Pivotry: The Art of Shifting

By Trish R. Yan

Four weeks before Trish R. Yan gave birth to her son, she lost her mother. She had no money and no job and would be parenting alone without a father for her baby. 

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• Language: English
• Publisher: New Degree Press
• Release date: Jan 28, 2023
• ISBN: 9798885044349

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Pivotry: The Art of Shifting

Pivotry: The Art of Shifting

Trish R. Yan

New Degree Press

Copyright © 2022 Trish R. Yan

All rights reserved.

Pivotry: The Art of Shifting

ISBN 979-8-88504-422-6

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979-8-88504-430-1-Kindle Ebook

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Contents

Introduction

Part 1. The Art of Shifting

The Big Shift

The Overview

Part 2. Benefits of Pivotry

Know Your Why

Living in Gratitude

Aligning with Your Highest Purpose

Part 3. Types of Pivotry

External Pivotry

Internal Pivotry

Part 4. Steps to Pivotry

Identify

Ask

Manifest

Part 5. Full Circle

Try This…

Acknowledgments

Appendix

This book is dedicated to my parents, Sonny and Tita. Without them and the bold moves they made to create this life for my sisters and me, I would not have my story to share. And to my son Matt, thank you for being the constant light in my life.

Introduction

I wrote this book for you. A single mom with a newborn baby. A woman trying to figure out her next big move in her career. An immigrant woman trying to make a new life in America and raise her family. A woman yearning to get unstuck and finally get out of her own way. We can relate to all these women. All of those women happen to be me!

I had just given birth, and my mom had died four weeks before. I had no money and no job, and I would be doing this alone without a father for the baby. I didn’t know how to raise a baby, especially without my mom. This was my story over twenty-one years ago.

This book shares my experience with single motherhood and stories from countless other women who have shown bravery, boldness, and courage to get through life and make the best of it. These stories are from first-generation immigrants, women who have come out of poverty and hopelessness and have created the best versions of their lives despite their circumstances. Somehow, we all had situations that forced us to perfect the art of shifting, which I named pivotry.

Pivot has become a buzzword in life and business, whether we like it or not. I realized pivotry had been a constant theme in my life—like it has been for many people. I decided to share my processes and my personal stories of pain and triumphs to hopefully inspire just one person to realize everything does work out and even manifests into you achieving your wildest dreams.

Personal development takes discipline along with having a positive or growth mindset, but it is possible to create the life you have always wanted. It just takes a lot of faith and some good luck, but all of it is a possibility.

Part of the recipe for success is all about trusting in your greater power, source, God, and the universe to get you through, but most importantly, it’s about trusting in yourself. I always heard this line from my mom when I was little: God only gives us as much as we can handle. Even though we may feel overwhelmed sometimes, we are usually much stronger than we give ourselves credit.

Evolution and growth are ingredients in the recipe of life, but identifying what compels you to do what you do and why is key. For me, it was all about my son, his quality of life, and his education. How was I going to make it work for him? I was determined to give him the best life. Especially as a first-generation immigrant who had to start from scratch in this new country with financial stress in the 80s, I was not going to have him live the way we lived—living in fear with a scarcity mindset. I intended to do everything in my power to ensure that didn’t happen.

I had my why. Now I had to figure out the rest. Where would I even begin? Remember, my mom had just died, I had just given birth, and I didn’t have two pennies to rub together.

As I use in my coaching of real estate agents, when all else fails, go back to the basics. Start small and simple. I had been journaling since I was fifteen and was (and still am) the queen of lists—so I started making lists. Lists of what I wanted, how I wanted to feel, and what were some possibilities of opportunities. What were some of my nonnegotiables? I kept my purpose and my why top of mind in all those lists. I just wrote and prayed and wrote and prayed.

The progress did not happen overnight, but subtle shifts started to show up. For example, I loved my job and was happy. I was able to pay off most of my bills every month. I could take my son on a little vacation here and there. Little things I never thought were possible. I kept the faith and my goals in mind. I was determined to change my current situation.

As soon as I started recognizing some progress and could breathe a little, I would find myself crippled by fear that something bad would happen and take it all away. I would then spiral into a negative state, but I would only allow myself to be in this place for a day, at the most, and then I would force myself to snap out of it. Sometimes, it wasn’t that simple. But through prayer, meditation, and gratitude, I would usually be able to pivot.

I run through my process of pivotry in Pivotry: The Art of Shifting by identifying the steps, releasing old storylines, and then executing the plan. I share my trials and tribulations and how they turned out. It was messy and difficult at times, but that’s life. Hopefully, some of my nuggets will resonate, and you can use them to practice in your own life.

My story has multiple examples of shifts I have had to make in my life, planned or unplanned, and how I went about making those big, bold moves. We are all here to learn from each other—to glean from others’ stories of courage and bravery. This book will display the art of pivotry and how it shows up in our lives. How it benefits and challenges us, but also how it helps to make our lives more meaningful. Planned and unplanned shifts in life constantly happen, allowing us opportunities for growth and development and allowing us to pivot our situations into lives that become more meaningful. Finally, we will discuss ways to execute the shifts.

I hope to inspire just one person, a single mom, a career woman, or anyone who wants to change their life. If I can inspire one person to manifest their dreams, that is good enough for me!

Part I:

The Art of Shifting

Chapter 1:

The Big Shift

At forty-eight years old—my current age—my parents decided to uproot their entire family from the Philippines and start a new life in the United States in August 1985. They were willing to sacrifice everything they had built to start from scratch and attempt to create a brighter pathway for their children and their future generations. They were the first to show me the importance of big, bold shifts.

My parents decided to make a move because the political situation in the Philippines was going from bad to worse. Ferdinand Marcos, the president at that time, attempted to overthrow the government by assassinating his opponent, Benigno Aquino. The whole country was in chaos, and the violence had hit very close to home. Marcos had attempted to assassinate my great uncle, Emmanuel Pelaez, who had been the sixth vice-president of the Philippines between 1961–1965. The combination of the turbulence at home and the opportunity for a new chapter seemed like divine timing.

My parents had been planning this for quite some time with multiple visits to the US. Mom finally landed a job with an old classmate from her speech pathology days, and the company offered her a working visa, which meant she was able to bring her family legally. They decided Mom would be the breadwinner for now, and