outer circumstances also changed. Five years ago, I was living in the suburbs and I was drowning in a sea of debts. I had no idea how I was going to get myself out of the financial mess that I found myself in, courtesy of a sequence of unfortunate events. Then one particular evening, I had a significant moment of internal change that I describe in Chapter 9. This was the missing link! This change within me was so powerful, that when it happened, everything in my life (almost instantaneously) aligned exactly how I wanted. Within twelve months, all my debts were completely paid off and for the past four years I have lived in and worked from a $3m beachfront home.

Despite my erratic biology constantly undermining me, I made myself happy and I am living the life of my dreams using the exact model that I now offer in this book. This means that no matter where you are in your life, you too can create, be or do anything and everything you want using this same model as your basic blueprint.

This book is divided into three parts. In Part I, I explain the Universal Laws that govern your life, provide you with some insight into the world we currently live in, show you who you really are and why your life is exactly the way it is right now. In Part II, I present the blueprint for developing unshakeable happiness and fulfillment; and in Part III, I explain how you can find (or confirm) your true life’s purpose, how you can achieve success in the performance of that role and finally, I show you how you can predict your future.

IF AN ORDINARY BOY FROM THE SUBURBS WHO STRUGGLED WITH HIS BIOLOGY FOR TWENTY-FIVE YEARS CAN DO IT, SO CAN YOU!

If you have read this far, you have either purchased this book already and for that I congratulate you for taking this bold step toward greater happiness and fulfillment. If you haven’t yet purchased this book, there is no turning back; by default you have accepted the challenge. So go to the checkout, finalize your investment and I’ll see you in Part I.

With love,

Rohan James

Important - Please Read This!

Thank you for making your investment in this information. I am very grateful to know that this material is of great interest to you and with this, I want to make sure that you not only get your money’s worth, but also get as much as you possibly can from reading this book.

I stated in the introduction, The interesting thing about Universal Laws is that our understanding of them is determined by our view of the world at the time of reading. As we move through and grow in life, our view changes and with our new perspective, our depth of understanding these laws changes accordingly, so be open to reading and re-reading this information often.

I also mentioned in the introduction that this book is not meant to be read as a novel, it is a reference book that can be read and re-read time and time again and each time you will get something more from it. I have taken the utmost care to refine and demystify this information over a twenty-year period and my aim was to present this material in the clearest plainest language possible given the subject content. Regardless of how well material is presented and because of the reasons mentioned above in italics, you may (particularly if this is your first time reading about such subjects) find some concepts difficult to digest the first time around. Therefore,

My Suggestion: Should you find yourself stuck or confused with a certain passage, simply skip that paragraph, or even the rest of that chapter and continue reading from the next point where things are making sense to you and then go back to those passages at a later time. I suggest this because there may be some very important information applicable to your life after those particular passages and I don’t want you to miss out on that important information by you putting the book down at the first sign of not getting it right now. Always keep in mind, once again, "The interesting thing about Universal Laws is that the depth of our understanding of them is determined by our view of the world at the time of reading".

Happy reading! I would love to hear from you if you have any questions, comments or observations you would like to share with me. I can be contacted via my website, www.findhappinessandpurpose.com/contact

With love and gratitude, Rohan James

PART I

Laying the Foundation

Overview

If you were building a house you would follow a detailed blue print and begin the construction by laying strong sturdy foundations on which to build the rest of your house. Building a happy purposeful life is no different, so in Part I, you will create a strong sturdy foundation with a better understanding of the world you live in, as well as a thorough understanding of the Universal Laws that govern your life. In so doing, you will also learn:

Who you really are

Where you have come from

Why you are here

Why some people are born lucky while others live in poverty

What it takes to be truly happy

Why human relationships can be complex

Where you go when you die

Let’s begin…

CHAPTER 1

The Search for Happiness

I just want to be happy! How many times have you said or heard this? We often say we want to be happy but have you ever stopped to consider what being happy really means? According to the Oxford English Dictionary, happy means, feeling or showing pleasure or contentment. So when you say, I just want to be happy! you are really saying, I just want to feel pleasure or contentment. You study at school and college for many years so you can get a good job that pays you well, but how much time and effort have you devoted to your feeling pleasure or contentment? Most of us claim we want to be happy but then we continue to live the same way and wonder why we are still not happy. As you know,

THE DEFINITION OF INSANITY IS DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND EXPECTING A DIFFERENT RESULT!

The problem with saying, I just want to be happy! is the word just. In this context just means simply or merely. This means what you are really saying is that you would like to be happy, but you are not really prepared to do the work to make it happen. So it remains a pipe dream. To become truly happy (always feeling pleasure and/or contentment) you need determination, laser focus and courage, because not only will you need to change some aspects of your lifestyle, more importantly you will need to change the way you think. Changing habitual thinking is not easy, but if you really want to change your life, there is no other way. If you could be shown how to live feeling pleasure or contentment all the time, would you be prepared to do whatever it takes to make it happen? Unfortunately for most of us we don’t make this commitment to ourselves until we go through a huge life changing or life-threatening event. I was no different…

Even though I had a history of health issues, I pursued my dream of becoming a professional golfer regardless. Using various techniques I learnt along the way, but mostly by sheer will power, I managed my condition enough to get onto the pro tour. As you can imagine the pressure of competing for a living against the world’s best golfers and travelling forty weeks out of every fifty two