What do you do when you want to make changes in your relationship, but your partner does not?    I want to address this in two ways, because number one, I'm going to share some tips around why even doing the work on your own is so important, as well as how you can talk with your partner about why it's important to you to get them on board with making changes. Time and time again, I have seen that when one person in a relationship makes changes in themselves, there is a ripple effect that happens that shifts things in positive ways.