“Winning isn’t everything; it’s the only thing,” Coach Vince Lombardi said. But that is not true when it comes to youth sports. Whether it is team sports or individual, those failures along the way help shape us. With the right coaches and parenting, those moments of struggle and loss can really build character. As a parent, we must avoid the “parent trap” where we live out our goals through our children. Instead we must focus on the process over the outcome. And that can be hard, especially when dealing with adolescents. Scott Desmond has a Masters of Science degree in Sports Science with a concentration in Exercise and Sports Psychology. Scott is currently working as a Performance Coach. On today’s podcast Roger and Kelly welcome Scott Desmond into the studio to discuss the psychology of youth sports.  Center for Integrated Behavioral Health - https://www.centerforibh.com/Roger K. McFillin, Psy.D., ABPP - https://twitter.com/DrMcFillin_PsyD?s=20Radically Genuine Podcast email - RadGenPodcast@gmail.comIf you are in a crisis or think you have an emergency, call your doctor or 911. If you're considering suicide, call 1-800-273-TALK to speak with a skilled trained counselor.Additional Resources:13:00 - Red Hawk Wrestling Club23:20 - Malcolm Gladwell 10,000 hours49:05 - Youth Sports Financial Investment52:40 - Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset54:49 - Jordan Burroughs Tweet1:02:00 - Todd Marinovitch Sports Illustrated1:12:00 - High School Athletes and college scholarships