Let me set the scene.
The tree is up.
The lights are on.
The decorations are hanging.
And I am envisioning a picture perfect moment… the kids smiling in their Christmas outfits while we all smile for that Instagram-worthy photo.
Cue. Reality.
My kids are now 5 and 7. Hot chocolate ends up on their clothes more than in their bellies. I haven’t sat down all day. And this is nothing like what I envisioned. 
And I pause. I take a breath. I welcome my perfectionistic voice and say, “Oh, hey there, I was wondering when you would show up this holiday season.”
The challenge with social media is that we see these beautifully crafted images without seeing what truly happened before. 
Family photos? Don’t even get me started – you know it didn’t look like “and everyone say cheese!” in one frame. 
Holiday get-togethers? Nope, not everyone is happy 100% of the time. 
The work project? Also probably didn’t go down as it is shown on social media.
The nursery and beautifully captured image of baby laying in the crib? This is the highlight reel.
So many women and mothers show up in my office struggling with high expectations and perfectionism. 
The challenge? Life is not perfect. You are not meant to be perfect. There will be mistakes. It is not possible to be the perfect caregiver, partner and individual.  
And even more so? It’s a trait that society places on us.
And this pressure from society is not helpful.
Join me as I speak with DR. JEN DOUGLAS, a clinical assistant professor at Stanford University, licensed psychologist, and mental wellness speaker. She focuses on helping individuals overcome anxiety, perfectionism and trauma which may be holding them back from living their lives in the most full and authentic way.
In this episode, we discuss:

13:47 – What is perfectionism and how does it show up for people?

22:23 – Why do I strive for it?

34:37 – What is the connection between burnout and perfectionism?

48:09 – Overcoming the all-or-nothing thinking

53:13 – What you can start doing now to help perfectionism

EPISODE LINKS
Dr. Jen Douglas on Instagram
Check out her Freedom From Perfectionism Course
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