Somewhere in Between

By Cejay M. Canlas

This book provides a diverse range of insights for elevating one's mindset. It goes beyond simply addressing trauma recovery, emphasizing the importance of personal growth. Covering a wide array of subjects, the book guides readers toward self-restoration and offers fresh approaches to handling challenges. While it might appear to revolve around

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ukiyoto Publishing
• Release date: Aug 25, 2023
• ISBN: 9789361725517

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Somewhere In Between

Cejay M. Canlas

Ukiyoto Publishing

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Published in 2023

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Dedication

I wrote this book because I wanted to share my journey of healing and hope with those who may be struggling. I know how challenging life can be at times, and I want to extend my hand to offer support and encouragement.

The content of this book comes from my own experiences, some of which have been difficult and painful. However, with the love and support of my partner, I have been able to heal my inner child and find a sense of peace and strength within myself.

If you are going through a tough time, I want you to know that you are not alone. There is hope for a brighter tomorrow, and I believe that with the right tools and support, you can overcome life's challenges and find happiness and fulfillment.

I hope that my book will inspire and uplift you, and that it will serve as a reminder that you are strong enough to face whatever comes your way. Together, we can overcome adversity and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before.

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Words of encouragement for people who are struggling:

Dear Reader,

I want you to know that I will see you. I understand that you have faced challenges and disappointments from those who were supposed to support you. Finding a safe place among those closest to us is complex, and I acknowledge the pain and hurt that this may have caused you.

But despite all that you have been through, I want to encourage you to continue being kind to others. Kindness is a powerful force that can positively impact the world. Even when the world does not show us kindness, we can still be kind to those around us. And in doing so, we can make a difference in the lives of others.

I know that you may struggle to understand your emotions and experiences, and it can be hard to understand ourselves and our personal growth when we have been hurt by those we love. But I hope that by reading my book, you will better understand yourself and your journey.

My book offers my perspective on life and provides insights that help you navigate your challenges. I want to help you stand up again and find the strength to keep moving forward. You are not alone in this journey; I am here to offer support and encouragement.

Remember, this is not the end. You can overcome your struggles and find joy and fulfillment in life. I believe in you, and I hope my book can be a source of hope and inspiration for you.

Sincerely,

  [Cejay M. Canlas]

Preface

Healing is a journey that can take time and effort, and it’s important to be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process.

It’s normal to feel scared or uncertain about stepping back, but sometimes taking a break or allowing yourself some space can be an important part of healing. It’s important to remember that healing is not a linear process and that setbacks and challenges are normal. What’s important is to keep moving forward and to believe in yourself and your ability to heal.

Remember to be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself, and to seek support when you need it. Whether it’s talking to a friend, a therapist, or a support group, there are people who care about you and want to help you through this process.

Keep believing in yourself and taking steps towards healing, and know that there is hope for a brighter future.

Contents

Overcoming Trauma

Moving Forward And Valuing Yourself

Importance Of Appreciation And Honesty

Meet Someone Halfway

Embrace Every Little Thing

Take Action Over Faith

Karma: Action And Reaction

Change Your Mindset

Make Yourself Priority

Healing Your Inner Child

Coping With Existential Crisis

Walking Away Is Not Showing Affection

Attachment Issues

Practicing Detachment

The Closure Is Not Always Necessary

Reflect To Find Clarity

Importance Of Personal Space

Self Love As Self Care

Self Sabotage

Beware Of Love Bombing

Stonewalling

Dating Terms

Manipulation

Gashlighting

Guilt-Tripping

Bare Minimum In A Relationship

Lack of Communication

Green Flags That Are Frequently Labelled As Red Flags In A Relationship

Rose-Colored Glass

Don’t Be Too Needy

Energy Never Lies

Reciprocate Your Energy

Never Force A Connection

Filling The Gap

Heal Yourself First

Breaking The Silence

Silent Treatment

Stop Explaining Yourself

Over Sharing Tips And Risk

Nonchalant: Benefits And Drawbacks

Waiting Is Not Wasting

Assurance

Love

Levels Of Love

Love Types And It’s Characteristics

Self-Improvement Journey

Moving Forward

Mental Health Matters

Letting Go Of Emotional Baggage

Trust Your Intuition

Don’t Be Someone’s Trauma

Always Choose Kindness

Happiness Comes From Within

Allow Yourself To Be Emotional Sometimes

Don’t Let Your Emotions

Control You

Believe In Yourself

Self-Doubt

Choose Yourself Even More

Selflessness

Don’t Befriend

Don’t Chase, Find Happiness

People With Same Mantra

The Power Of Manifestations

Be The Best Version Of Yourself

Life Is Uncertain

Asking Too Much? You’ve Got The Wrong Person

Mind Your Words

Impact Of Childhood Experience

Understanding People’s Perspective

Abandonment Issue

Optimistic Vulnerability

Valid Emotion Matters

Right Person, Right Time

Why Do People Become Easily Attached?

Understanding Love Languages

In Between Everything

About the Author

Trauma is not a life sentence, but rather a chapter in your story that you have the power to rewrite with each new day.

Overcoming Trauma

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he human experience is often riddled with obstacles and challenges that can leave us feeling overwhelmed and hopeless. For those who have experienced trauma, simply getting out of bed each morning can feel like an insurmountable task. The scars of past events, terrible memories, and other traumatic experiences can leave a lasting imprint on our psyche, making it difficult to maintain a sense of normalcy or routine.

When we’re confronted with the aftermath of a traumatic event, it’s natural to question why we have to endure such pain and suffering. We may find ourselves asking what the purpose of our existence is, and whether life is worth living at all. These feelings of despair and hopelessness can be overwhelming, and it can be hard to find a way out.

Yet, despite the challenges we face, there is always hope for healing and recovery. With the support of loved ones, therapy, and other resources, we can begin to rebuild our lives and move forward from the trauma that has held us back. While the scars of our past may never fully fade, we can learn to live with them and find ways to grow and thrive despite them.

It’s important to remember that healing is a journey, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. Whether it’s getting out of bed each morning or taking a small step towards a larger goal, every effort we make towards healing is a victory in itself. With time, patience, and persistence, we can overcome even the most daunting of obstacles and create a brighter future for ourselves.

Life is like a book. Some chapters are sad, some are happy, and some are exciting. But if you never turn the page, you will never know what the next chapter holds.

Moving Forward And Valuing Yourself

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erhaps, it is important to acknowledge that reminiscing about the past can be beneficial, but getting stuck there can hinder one’s progress. It’s easy to become consumed by the memories and emotions of the past, but it’s essential to recognize when it’s time to move on and focus on the present and future.

Furthermore, it’s important to be mindful of the people we invest our energy in. We may admire someone and value them greatly, but if they are not reciprocating the same level of care and attention, it can become a one-sided relationship that drains our energy.

It’s essential to remember that we all have value and deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Sometimes, it’s easy to forget our worth when we focus too much on pleasing others and neglect our own needs.

Therefore, it’s vital to prioritize self-care and establish boundaries to prevent being burdened by excessive human interactions that may harm our mental and emotional well-being. By valuing and respecting ourselves, we attract people who will also treat us with the same level of care and respect

In a world where negativity is all too common, appreciation is a rare and precious gift. When you make a habit of showing gratitude to your partner, you create a safe haven of love and acceptance.

Importance Of Appreciation And Honesty

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xpressing appreciation and giving attention to someone we admire is not only a genuine and pure intention, but it's also a courageous act of vulnerability. It takes courage to open up to someone and express our admiration and feelings towards them. It's a wonderful feeling to experience butterflies in our stomach when we're around the person we admire, and it's even more special when we know that they feel the same way about us.

However, we must always keep in mind that love is