The Process: An Engaging Program That Explores Why You Behave the Way You Do and What You Can Do About It
By Tom Steward
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Tom Steward
Tom Steward is a Licensed Psychotherapist in Northern New Mexico who seeks to facilitate the healing of himself and others by using tools and practices from ages past and also the latest developments in energy healing. This book is his latest effort to provide practical tools so the reader is set on a course of discovery, recovery, and transformation.
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The Process - Tom Steward
Copyright © 2022 by Tom Steward.
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CONTENTS
Restoration
Preface
The Beginning
Chapter 1 Transparency
Chapter 2 The Life You Now Live
Chapter 3 The Sorrows That Carve Deep
Chapter 4 Relationship Repair
Chapter 5 Forgiveness and Amends
Chapter 6 Transcendence
Chapter 7 A New Life
Conclusion
Further Reading
This book is a manual that describes
a supportive, encouraging, and nonjudgmental healing program
for individuals who are at unease with their alcohol use
(or any substance or behavior)
and also for those who want to help them,
who hope to find the true source behind their behavior,
in a way that results in freedom and empowerment.
For
The Curious
Who Asks Why
And What
To all my friends and loved ones
Anyone . . . You
Who drink somewhat casually, routinely, or a whole lot more
Or are dependent on another substance
Or have engaged in any untoward behavior
Hurting or concerning others, even loved ones
Or perhaps have made a big mess of your life
And you tell yourself repeatedly that you need to stop this
Yet you do it again, repeating the behavior you don’t want
Leaving you empty and ashamed and powerless
You wish you could stop, but you don’t, or can’t
And you ask so very often, Why do I do this?
RESTORATION
In the Babemba tribe of South Africa, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he is placed in the center of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, and every man, woman, and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual.
Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused, one at a time, each recalling the good things the person in the center of the circle has done in his lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy, is recounted. All his positive attributes, good deeds, strengths, and acts of kindness are recited carefully and at length. This tribal ceremony often lasts for several days.
In the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically and literally welcomed back into the tribe.
This story teaches us a lot about the wisdom of simple people. In our increasingly fast-paced and sophisticated world, we have forgotten to forgive and we have forgotten that without forgiveness it is difficult for someone to achieve the peace of mind that we all long for.
Many times, someone’s bad deed erases in our minds all the good things he or she has done. Disappointed with someone’s behavior at some point, we tend to forget that a person can not be reduced only to a mistake or injustice he or she committed. We have to see the person in the light of all the deeds that define him, many of these being good deeds.
—Jack Kornfield
When a person has done something, behaved in a certain way that is not consistent with their true nature, restoration is needed. This is to be done with utmost tender graciousness and gentle kindness so that the recipient may be reminded of their true worth and value.
This is the intention—to restore the one to true self, the radiance of who they really are in the broader dimensions.
The community gathers to impress upon the one, with words of fond reminiscence of brighter moments, to remember their divine nature, imago Dei and uncarved block. Once this is achieved and the person takes to heart this sacred message, there will be a shift in consciousness, a propelling forward, and a newfound resolve to carry on.
PREFACE
The great fact is just this, and nothing less: That we have
had deep and effective spiritual experiences which have
revolutionized our whole attitude toward life, toward our
fellows and towards God’s universe. The central fact of our lives
today is the absolute certainty that our Creator has entered into
our hearts and lives in a way which is indeed miraculous.
—The Big Book of AA
So you drink. Yet how much? And is your level of drinking a problem? You must be bothered by it to some degree because you are here, reading this.
How do you know if you have a drinking problem? Are you addicted? Is it an addiction to alcohol? And what about that term alcoholic? Are you an alcoholic? Or are you an abusive drinker with an overdependency?
These are just words to describe behavior, yet do you turn to alcohol more than necessary? Are you a casual drinker or periodic? Can you put alcohol down anytime you want to? Do others tell you that you drink too much?
Amen Clinics have presented twelve warning signs that you have a drinking problem.¹ Here they are:
1. You have more drinks than planned.
2. Alcohol plays