Successful Aging for Women Over 50

By Janine Hunka

Change your perception of aging and walk towards your golden years headstrong with this comprehensive guidebook on transforming into the real you as you age!

 

Are you afraid of what your future looks like?

 

Do you feel invisible, as if you are no longer needed and appreciated?

 

Have you become too uninspired or too unmotivated to move forward with life?

 

You are currently standing at a point when doubting yourself has become second nature. Thoughts of not being good enough and fears about the future result in stress and sleepless nights.

 

You are not alone. Truth be told, millions of women around the world feel the same.

 

But before your thoughts worsen and affect your physical health, you must make a life-changing decision.

 

Old age is always discussed with dread and negativity. Society taught you that older people have always been linked with diminishing worth, declining talent, or dwindling productivity.

 

But in reality, it has never been a battle against time. Instead, it's a battle against oneself.

 

Aging is a continuous process of learning, discovering, and finding meaning. You should not stop living just because you've hit the golden mark of 50. There are ways to continue enjoying life.

 

All it takes is a commitment to change your lifestyle, view aging in a positive light, believe in yourself, and get proper guidance on how to make the most out of your prime years.

 

These are only samples of what you can benefit from in this guidebook on successful aging. Inside, you'll discover:

• How to make the most out of your past experiences and turn them into lessons for growth
• Practical steps to improve physical and mental health to prevent cognitive decline and other age-related illnesses
• The importance of living an authentic life and living in the present — and how being mindful helps you live longer
• Brain talks: connect to protect your brain — and strategies to build meaningful relationships with others
• The relationship between positivity and aging, including techniques to convert negative thinking into positive thoughts
• How to properly take care of your body, mind, and soul to reach new heights as you embrace old age
• Ways to improve cognitive health to fight against memory loss and create more memorable experiences with your loved ones and friends

And much more!

 

Aging comes with excellent opportunities you can't find in your youth. All you have to do is broaden your perspective and trust the process.

Instead of anxiously living against time, you can live mindfully with it.

 

There is nothing you can do about the years, but you definitely have a say on how to live your life. The choice has always been yours. Choose to live freely, boldly, and graciously.

 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Janine Hunka
• Release date: Apr 23, 2023
• ISBN: 9798224125487

Book preview

INTRODUCTION

And the beauty of a woman, with passing years, only grows!

AUDREY HEPBURN

It was 3 weeks before I would turn 56. I wasn't planning a massive event, merely to meet a couple of friends at my favorite restaurant for dinner and drinks. I remember waiting in the front entrance frantically texting a couple of the invitees who didn't respond yet because I knew I needed to be surrounded by as many people as possible on that day. After a certain age, birthdays just become dates to remind me that it's time to take stock of my life. Sadly, this is a venture in which I often come up short, as there are always those things I wished I did or even regretted doing, dreams I never pursued, and opportunities I allowed to slip through my fingers.

Until a few years ago, I was still married and had someone else to blame if these supposedly joyous occasions weren't as great as I had hoped. After trying to hold it all together, I think we just got so tired of pretending everything was fine and we both caved, calling our lawyers. This was the start of a 12 month battle that seemed like an eternity! When it was finally all over, the life I had for 20-odd years was amputated. This left me feeling a sense of loss, and thinking back, I had already felt a deep feeling of being lost long before signing the final paperwork.

Frankly, I didn't care anymore. I instinctively knew that the best part of my life was over, and I didn't have much hope that the years ahead would be any better. This was one idea I had absolute clarity on as it was the predominant thought consuming my mind night after night while I was lying awake, staring at the ceiling. What kept me awake? Quite simply, pain and discomfort. I was faced with many deep probing questions—whether I was a good fit to spearhead my team into the new direction the company was taking, how long it would still be until someone discovered that I wasn't the right person for the position, or even if I was financially secure enough to look after myself from now on. If it wasn't for the sheer emotional pain from this self-doubt I was feeling, I was also experiencing unexplained physical pain in my abdomen.

This pain started as sensitivity in my belly, which grew in severity and was sometimes unbearable. However, after several visits to my doctor, I still had no answers. I finally got some answers only after I was admitted for further tests.

After waiting for two weeks of painful dread, anxiety, and many sleepless nights, I was finally called in to hear the truth about my situation. This was a truth I knew would hurt me because I had to see the surgeon in person. I remember the cold, sterile waiting room where I was sitting—another number waiting to be called—with my fingers pressing into the skin of my palms as I desperately tried to anchor myself in a whirlwind of emotions.

I'll need to operate very soon as I'm concerned the cancer may have spread. At the moment, it can still be contained in your colon. Do you have anyone to talk to about this, and do you know who can take care of you afterward?... Janine?

I'm sure I'll figure all that out, doctor! were the words with which I acknowledged that my entire world came tumbling down, crashing right onto my shoulders. Of course, I'll have someone at home. I don't know who, but I'll get someone to help me. It won't be a sister, a mother, or even a child, as one might expect from someone my age, but I'll have someone. Just like that, it didn't matter whether people RSVP for any events I was planning, for I'll be in long-term recovery. It didn't matter anymore that I was divorced, for this thing happening to me was mine alone to carry.

Surgery to remove colon cancer, followed by two more major surgeries less than a year later, should've been enough to break my spirit—a spirit already fragile to begin with—but it didn't. Today, I realize that the moment I experienced in the doctor's office correlates with how most mature women are perceived in society; at that moment, with my fingers clenched into my skin, I had reached the pinnacle of that reflection. Yet, by grace alone, that moment didn't initiate a rapid decline into the deep dark valley of mature living until death—no, it was the final ledge I had to overcome to find sufficient support to propel me forward.

I am now healthy, confident, active, and happy almost a decade later. I have been challenged so much in the last 10 years than in the nearly 56 years leading up to that moment.

I am very proud of my motorbike skills. After recovering from my major surgeries, I became a much more carefree person than I've ever been before. For the longest time, I thought the right thing to do was stay within the lines while coloring all the pictures in my life. Yet, I suddenly started to find it exhilarating and fun to go over those lines and expand my horizons. By doing so, I've met so many people who share their hunger for life, a hunger that’s so contagious that it got me to first learn how to ride a bike, and then I had to purchase my very own.

I reached a point where I wanted to figure out how I could add meaning to my life by helping others—I am still a volunteer and derive a great deal of pleasure from it—but I also wanted to know how I could add value to my life, simply by doing things for myself, discovering myself, making the most of my time, and taking up the interests I've always kept hidden away.

In the middle of what many would call a midlife crisis, a medical crisis—a severe threat to my life—pulled me right back into life, a life fuller and radiant with much more wisdom thanks to maturity and experience. Reaching this low point in my life saved me as it forced me to make changes by seeking spiritual strength, living healthier, and being happier. The techniques I share in this book won't stop you from aging since nobody escapes the natural course of life. What we do have a choice over is how we age. Since we are on the mature side of the spectrum, we also have the wisdom to determine what we can control and what we can't while making the most of those things we have control over.

I've studied and read a lot about aging successfully and how to make the golden years of your life truly golden. This is an ongoing venture, and I’m still learning new things after all these years. One term that I truly found inspiring is to become a Super-ager. Super-agers are people on the more mature side of the spectrum but still live a life of mental and physical vitality in their 70s and 80s (Harvard University, 2017). Super-agers are often fitter, happier, and more content with the quality of their lives, finances, health, and relationships. It’s the word that best describes my life now, the one I wake up to every morning after having a healthy, restful night's sleep. This life I’m living, roaming the peaks of what life has to offer after making several changes, is one most people would call a typical midlife crisis.

It's the life I wish for you and every other woman who is still super at heart, has so much to offer, and has an abundance of freedom to experience new things.

In this book, I share my story and the techniques I follow to transform my life. These techniques certainly aren't fairy tales, but are backed by science and research. These techniques help you transition into an inspired, motivated, healthy, and prosperous life. The type of life that makes life worth living and old age nothing but a mere number ensuring discounts at certain stores. It’s also the type of life that serves as testimony that midlife is not a crisis but a time to celebrate. Is this the kind of life you've been hoping for?

Then dive right in!

TAKING A STEP BACK IN TIME

Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been.

DAVID BOWIE

When I was about 12 years old, my friends and I would refer to our parents as old. To us, they were old, but we also saw them in a different light. We thought of them as people who had their ducks in a row, who knew where they were heading in life, or who had already arrived at that place and were now merely waiting for us to grow up and leave the house so they could grow old in peace.

These old people were only in their late 30s or even approaching their early 40s. By the