#023 - What if the caregiver has chronic and life threatening illnesses of their own? How does this change the caregiving dynamic? To help answer this question, I invited my dear friend, Dr. Kandi Schmidt on the podcast to share her wisdom about this complex situation of caring for an older loved one when you yourself have a chronic or life threatening illness. Dr. Kandi Schmidt is the Director of Transplant Behavioral Health at Emory University School of Medicine and an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Emory University School of Medicine.  Here's a peak inside my interview with Dr. Kandi Schmidt:[05:48] Imagine having a life threatening illness so severe that you need an organ transplant. As a result, for most of your life you were cared for by your parent, and then, in a twist of fate, you find yourself in the role of caring for your aging parent...but due to your own chronic illness you can't give back all that your loved one gave to you.[11:19] Dr. Schmidt describes the psychological impact of living with a chronic medical illness, yourself while caring for others.[13:30] Learn tips on how to communicate with those who may not understand the fact that you're living with chronic illness and how to divvy up tasks.[18:15] Sometimes when one person in the family has a life threatening illness, the next generation is vulnerable to that same condition, referred to as illness legacies in families.  [21:45] People with chronic illness are no stranger to dementia, learn more about the connection between chronic illness and dementia.[23:00] Dr. Schmidt shares 5 tips for caregivers who are living with chronic illnesses, themselves. Here's one of her tips. You're not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. Get more tips here.  At the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of the complex dynamics of illness, especially when the caregiver has their own medical needs, and you'll learn tips for navigating the muddy waters of caregiving when there is no clear path. Click here to listen!Check out the show notes here!Rate and Review Psychology of Aging Podcast with Dr. Regina KoeppIf you're on Apple Podcasts, help me help others by rating and reviewing my show. Reviews let others- just like you- care for the older adults in their lives.It's simple: 1. Just click here2. Scroll down to "Ratings and Reviews" 3. Tap or click "Write a Review"I read them all. Thank you!