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Episode 418 – What are you afraid of?

Episode 418 – What are you afraid of?

FromLiving Free in Tennessee - Nicole Sauce


Episode 418 – What are you afraid of?

FromLiving Free in Tennessee - Nicole Sauce

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Length:
57 minutes
Released:
Apr 12, 2021
Format:
Podcast episode

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What are you afraid of? What is the worst that can happen? What keeps you up at night. Join me today as we take a little look under the hood of our fears. Announcements: Rabbit processing class  May 2nd 10am Email Emily Morse Deposit of $20 required to hold your spot via Venmo or PayPal  LFTN MEMBERS ONLY WEBINAR: April 27, 7pm CT, Relocation Roundtable (LivingFreeinTennessee.com) Next week will be replays. Tales from the Prepper Pantry GSD Weekend from the pantry and garden: Charcuterie, stew, eggs and bacon, tacos Honey season will be here soon Skipped the April resupply – working toward quarterly Restocking Mullein leaves (Sinus tea: Mullein, mint, ginger) Operation Independence $50 drywall Solar Water Heater is up and running (going to add a timer at some point)   Main topic of the Show: What are you afraid of?  Yesterday, as I watched my neighbor totter on a ladder while fastening roofing metal on the roof of a tools shed, I thought about safety. I really do not like to be on wobbly ladders. So much so that tall tasks do not get done unless I find someone else to do them. So much so that I have been pricing out scaffolding so that I can do more things on my taller properties. I just don’t feel safe up there on a wobbly ladder. And safety is they key. As I watched Knighthawk on that ladder yesterday I realized that people have a strong need to feel safe. In an idea world, even as we are being raised as children, we learn to feel safe at night under comfy blankets, we swaddle our babies so they feel safe, we are driven by fear of not having shelter or food to find jobs and make money to pay for our safety. We develop the odd fear of crossing roads, going outside, bees, spiders, snakes because we fear what may happen to us if something goes wrong. As I thought about safety, I realized that many of the decisions we make are driven by this desire for safety – and sometimes that is good and sometimes that is bad. We stop and look before we cross the road for fear of being hurt or killed by a car. Or, we choose the wrong life partner because we are afraid to be alone. These two fears are a little different though when you take a closer look: The one is not really a fear response, but rather an understanding of consequences and the action that needs to be taken to avoid a negative one. In essence, you have looked at the fear of being hurt or killed, understood how to avoid it, erased the fear, and developed a way of interacting with cars and roads that is healthy. The second example is a different story: you have not addressed your fear, you have fed it. You have taken the fear of being alone and given it power over your ability to make the best decision for yourself. Yes – I am putting a value judgement here on choosing to be with someone who is not the right someone because you are more afraid of being alone than you are of being enduringly unhappy in your partnership. Can you make lemonade out of lemons? Sure. But what would be different if you addressed your underlying fear and came up to the same decision? Would you do something different? And if so, would it be a better long term outcome? Let’s look at some examples of fear and what drives them – Afraid to Fly Story. (So you do not fly) Death/Being Injured – But why? Leaving loved ones unsupported – fix this – Unknown ---harder to address. Find the why and address it. >Death/Being Injured (things that make it happen vs death itself) Afraid of Ending Up Alone (So you choose to be with or stay with an unhealthy arrangement) – But why? 1. Discovery in silence of things about yourself you need to fix. 2. No one to take care of you when you are ill (see fear of death). Afraid of Spiders, etc (So you alter your world when they show up. Bee story). 1. See fear of death. Failure. I will build this wrong, not be successful in my presentation, etc. workshop example. (So you say no to opportunities). But why are you afraid? (1. Lose income. (See fear of death) 2. Lose respect of l
Released:
Apr 12, 2021
Format:
Podcast episode

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Helping you live the live you life you choose on your terms. Living Free in Tennessee chronicles how we build our homestead, develop independence, plan and manage time and grow and preserve food sustainably - from a woman's point of view.