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Rewinding & Rewriting

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May 21, 2018

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All of us are time travelers. We go back in history to turning points in our lives, and imagine how things could have turned out differently. Psychologists refer to this as "counterfactual thinking." This week on Hidden Brain, we look at why some events prompt these "What if?" questions, while others do not.

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May 21, 2018

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Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our choices and direct our relationships.

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Episode 3: Stereotype Threat by Hidden Brain
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Episode 4: Students and Teachers by Hidden Brain
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Episode 10: Thanksgiving by Hidden Brain
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Welcome to the Hidden Brain Podcast by Hidden Brain
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Hidden Brain: A Sneak Peek by Hidden Brain
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Episode 6: The Science of Fear by Hidden Brain
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Episode 19: Dating and Mating by Hidden Brain
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Episode 15: Loss and Renewal by Hidden Brain
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Episode 5: Compassion by Hidden Brain
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Encore of Episode 16: Misbehaving by Hidden Brain
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Episode 11: Forgery by Hidden Brain
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Episode 1: Switchtracking by Hidden Brain
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Episode 32: The Scientific Process by Hidden Brain
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Brain Bonus: Magic Brain by Hidden Brain
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Episode 13: Terrorism by Hidden Brain
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Encore of Episode 3: Stereotype Threat by Hidden Brain
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Episode 9: Aziz Ansari on Modern Love by Hidden Brain
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Episode 23: Boredom by Hidden Brain
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Episode 17: Resolutions by Hidden Brain
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Episode 20: Remembering Anarcha by Hidden Brain
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Episode 2: Near Victories by Hidden Brain
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Episode 30: WOOP, There It Is by Hidden Brain
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Episode 7: Lonely Hearts by Hidden Brain
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Encore of Episode 13: Terrorism by Hidden Brain
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Episode 16: Misbehaving by Hidden Brain
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Episode 18: The Paradox of Forgiveness by Hidden Brain
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Episode 29: Traffic by Hidden Brain
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Episode 12: Humor by Hidden Brain
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Episode 8: Back Up Plans by Hidden Brain
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Episode 28: #AirbnbWhileBlack by Hidden Brain
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