We follow the oral sex question with a deep dive into swallowing ejaculate (or *not*.) We hear a wide variety of yes/no answers, but also yes/no conditions. Then Leah share her personal experience with blowjobs and the journey she took to make sure it was as good for her as it was for him. How Healing Happens: Little boys get just as much bad messaging as little girls do. Learning how to openly and safely communicate with your sexual partner can re-educate and heal you both.   Bookmark moments: 1:49 – A chorus of women answer the question “Do you swallow?” 6:01 - Leah answers. She opens by sharing that in the pre-internet days, Cosmo was her primary source of information. 7:52 - The “If you love him, you swallow” rule and its fallout. 11:13 - Leah gives her first blowjob, and it’s disastrous for her afterwards. 13:03 - A new approach learned at a STARS class blows her mind. 16:25 - Leah and her partner try something new with blowjobs and it’s a win-win. 19:05 - Leah shares a listener email that offers an unusual perspective—a man’s response to the podcast. 24:47 - Podcast recommendation: When Women Speak by Sara Sanderson - https://whenwomenspeak.buzzsprout.com/1104935 The Emma Case interview - https://whenwomenspeak.buzzsprout.com/1104935/4128944-am-i-welcome-here-why-we-must-do-more-than-simply-say-everyone-is-welcome When Women Speak website - https://www.wwsgn.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/whenwomenspeakglobalnetwork/    Resources mentioned: The STARS episode - https://link.chtbl.com/STARS   Book a PJ Party!!!  All the info and registrations are at www.leahcarey.com/pjparty FACEBOOK GROUP: www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk AM I NORMAL?: Leave a message for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) PATREON: Become a community supporter at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex RATE THIS POD: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls BE A GUEST: Want to be on the show? Visit www.leahcarey.com/guest COACHING: Want to talk with Leah directly? Visit www.leahcarey.com/coaching Host – Leah Carey (website, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email) Music – Nazar Rybak