Summary of Ken Sande's The Peacemaker

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#1 Jenny was the one who had to deal with Frank, a man who had been terrified of leaving his house ever since his mother had died. She tried to get Frank to move out, but her brothers insisted that they honor their mother’s will and the law. In the end, they had to evict Frank.

#2 When we are wronged, our instinct is to justify ourselves and do everything we can to get our way. This selfish attitude usually leads to impulsive decisions that only make matters worse. But when we are confronted with injustice, our instinct should be to stand up for what’s right.

#3 When we remember what Jesus did for us on the cross, our blinding self-absorption is replaced with a desire to draw attention to the goodness and power of God.

#4 When we remember what Jesus did for us on the cross, our blinding self-absorption is replaced with a desire to draw attention to the goodness and power of God.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Sep 7, 2022
• ISBN: 9798350000795

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Insights on Ken Sande's The Peacemaker

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

When Joe, John, and Matt told Frank they wanted to sell the farm, he was terrified of having to move out of his home. The four siblings argued about how to handle the situation, and eventually their pastor helped them come to a compromise.

#2

When we are faced with conflict, our instinct is to justify ourselves and try to get our way. This selfish attitude usually leads to impulsive decisions that only make things worse.

#3

The gospel of Jesus Christ provides the way out of this downward spiral. When we remember what Jesus did for us on the cross, our blinding self-absorption can be replaced with a desire to draw attention to the goodness and power of God.

#4

People look at conflict in the same way that my friends and I viewed that stream. Some see it as a hazard that threatens to sweep them off their feet and leave them bruised and hurting, while others see it as an obstacle that they should overcome quickly and decisively, regardless of the consequences.

#5

There are three basic ways to respond to conflict: escape, attack, and peacemaking. If you want to stay on top of the slippery slope of conflict, you must ask God to help you resist the natural inclination to escape or attack when faced with conflict.

#6

The three responses to conflict on the left side of the slippery slope are called the escape responses. They are typically used by people who are more interested in avoiding a conflict than in resolving it.

#7

The three responses to conflict are attack, avoidance, and engagement. The attack responses are used by people who are more interested in winning a conflict than in preserving a relationship. They are typically used by people who are strong and self-confident.

#8

The six responses to conflict are the peacemaking responses. They are commanded by God, empowered by the gospel, and directed toward finding just and mutually agreeable solutions to conflict.

#9

Church leaders are to intervene if a Christian refuses to be reconciled and do what is right. They are to formally hold the offender accountable to Scripture and promote repentance, justice, and forgiveness.

#10

There are three parallels between the two sides of the slippery slope. Both extremes of the spectrum result in death, either through suicide or murder, which are terrible problems in our culture.

#11

There is a difference in results when a person earnestly pursues the peacemaking responses to conflict. When a person escapes or attacks, there is a greater likelihood that they will end up with KYRG: Kiss your relationship good-bye.

#12

There are four primary causes of conflict: misunderstood communication, differences in values, goals, gifts, calling, priorities, expectations, and interests. Many conflicts are caused or aggravated by sinful attitudes