Finding Happiness in a Society Full of Narcissism
By David Thomas
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The book identifies the most common error made in today's society that causes people to be unhappy. Despite an unremittingly hedonistic pursuit of instant gratification, the deep and satisfying glow of real happiness still can’t be achieved. However, this book shows how small changes to an individual's behaviour can have massive positive effects that lead to true happiness.
David Thomas
David Thomas works as a company director and consultant. Formerly, as CEO, he built a business up from three to nearly one hundred employees. He is a Fellow of the Chartered Management Institute and hold masters and doctoral degrees in management from Sheffield Hallam University and the University of Derby. His research interests are in managerial psychology, narcissistic behaviour, and the philosophy of happiness. He has researched over many years the behaviour of CEOs and senior managers, as well as other office staff and shop floor workers from a variety of walks of life. His doctoral thesis is entitled 'Analysis of Senior Management Teams that have Demonstrated a Proclivity for Growth'; it is held at the British Library. David is the author of the book Narcissism: Behind the Mask; it was written following his in-depth research into CEOs and company directors, which revealed high levels of narcissistic behaviour in the boardroom, and in the home. It was published in hardback format in November 2010, with second printing in 2012, both of which sold out. The book was issued in paperback format in late 2012.
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Finding Happiness in a Society Full of Narcissism - David Thomas
Finding Happiness in a
Society Full of Narcissism
Small Changes for Big Effects, Who to Keep at Arm’s Length
and the Big Picture as Seen through the Great Philosophers
David Thomas PhD
David Thomas is the author of
Narcissism: Behind the Mask
Copyright 2011 David Thomas
Smashwords Edition
The right of David Thomas PhD to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted
by him in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.
ISBN: 978-1-935841-94-4
Table of Contents
Preface
Can happiness and wisdom be bought?
Small changes can have big effects
How can philosophy make a person happy?
Why should we avoid unethical people?
How do we know who to keep at arm’s length?
How is happiness achieved?
The great philosophers on Happiness and Narcissism
The route to happiness
About the Author
Preface
Pleasure, happiness and wisdom are all different, but they are also interconnected in our lives. We seek all three, particularly happiness, but sadly, many of us only know how to find pleasure.
Perhaps the most common error made by us humans in the modern world is to mistake pleasure for happiness. So many people unremittingly pursue pleasure, believing that somehow it will bring them happiness, but despite the brazen, hedonistic pursuit of all things that bring instant gratification, the deep and satisfying glow of real enduring happiness somehow seems to elude them.
The growth of the assiduous pursuit of pleasure in the modern world is intimately connected to a population that is exposed to an unrelenting frenzy of media saturation marketing. It has spawned the ‘I want it all; I want it now’ generation which, in turn, has spawned an explosion of needy people, some of whom need to be kept at arm’s length. There are now highly narcissistic people from all walks of life who can be fun and stimulating, but their neediness will far outweigh any gains in happiness for those who get too close to them.
Almost all of us are now exposed continuously to advertisements that convince us erroneously that we need to buy, to indulge or to consume the instant gratification they offer with their products and services. They push down the throats of an increasingly young audience a cocktail of junk advertisements through every form of media. They convince an unquestioning public that wasting their money on activities that offer instant gratification is the route to happiness–money that many don’t even have!
The well-educated, intelligent and enterprising marketing experts do an outstanding job for their company bosses, whose often sole objective is the pursuit of profit for their shareholders, but it is at the considerable expense of creating a new generation that is less happy than the previous one. The current cohort of young and middle aged people is less happy than their predecessors, the populations of the 1950s and 60s, despite having three times their wealth.
If we can understand the difference between pleasure and happiness, recognize the people we need to keep at arm’s length and distinguish and then embrace the behaviour that will lead us to wisdom, we may be able to turn the tide and become even happier than our predecessors were. Wisdom is the science of happiness.
Can happiness and wisdom be bought?
‘Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.’ Thoreau
Some people believe that you can buy happiness; most people know that you can’t buy wisdom; but everyone knows that you can buy pleasure. It is now fairly common for unhappy people to lie to themselves and others by projecting an image of happiness and bliss in their world, but on some level, they know they are lying. They cheat by trying to create the illusion of happiness in their mind and the minds of others, but on some level, they know they have cheated.
It is normal for human beings to seek happiness. The problem is that most of us don’t go about it in the right way. The most common fault is to mistake pleasure for happiness. Many people today, in western society in particular, see their route to happiness through one of the following courses.
Fame > Money > Happiness
or simply
Spend Money > Happiness
If we substitute ‘pleasure’ for ‘happiness’ in the above two sequences, they will be much more accurate. Money will buy pleasure, but happiness is more difficult to attain. The major difference between pleasure and happiness is that pleasure is fleeting; it doesn’t last. Pleasure is the feeling of enjoyment or delight; it is a positive stimulus that you get when you do something to give yourself a temporary boost. Happiness, on the other hand, endures. It continues as an underlying mood or lasting feeling of contentment.
So, what can we do to be happy? There are many small changes to our lives, which, when implemented and combined, can lead to greater happiness. But making changes without really understanding what is going on doesn’t give us the full picture. It’s a start—a step in the right direction—but a thorough and honest self-examination and acting on the newly gained knowledge will make life much more worth living.
For most people, the aim of life isn’t great wealth, a big house, a huge amount of possessions, an expensive car or lots of exotic holidays abroad; it’s just to be happy. Then there are those who seek fame, often for fame’s sake, somehow believing that the achievement of celebrity status will bring happiness. They are wrong.
It appears that some people