Know the Truth! Can Same-Sex Attraction Be Overcome?: A Christian Response to America’s Mental Health Crisis, #2

By Roger Ball

Why is same-sex attraction on the rise? Why has identity become so elusive? Does today's parenting model play a role? Can these unwanted desires be overcome?

Same-sex attraction is the product of neglect and/or abuse. Its primary elements are that of fear, anxiety and unmet needs. The insatiable desire to meet these needs, and alleviate this fear and anxiety, becomes confused with sexual eroticism and a homosexual is born. Can these unwanted desires be overcome? Yes, they can! In fact, this is presently being accomplished by using evidence-based noncoercive techniques that can be easily learned and applied. Whether you are bisexual or exclusively homosexual, or have only fleeting desires, you can join the ranks of others that have overcome these attractions and are now pursuing happier lives.

 

CONTENTS:

Introduction

Chapter 1: Homosexual Development and the Subtlety of Abuse

Chapter 2: Same-Sex Attraction and Today's Parenting Model

Chapter 3: Overcoming Same-Sex Attraction

• Language: English
• Publisher: Roger Ball
• Release date: Feb 14, 2024
• ISBN: 9798223758051

Roger Ball

Roger Ball is a Reformed Christian writer who lives on the Florida Spacecoast. He writes on Christian theology, apologetics, psychology and worldview.

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Know the Truth! Can Same-Sex Attraction Be Overcome?

Roger Ball

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CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

Chapter 1

HOMOSEXUAL DEVELOPMENT AND THE SUBTLETY OF ABUSE

Chapter 2

SAME-SEX ATTRACTION AND TODAY’S PARENTING MODEL

Chapter 3

OVERCOMING SAME-SEX ATTRACTION

Introduction

About thirty years ago, I worked for a Christian man who opened his home to local welfare authorities as a foster parent. He would take in boys between thirteen to nineteen sometimes caring for as many as five or six at a time. His home had been converted into a makeshift rooming house, so plenty of rooms were available. As you can imagine, the boys he took in were some of the most abused and neglected one could imagine. Some were runaways, while others had been removed from their homes by court order. One boy was living under his family’s mobile home at the age of twelve. He wasn’t allowed to come inside. These boys had problems, to say the least. With few exceptions, one of those problems was same-sex attraction. They were not, however, exclusively homosexual. Most of them also liked girls and even had girlfriends; nevertheless, a number of these boys had been caught in bed together while in the foster home. I was even told of one boy who would persistently ask the others if he would allow him to give them oral sex.

The idea that these desires and attractions were genetically determined never crossed anyone’s mind. These boys were obviously hurting very deeply. You could see it in their attitudes, behavior, and in their faces. Their inner lives were clearly dominated by fear, anger, insecurity, alienation, and unmet needs. Inevitably, the desire to meet these needs, and alleviate their fear and anxiety, would become confused with sexual eroticism. Through various sexual encounters, they sought the sense of belonging and affirmation their abusive or neglectful parents had failed to provide. My boss informed me this was a common pattern among the boys he had fostered over the years.

While exposure to a loving and godly foster parent over several years improved their lives somewhat, I regret to say that there wasn't a happy ending for most of them. Most still struggle with debilitating insecurities and self-esteem problems. The ones I came to know have been in and out of jail (or prison) for the past three decades and are mostly unable, or unwilling, to hold steady employment. Their relationships consist mostly of drifting from one girlfriend to the next (similar to relationship addiction). Only one of them ever married.

In this book, my goal is to explain how same-sex attraction develops and, contrary to common belief, demonstrate that it’s very possible to overcome these desires. I acknowledge, however, that this book may not be for everyone. Some do not view their attractions as unwanted and do not seek to eliminate them. Many believe their attractions are perfectly natural and that overcoming them is impossible. Nevertheless, for those who want to curb or eliminate these unwanted desires, please know this is not merely wishful thinking. Regardless of what you may