Episode 18: The Paradox of Forgiveness

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Episode 18: The Paradox of Forgiveness

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Jan 26, 2016

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After more than a decade of brutal civil war, perpetrators and victims attempted to find peace around bonfires across Sierra Leone. This week on Hidden Brain, a story about forgiving the unforgivable, and the cost of reconciliation.

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Jan 26, 2016

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Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our choices and direct our relationships.

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