Me.. My Head & I: Becoming Your Own Best Friend

By Kylie Ellement

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU..YOU ARE DIVINE PERFECTION

From birth we are conditioned to hate & criticize ourselves, becoming completely lost in a society that tells us we are not enough & need to be perfect to be accepted or fit in, then ourselves judge others for not being perfect! This is why rejection hurts so much, we have been rejecting ourselves our entire lives with the way we seek love, approval & validation being through other people & external things, which are unreliable sources because people only reflect back to us, what we truly think about ourselves. This can only be healed from within, so learning to love ourselves regardless with a solid inner foundation of trust, establishing emotional stability & unconditional self-acceptance knowing we are always OK exactly as we are, is what you will learn & discover within this book. You are the only one that teaches people how to treat you & when you love yourself, setting healthy boundaries is easy because you honour your worth & know what you deserve. Our birthright natural state of being is, All is well but with non-stop brain washing, we can become enslaved to a system that tells us we don’t matter, suffering in an illusion of lack, fear & separation from ourselves & others, that creates chaos & dis-ease within our physical body or human meatsuit, locking your brain in survival mode & overthinking. With the truth of who we really are & where we came from being hidden, that reveals we matter way more than you could ever imagine. We are an angelic superhuman race that are destined to be the guardians of the multiverse with limitless co-creating abilities to manifest our own realities through words, thoughts, emotions & energy, manipulating matter with our vibrational frequencies as beings of light but first we need to master our minds. It is my sincerest hope that what I’ve learnt through my own journey is a beacon of guiding light to you, from self-hate to ultimate self-love, with your top priority always being, to become your own best friend!

With a heart full of gratitude & blessings to you, Love Kylie

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press AU
• Release date: May 4, 2023
• ISBN: 9781982297206

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CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

DIVINE CO-CREATOR ACTIVATION

TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS

CROSSED

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION/TRANSACTIONS

DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES

PERSONALITY ADAPTIONS

DRIVERS (I’M ONLY OK IF)

SELF REPARENTING MEDITATION

PHYSICAL

PHYSICAL CELLULAR REGENERATION MEDITATION

EMOTIONAL

SELF LOVE CYCLE

EMOTIONAL ACTIVATION

SPIRITUALITY

SPIRITUAL ACTIVATION

HIGHER LIGHT DECREE

ABUNDANCE ACTIVATION

SELF LOVE MEDITATION

Knowing yourself is the beginning of awakening & wisdom, switching the light on, when you know who you are, you stop allowing others to tell you who you are with insults, projections & false narratives, no longer able to trigger emotional instability or giving it your power, you instead have divine confidence & faith, as the relationship you have with yourself determines the quality of the relationships you have with all others. Do you ever really know yourself though..Your the only one that determines & defines that!

To you from failing hands we throw the torch; be yours to hold it high

if ye break faith with us who die

we shall not sleep though poppies grow in Flandes Fields.

Published in 1915 by John McCrae

IN REMEMBRANCE & ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF

Civilian Casualties including children

If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime.

LAO TZU

Taoism Founder

We are NOT victims, nor do we need to be saved or rescued, people need knowledge of their own power & how to access it, truly remembering who they are & why they are here!

Remove the fear, bring in more faith, expose the false, reveal the truth

I ask for the unseen to be seen and the veil of illusion to be lifted from me And so it is

ARE YOU READY TO REMEMBER YOUR TRUTH?

The past is yesterday’s garbage, so why in the world would you reach into yesterday’s garbage to prepare todays beautiful meal?

THANK YOU’S!

First & foremost I would like to thank fear & mistrust for without you, the growth, awareness & insight within myself & this book would have been impossible! Constantly searching to find my limitless potential & truth would have been so much harder without you & now that I’ve discovered my truth for myself, you hold the smallest most insignificant piece of who I AM now so as grateful as I am to you for my transformation, I’m learning to ascend through a solid inner foundation of trust regardless, knowing that absolutely everything is always for my highest good!

I did not arrive at my present confidence easily though & nor do I feel that I have all the answers as life is an ascension process & journey within itself. We are constantly learning & growing, passing on the precious wisdom of lessons learnt the hard way to benefit others as we ALL have a story & deep-seated inner hope that what we suffered & endured through will someday make a positive difference to others. This is all I have ever wished for as I’m sure we all do, without each & every single person, moment & experience of my life I would not be sitting here right now at this very exact moment unconditionally loving & accepting who I am today so to thank each & every soul that has been apart of my journey would just be words & not truly portray the deep profound gratitude I feel within my heart for each & every single one of you. Through the cathartic process of writing this book, I remembered when & why I lost a huge part of myself. When I was younger (around 9/10) I absolutely loved creative writing & drawing, it was a world I would immerse myself & get lost in. During preprimary I recalled receiving some really high achievements but no one was there to witness them (so it seemed) The farm we grew up on was around half an hour plus away from our school & we lived from week to week although we were lucky enough to have a stay at home mum, I do not blame my parents for any of this at all as I am not telling this story to be a victim as I am so grateful to them. There was one particular assembly I remembered like yesterday & wrote a story about a mermaid with a picture I spent hours & hours doing, soooo much love & effort went into this masterpiece which I was rewarded & honored for at this assembly. I was completely beaming & full of pride as they called my name to go up to read it out & accept my award but as I was reading to the whole school, I was looking around at all the faces looking back at me only to notice the ones I really desperately wanted there, weren’t, so at that age I figured no one cared & it was a waste of time & effort because it didn’t matter to anyone when actually it took hundreds of children on a journey into my inner world & impacted their reality for a moment to see a different perception, that I created an opportunity for them to open their minds & imagination to another dimension of possibility. Without this hindsight & wisdom at that age this moment solidified an already existing DON’T BE IMPORTANT message as my mum would say to us as kids, if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I’m sure many of us have heard that & I have no idea generationally how far this goes back but I now know that we all have chains to break & this one is mine. So from the depths of the deepest most deepest part of my heart to say THANK YOU & send you love & gratitude for buying & sharing this book just isn’t enough because YOU have not only contributed to healing a major unhealed part of my psyche by you caring it puts us ALL in the flow of helping to heal each other, living in & fully embracing a new world unity consciousness!

We are spiritual beings having a human experience, in a meat suit, I’m not sure if knowing this feeling like a total outcast, being constantly bullied for being different when I was young also the black sheep of my family would have made much of a difference to how I felt in the past but today, knowing that there is a way changer in every family that breaks generational timelines/curses & everything I’ve experienced has been an initiation process to hold the light here for Gaia has me seeing things completely different now. Without the support of my different incredible tribe consisting of a galactic Shaman Rachel, Andromeda Kundalini activator Kerry, tall white & golden mantis race peacemaker Kelly that I am honored & feel highly privileged to be apart of your Earth journeys this lifetime knowing our next one’s will be different brings me to tears of happiness. I am beyond gratitude for you all, especially for my dearest teacher & guide as an angelic intuitive channel past life regressionist & healer, Nadezda Raw as well as my TA teacher Linda Gregory who changed my life & outlook in the most incredible way. This part is last because its going to make me cry so much, where do I even start with thanking my 5 amazing children that I am forever grateful to their dad for bringing them into this reality with me even though they chose us to be their parents. YOU five absolutely amazing souls are the reason behind why I live & breathe, YOU are my everything & all I’ve ever wanted was to make you proud to call me your mum, in the beginning I mattered because of you & through your eyes of unconditional love & acceptance, it has given me the strength, resilience & willpower to constantly come back to what really matters which is so far from hate, resentment, anger & unforgiveness because I refuse to waste a second of this life I have with you on total bullshit, as our time together is way too precious. I know there will come a time when we all die but I will not go like this, knowing that I wasted an opportunity to do everything I could to make a positive difference to help others, if life is a process of death & rebirth then in this lifetime I choose to fully live through love & gratitude. To live as healthily, happily peacefully full of light for as long as I possibly can, to savor each & every moment of this existence with you all. I believe I was so lucky & truly blessed to have 5 way changers (Star seeds) chose me to be their mum & the fact that your soul chose me, gives me my highest drive, purpose & inspiration to why anything matters. You are all my everything & to put into words just how grateful I am for you & how much I love you all isn’t doing it an inch of justice. This book is ultimately written for you & the generations to come after us in the hope that I can help in a positive way with what I know & have learnt the hard way. It is with so much love for myself & you all that I wish you to know how deserving & worthy you are to receive & claim for yourself, the self-love & acceptance, to know & see your true worth & value mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually, to BECOME YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND!!

May you find & discover your truth with love & light

I LOVE YOU

I LOVE ME

I LOVE US

I LOVE WE

From my loving heart to yours

Kylie xo

INTRODUCTION

My life hasn’t been easy, in fact, far from an all girls naked sailing retreat around the Bahamas doing vodka body shot’s singing, its Friday yehhhhh, but who’s has, absolutely everyone has a story! If someone tell’s you your life is going to be utterly perfect & everything will go exactly the way you planned, I’m sorry but their probably wrong, because it most likely won’t. I’ve had the one’s that say they love me, kick me to the ground so hard you can’t move or breath let alone get back up but over time I learnt that every second of everyday of your life is predestined by you & only you. You chose your parents, you chose your partner’s, you chose your siblings & every single person place & experience is for your highest good & the highest good of all, before you manifested into this reality on Gaia, so how can any of it be bad? Do we just label it bad so we can take a back seat on this ride called life with our feet up pointing the finger (especially the middle one) blaming others to play the part of the innocent victim taking no responsibility for any of our circumstances at our own expense, completely missing the priceless lesson’s & evolution from the self-reflection & awareness that is the reason it’s there as a mirror to begin with, to self- empower us to take off the rose colored glasses of denial & to see the truth or bigger picture, I know I did… for way to many years!! I certainly learnt the hard way how to be my own best friend, would I change any of it.. not in a heartbeat but it is my hope & intention that the information & knowledge shared in this book with the struggles I have endured will make your path a zillion times easier because that’s why they say knowledge is power, because often when you know different, you do different. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over & expecting different results, while there is no map for the road less travelled, here’s hoping this is your compass on the path to true & life changing positive transformations that guide you to establish unwavering blind faith in the unknown & unseen with a solid foundation of trust within yourself, no matter what’s happening on the outside. The deep gratitude I feel for every moment & person is infinite, especially to you for conveying the bravery & courage to seek better for yourself with every single moment of your life contributing to the person you are today. With my childhood being abusive & totally devoid of attention & affection also a 24-year toxic domestic violent relationship with several infidelities, I truly hated myself, totally degrading the person that looked back at me through the mirror reflection, I was overweight at 115 kilos & riddled with illness, it was my 5 incredible children that have been the driving force & sole reason to constantly pick myself up & dust myself off, to never give up on myself again, to be a stable, resilient role model for them. Because of them telling me I was worth it just by being their mum & by me seeing them along with our future generations they are unequivocally worth making the positive difference for, I started believing it for myself & made change for the better, taking full responsibility for my own importance as I was the only person it could come from, to heal me.

Today, I look through the mirror reflection of these survivor eyes with massive amounts of pride, knowing that I overcame so much only to respond with forgiveness, love & gratitude instead of reacting with fear, hate, anger & resentment, not taking thing’s as a personal attack because it has everything to do with the lack of love & void the other person has inside. Every single person here on Gaia deserves to be loved, feel important & valued exactly as they are, so to all those that have never felt this, experiencing the polar opposite inside yourself, I see you, I acknowledge you & I am truly deeply sorry for this, I write this whole heartedly for you hoping that you will someday be able to say, the world is so blessed because I am in it & I love me exactly as I am, with so much admiration, appreciation and inner pride as I do now knowing you matter & are more than enough, acknowledging your own true worth & value…It is time to be your own best friend!

DIVINE CO-CREATOR ACTIVATION

It is my full intention to become a clear open centered grounded being of light & love. To constantly bring myself into the present moment, living in the here & now. I will accelerate my

personal evolution with my spiritual team of highest light resonance & galactic star family assisting me in a greater capacity. I will regenerate my physical body & emanate health & vitality on every level. I will consistently hold & raise to the highest light & unconditional loving frequencies within & without to be a living example of how limitless, kind & compassionate humanity can be. I will accept responsibility for ALL that happens to me & if I don’t like what I have manifested I will ask myself, why did I create this that I don’t like without judgement of myself & others, knowing that every event is to propel me further into my growth & awareness for my highest good. I will fully trust what I create completely loving & accepting ME knowing

I AM always safe & protected

I AM divinely guided & supported at all times.

I AM intending ascension acceleration so that I AM a light being of uplifting capacity of divine service to the light & love & only the light & love for the ascension of Gaia & humanity with clarity & recognition accepting my own true power to carry the light & stabilize it here for

the benefit of all to unite as one without fear, lack & suffering, there is no separation.

I AM a divine co-creator with limitless abilities to turn all my desires into my living reality.

I AM incredibly grateful for all the magical miracles & infinite blessings that come my way today & everyday!

TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS

Transactional Analysis (TA) was developed by Eric Berne in the 1950’s & is a theory of personality to help us understand why we do, say & feel the way we do & what beliefs form our personality, it’s an outside healthy perspective that assist’s us to analyze the transactions going on between different parts of our brain (Ego States) in order to be healthy & maintain loving relationships with ourselves & others. We all have a human need to feel loved, safe & autonomous. If the neuropathways in our brains have developed connections by the age of seven, these beliefs form a "personality’ that can throw our life completely out of whack by not being based on reality. It shows us how to communicate effectively with ourselves & others from the healthy position of IM OK YOUR OK

ERIC BERNE (1910-1970)

Known as the creator of TA (1956-1958) He was a psychiatrist, master gamesman & psychotherapist with an IQ close to 200 & wrote many analyst books, the 3 concepts of TA using it as a humanistic system where everyone is OK

1. We are ALL born OK. I’M OK YOUR OK then programmed/conditioned to believe otherwise.

2. People in emotional difficulties are nevertheless full intelligent humans capable of understanding their troubles & the process that liberates them.

3. ALL emotional difficulties are curable given adequate knowledge & the proper approach.

None of it matters, it is what it is, master your mind, discern for yourself, control is an illusion.

MENTAL

Without the labels of good or bad, overcoming obstacles is how we build resilience & a solid inner foundation of trust. Our brain’s neuropathways have established a network of connections & certain beliefs based on our survival by the age of seven. Have you ever reached a point where you’ve asked yourself, why the flippin heck do I do, think or feel that? You have the awareness to see that the belief isn’t serving you but can’t understand where it comes from. I struggled with low self worth for the majority of my life, thinking it was something based on the outside of myself & gaining the approval of other’s told me I was a good person doing the right thing by society until you receive that first knock on realities door to bring everything crumbling down around you. Nobody else has the right to define who you are, YOU define YOU based on what YOU believe about yourself & everytime you establish this externally through others, things, jobs, money, cars, brands labels or meaningless stuff, it will crush your ego & bring you to your knees into a state of surrender, forced to completely let go because our worth is built internally on trust, knowing we are OK exactly as we are & that everything is going to be OK, that it will work out for our highest good. I thought being there for other’s meant they would be there for me but every time I was stripped bare back to my bone’s there was not one person in sight. This was my hardest lesson to learn & its because our survival is based on ourselves. A mobile phone or the most popular brand sneakers aren’t going to save you when it really matters & there are studies that prove the person in a life or death situation that tells themselves, everything is going to be OK, survive the unsurvivable & make it through incredible odds against them. So how is it then that some manage to achieve this & some go straight to Oh my god I’m going to die, this is the worst thing ever. This is the one thing as a mother I am so very proud of! My kids live’s have been far from perfect & to witness them through the ages with the inner emotional stability beyond their years has at times amazed me. As much as I tried to protect them from life’s unpretty, sometimes its unavoidable because shit happens in life but its how you deal with it that defines you. At such a young age they saw things kids should never see & the more you attempt to control