Before You Give Your Heart Away
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the lack of a positive father fi gure in childhood impacts all of a daughter’s
relationships later in life, especially with men, and greatly distorts the view
of the heavenly Father. This book ties teaching and personal stories together
and can be used for individual refl ection or group study. The father/daughter
relationship, feelings of self-worth, compulsive and addictive behaviors,
teenage pregnancy, abortion recovery, and abstinence are just a few of the
topics discussed. Before You Give Your Heart Away should not be read quickly
and set aside but should be used as a guide on a journey to personal growth
and healing.
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Before You Give Your Heart Away - Judith Ames David
Before You Give Your Heart Away
A practical guide to understanding how the lack of a positive father figure in childhood impacts all of a daughter’s relationships later in life, especially with men, and greatly distorts the view of the heavenly Father.
Contributors:
Judith Ames David, Editor
Linda M. Smith
Dr. Wayne Shaw
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Before You Give Your Heart Away
Copyright © 2011 by Judith Ames David. All rights reserved.
No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any way by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording or otherwise without the print permission of the author except as provided by USA copyright law.
Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved.
This book is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information with regard to the subject matter covered. This information is given with the understanding that neither the editor nor the contributors is engaged in rendering legal or professional advice. Since the details of your situation are fact dependent, you should additionally seek the services of a competent professional.
ISBN: 978-1-937829-22-3
Acknowledgements
Life is a journey and so is a book. In the beginning stages, compiling Before You Give Your Heart Away was like putting together a puzzle. In this case, though, it seemed like the pieces were scattered all over the house, and there was no picture on the top of the box. I knew that God wanted me to write about my experiences concerning the lack of a relationship with my earthly father, as well as my heavenly Father, but it greatly lacked focus.
My pastor, Dr. Wayne Shaw, gave me numerous books to read, and I did a great deal of research on my own. He was also instrumental in checking the accuracy of theological issues every step of the way. When I wanted personal testimony, I asked a woman I knew had a great story to tell. As I asked her to tell her story, another woman offered to give hers as well. Anna Shaw, director of the Christian H.E.L.P. Center, told me about Linda Smith, director of the Abundant Blessings Center, and her powerful testimony. Then I asked Dr. Shaw to write the last part. Over a year passed during the research phase. Just as I was getting discouraged about the project, all the personal testimonies started coming in. Then eventually the other parts of the book fell into place.
Until a few years ago, I wasn’t sure what a father was supposed to do. During this project, my heavenly Father encouraged me when I was ready to give up, guided me to the right people at the right time, and inspired me to write. After all, isn’t that what fathers do? My task was to trust my heavenly Father to see me through. To Him, I am the most grateful for this and for all things.
I especially want to thank all the contributors named and anonymous who gave of their time and selves. I also appreciate all those who wrote endorsements and Teresa Raymond for writing the foreword, as well as all those who read and reviewed the book in all stages of the process. Thanks to all my friends and family who encouraged and supported me, especially my husband Arley.
This book is dedicated to
all the fathers who get up every day
to be the best fathers they can be,
knowing that the only perfect father
is our heavenly Father.
What People Are Saying
Ihave two daughters still in the home. When the older daughter in middle school walks out the door, I always make sure that she dresses modestly, knowing what most young boys have on their minds. With sex dominating TV and the news, sometimes it falls on deaf ears. With Before You Give Your Heart Away, I now have a book all the family can read and discuss. I am also considering using it as a springboard for discussion in my Sunday school class for college age students.
Bob Edmondson
Finish Carpenter
As a middle school nurse, I wish I could get the female students to read a book like this before they make the mistake of being sexually active at such an early age. Some have already made that mistake, but I believe that God’s love can give them the strength to wait for a committed relationship in marriage later on. Young boys also need to understand that a girl is more than a sex toy, and that getting a girl pregnant at a young age will affect him the rest of his life.
Janet Edmondson
Middle School Nurse
I salute those who have contributed to Before You Give Your Heart Away with such humility and honesty. May the reader have ears to hear and eyes to see.
Nancy Edwards
Peer Counselor/Abundant Blessings Center
Delaware County Jail Ministry
As a grandparent, I feel that the information in this book will be helpful to many women by learning from the mistakes of others. Many years ago, I worked at a hospital that housed a home for unwed mothers. At birth the babies were given up for adoption. Being a single mom back then was considered a disgrace. Because abortion was illegal, a woman took a big risk by having an illegal one, usually by an unprofessional and/or unscrupulous person. Many women died, which left their families to live with the loss of an infant and a loved one. In today’s world, there are more choices. Abortions are legal and relatively safe, but young women often live a lifetime of regret after choosing this option. This book shows young women a better way to avoid the pitfalls of an unwanted pregnancy
Ann Loewe, R.N.
Before You Give Your Heart Away is a great resource for sharing with women of any age the importance of guarding your heart. It contains a two-fold blessing, combining the truth and healing of God’s Word with relevant real life stories. It is a message that every young woman needs to hear!
Thomas Hawkins
Youth Pastor
The book reads like an interesting story but doubles as a guide to learning the way to cope with problems. The questions at the end of each chapter and each of the four parts are thought provoking and when answered honestly, will lead to new insights, healing, and trust in God. I have read many stories and psychological solutions to the problems that are faced by not living with a positive father figure, but I have never seen so much scripture and experience of those who have looked to God for the solution to their problems. I am torn between wanting to keep the book for myself and giving it to someone else to learn from. Thank you all for writing the book. I am grateful that there are people who are willing to share their life stories and the way God helped them live a fruitful and victorious life.
Nancy Dooley
Retired Educator
Being the father of two sons and no daughters, I was somewhat surprised when I was given a copy of a book about father/daughter relationships to read. I was puzzled wondering what a book like this had to do with me. Before You Give Your Heart Away captivated my heart as I read it, not only causing me to examine relationships with my wife, sons, and deceased earthly father, but, most of all, it illuminated the love of my heavenly Father. It clarified my understanding of my past relationships, as well as challenged me to demonstrate our heavenly Father’s love in current and future encounters. Before You Give Your Heart Away has much to offer both women and men—young and old.
Joe Nowlin
Rivers of Life Ministries
I have done a great deal of counseling with people who have issues with substance abuse, mentally ill patients, and prisoners. The premise on which you base this book—mainly the father/daughter relationship—has a lot of merit. It does seem that women who do not have a good father figure do not know what to look for in a relationship. Many of their problems stem from this original relationship with their father. I would recommend this book especially to those who have problems with substance abuse. Actually, anyone can, but I find that this is a bigger problem with those who are addicted. Also, the scriptural references and the relationship with God reminders will help people who are in AA. Their whole program is based on their relationship with God or higher power.
Sister Angela Houska ASC
Getting the Most from This Book
Before You Give Your Heart Away is divided into four parts. Part One, Earthly Father/Heavenly Father
deals with information and testimony about the importance of