Revisiting Relationship Anarchy

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Revisiting Relationship Anarchy

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Mar 24, 2023

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In this episode we talk about destabilizing the relationship hierarchy, finding pleasure in unexpected places, and creating community. This is a re-release of our interview with Tuck Malloy on epsidoe 5, season 1 of QRQJ. Tuck's IG: @intra_sensual Queer Relationships, Queer Joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

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Mar 24, 2023

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We often hear so much about the struggles of the LGBTQ+ community. But on this show, we talk about all of the awesomeness within queer relationships! We're here to de-center the cis, hetero, monogamous relationship escalator- and find out what's working.

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