Surviving Your First Year Of Marriage: Surviving Marriage

By Earl Jr

This isn't your basic "surface level" type of book. This book is powerful and will definitely provide you with a new perspective if you read with an open mind.

 

It goes head-first into what it really takes to get your marriage back on track and also how to keep it from falling apart in your first year.

 

We are going to discuss communication, setting goals, leaving the past in the past, how to stop comparing your spouse to others, plus a whole lot more!

• Language: English
• Publisher: EarlJr Books
• Release date: Jul 28, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201000868

Book preview

Foreword

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n today’s world, nothing is more frustrating, rewarding and often emotionally challenging than surviving your first year of marriage. In many cases, it’s even harder when you don’t know as much about each other before you jump the broom to say I DO!

Generally, it’s better to get to know someone before getting married but we all know this isn't how things tend to happen in life. You meet someone special who melts your heart and next thing you know, you’ve picked out a dress, a venue and a caterer.

For many couples, marriage was a ticket out of singleness without really knowing where that train was headed. So if you’ve tied the knot (or at least about to), allow this book to serve as a quick guide to helping you navigate your first year so you both can get the most out of your marriage.

Communication

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fter all of the excitement and planning, the big day finally comes where you say those big words I DO and in your heart, you really did. Thing is, it’s easy to mix up someones heart and intentions when their actions say something else.

This isn’t to say that their actions are bad just because you’ve interpreted it differently. It’s just very easy to misunderstand a person that we don’t fully know yet. That’s kind of what makes marriage unique; marriage will definitely force you to get to know your partner and your inability to do so will prevent you both from reaching your full potential.

In my marriage, year one was the hardest. I loved my spouse but we had some differences that I wasn’t sure would be resolved anytime soon.

I chose to focus on what we were doing right, what we had in common, what we loved about each other and all the other good stuff. The problem with that was we never put ourselves in position to problem solve when things actually got hard.

When we were faced with a real problem, we swept it under the rug for sake of moving forward but it always came back to bite us in the booty meat.

We could clearly see that our issues centered around how we communicated, but also trying to communicate that we can’t really communicate actually created more miscommunication for two people just trying to communicate how they felt.

Um…yeah, all of that!

When you can’t communicate, it causes a lack of intimacy. When the intimacy fades, it’s easy for the eyes to wonder or it allows regret to settle in.

This is why when you get married, you should be able to identify why you are marrying this person. I love them is not enough. It sounds good and looks good in the movies and on social media but why does it have to be HIM or HER?

Before I married my wife, I knew what I wanted. So when she came into my life, I didn’t have to play the game of procrastination or weighing my options because I knew exactly what I needed in my life. I was only able to get to that point because I took the time to be honest with myself about where I was and where I wanted to go.

When you get married and you haven’t been completely honest with yourself about your goals or your overall direction in life, how do you know who’s the best fit to help you on that journey?

How do you know who would best compliment your strengths and balance out your weaknesses when you don’t even know what they are?

You have to first learn who you are before you can create expectations for someone else.

I can admit that was my flaw. Yes, I was intentional about marriage, I was sincere about commitment, I was honest and upfront about my past, my present life and future goals…but I didn’t realize that my style of communication was an issue.

I had triggers from my past, just like most of you reading this. It’s normal. It happens and it shaped us into who we are right now.

My first divorce was over a decade ago, so in my

Reviews for Surviving Your First Year Of Marriage

[Lewis · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Very amazing read! Great points and touched on areas I hadn’t considered. This is definitely worth your time!