The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

Written by Esther Perel

Narrated by Esther Perel

'Beautiful. A brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding, and - as always - kindness.'
Alain de Botton

'Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea-all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman.'
Lena Dunham, author of Not That Kind of Girl

Iconic couples' therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.

Psychologist Esther Perel provides the insight we so desperately need to help us move beyond a simplistic discussion of infidelity.

An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so too have the prohibitions against it - in fact, adultery has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood.

What are we to make of this time-honored taboo - universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat? When we say 'infidelity', what exactly do we mean? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage?

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognised as one of the most insightful and original voices on modern love. For the past ten years, she has worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she argues, but healing is possible. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, couples can learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Weaving real-life stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis, Perel invites readers into a truly revealing exploration of modern marriage.

(P)2017 HarperCollins Publishers

• Language: English
• Publisher: Hachette UK Audio
• Release date: Oct 12, 2017
• ISBN: 9781473673571

Esther Perel

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships.  Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world.  Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence is a global phenomenon that has been translated into nearly 30 languages.  Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs:  Rethinking Infidelity.  Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work?  Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.  

Reviews for The State Of Affairs

[miserableflower · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

I really like Esther's work, she really does seem to ask the questions that lead you to do the deep soul searching and self anaylsis that more people should do.