Breaking the Chains of Unrighteous Agreements and Unhealthy Soul Ties

By Karla Townsend

Have you invested your time, your love, and your energy into someone or something only to find out they were using you, leaving you empty, and feeling worthless? Are you tired of being sick and tired of going through situations that are not essential to your life? You ask God, "Why me? Why can't I be happy with someone to love me? Why am I having to always deal with the baggage of hurt, pain, and the residue of emotional scars? What is wrong with me?" Everyone is looking for love and want to be loved. Many times, we look for love in the wrong places. We tend to find ourselves stuck in associations that are often to our own detriment. But no matter how caught up you may find yourself in a situation, there is a way out. There is life after disappointments, heartaches, and setbacks. You will discover how you can break the chains of unrighteous agreements and unhealthy soul ties that have held you bound and captive. By reading this book, you will engage in biblical and personal encounters. You will begin to acknowledge that regardless of your past or present failures, God loves you and still has a plan for your life. He has plans to prosper you and not to harm you. His plan is to give you hope and a future. You will realize that what you have been through can be the steppingstones to your comeback. You can and you will overcome.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Christian Faith Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: May 20, 2020
• ISBN: 9781098022914

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Breaking the Chains of Unrighteous Agreements and Unhealthy Soul Ties

Karla Y. Townsend

Copyright © 2019 by Karla Y. Townsend

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Table of Contents

What Are Unrighteous Agreements and Unhealthy Soul Ties?

How Are Unhealthy Soul Ties Formed?

Twist of Fate

I Love You ’til Death

The Church’s Mutual Concession with the World

The Right Man

The Jezebel Spirit

You Can Let Go of Those Ties from Your Past

Torn Between Two Lovers

Every Chain Broken

This book is dedicated in loving memory of my mother, Fannie B. McFarland. A woman who portrayed great faith, strength, and resilience. Because of your example, I pray that I will become half the woman that you were. I love you, Mama! I miss you!

Introduction

Oftentimes, in one’s Christian walk, we find ourselves entangled in circumstances and even relationships that lead to a downward spiral. These situations are often difficult which result in a strain or get one out of their rightful place in God. The thing is, in our world, we believe our relationship with God is okay. However, all the time we are far from God and far from the purpose and plan that God has for us, we are no longer connected to truth but deception. This deceit is caused by connections and bonds that are formed from past and present relationships with people and even ties with places or things.

Many years in being a born-again believer, I got caught up in dilemmas and situations. They were like a magnet that I attached myself to. And the reason for the attachment was that I never faced the root of my true issues and feelings nor denounced certain things from my past and they carried over into my present. Was I saved? Yes! Was I going to church and active in ministry? Sure! But all the while I could not give myself wholly to the things of God because I was still desiring or wanting fulfillment of someone or something else that I felt I could not get by serving God. I was torn between two worlds. I had not dealt with the underlying emotions or ties that I was drawn to or that I was seeking the fulfillment from. I was searching for gratification and love in all the wrong places. I was looking for it in men and even things, instead of finding my own identity, my own purpose, and my own healing in Jesus Christ. I am just being real with you.

Many times, with these connections I developed, although I was a Christian, I was placing myself in positions, going to certain places, and going around people that I knew were not good for me. But I love God…or did I? Or was my love of God just a façade? Who was I kidding? All it took was an encounter. The encounter would lead to more and, eventually, because there was a desire that I felt was not being fulfilled, the weight of the matter caused me to transgress against God. Sometimes the transgression was in body and sometimes it was in mind. Oh, yes, you can transgress against God in your mind. As the renowned evangelist Joyce Meyers states so eloquently, The battlefield is in the mind.

What am I talking about? I am talking about unrighteous agreements or unhealthy soul ties. We, as Christians, harbor a lot within our soul. It comes from past instances when we were a child growing up, in relationships, violations, and places of association. The thing is our number one enemy, Satan, knows how to use these situations to entrap and snare us to get us further from God and further from our purpose and destiny. You see, the devil studies us very well. He studies our personalities—what makes us tick, what we want or desire, who we hang around with—and he strategizes to lure us from where we should be. And all the time we are oblivious that his plan is to cause us harm.

I spent many years conned by Satan and allowed him to keep me in cycles of unhealthy and ungodly soul ties. I know how it is to be stuck and go around and around in circles, not knowing how to break loose and be free. I know the setbacks, losses, feelings of rejection, hurt, and addictions of being engaged with people when their motives were meant to be no good. People can use you for their gain, making you feel and believe they have your best interest at heart and even possibly that they love you. You read it right. I said it…addictions. You can be addicted to people and things that you can hardly think without needing the fix of either having them around or thinking of some place or something that reminds you of them or it.

But God! I had come to myself a moment like the Prodigal Son. I had to come back home and tell the Father (God) I am sorry and I want to be free and delivered from the bondages and attacks of the mind that were holding me back from moving forward in my life. Understand, I was stuck. Like many are today. I had to recognize and call those things out. I had to be real with myself and repent to God of everything. It was not just enough to say God, I am sorry and shed a few tears. My tears didn’t move God. I had to say what I was sorry for and call those things out—lust, fornication, covetousness, self-esteem issues, unworthiness, lies, sneaking around, being disobedient, unaccountability. The list goes on. No…it was not pretty, and even the enemy wanted me to go through a denial phase telling me, You are not the only one in church doing all these things. There are others, and no one is saying anything to them. You are okay. God will forgive you and understands you have needs. All the while, I was shamed and couldn’t look certain people directly in their face because I felt like they would know what I was doing. My relationship with God was not okay. I was further from God than I knew and, technically, on my way to hell. It even affected my finances. I was always throwing money into the habits of maintaining these harmful ties. I was even borrowing money from any and everywhere just to be something I was not and to keep up appearances. When anything takes precedence or priority over your relationship with God and the purpose of God for your life that you cannot function without it, you need to take a self-check and get help for your deliverance and freedom.

My sole purpose in writing this is to expose the enemy on how he can use unhealthy agreements and soul ties to keep you in bondage and stuck in cycles that may appear to be unbreakable. As the word