Life Cycle of the Conditioned Mind
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We are all born into a world where our entire lives are filled with authority and expectation. As we navigate through our own personal milestones, we are influenced by the significant people in our lives. These influences often tell us how to behave and what to think. Everything from interactions with our parents to our education at school and our peers set the trajectory of what to expect in our adult lives. These experiences stemming from childhood could set us up for success or failure, depending on how we are able to process and validate our own feelings and self-worth. Our ability to overcome the societal beliefs that limit our potential is essential to achieve true happiness and a fulfilling life.
Lindsey Michelle
Lindsey Michelle is a freelance writer and screenplay reader. She has written about screenwriting for MovieMaker magazine and about a myriad of topics including entertainment, fashion and beauty for various websites. Following the publication of two short stories in a “Scary Stories” anthology, "Dimensions" began as a short story but quickly developed into a full-length novel. Lindsey runs the blog SelfScribes to promote the writing of independent and self-published authors.
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Life Cycle of the Conditioned Mind - Lindsey Michelle
Copyright © 2022 by Lindsey Michelle
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Table of Contents
Prologue
Section 1
Early Childhood and Behavioural and Thought Conditioning
Chapter 1— Birth, Communication, and Discipline
Why We Choose to Discipline Our Children
Different Types of Punishments
The Effects of Discipline on Children
Different Types of Discipline
Spanking
Chapter 2— How Discipline and Control Can Cause Children to Act Out or Supress Their Feelings and the Consequences
Looking at the Methods
Confusing Parenting with Control
How Medications Are Often Prescribed for Children with Perceived Behavioural Problems
Consequences of Children Who Have Too Much Control in Their Lives
The Importance of Children Expressing Their Feelings without the Fear of Judgement and Punishment
Believing Your Child When They Disclose Their Feelings about a Person or Situation
Chapter 3— School and Control in Elementary
How Teachers and Early Education/Childhood Can Diminish a Child’s Self-Esteem and Self-Worth Regarding Their Intelligence
How We Are Taught from a Young Age to Trust the Information from Educators and to Never Question or Challenge It
Chapter 4— The Pressure of Future Education and Endeavours in University
How Future Choices Regarding Further Education Can Affect How a Young Adult Is Seen by Society and the People in Their Life
How We View Ourselves and Our Abilities Affect What We Choose to Pursue as a Career
How People Are Judged on How Successful They Are Because of Their Education Status
Chapter 5— Controlled Information
How We View Correct versus Incorrect Information
How Controlled Information Inhibits Critical Thinking
Why People Use Misinformation to Discredit Other People’s Beliefs and Opinions
Section 2
How Television, Movies, and Influential People Shape Our Behaviour and Thoughts
Chapter 6— How Do School and Home Affect a Child’s Personality?
How Children and Adults Adapt to Certain Behaviours to Be Accepted
Puberty and Challenges with Growing Up
Trying to Fit in by Being Something We Are Not
Chapter 7— How Childhood Conditioning Affects Our Teenage Brain When Dealing with Peers
Struggling in Your Teen Years to Be Yourself
Different Social Classes in School
Struggling to Figure Out How to Make Decisions and Control Your Own Life While Still Under the Control of Your Parents
Juggling Our Self Image Between What Our Parents versus Our Friends Expect from Us
Chapter 8— Why Social Media Influencers and Celebrities Have So Much Pull in How Young Adults Adore Them
Why We Give Celebrities the Power and Influence Over Us and the Illusion of Celebrities Being Better than Us
How celebrities and influencers convince children and adults to think or behave in certain ways
Why Does Social Media Dictate Who We Can and Can’t Like?
How Social Media Can Cause Insecurities and Inhibit Our Ability to Put Ourselves Out There for Fear of Rejection and Public Humiliation
Chapter 9— How Social Media Controls What We Think and How We Feel About Everything
How Online Media Influences Who We Like and Dislike
Pressure to Like Something or Pretend to Like It Because of Those in Your Life
How Society and Social Media Can Affect Our Self-Worth and Pressure Us to Think and Behave a Certain Way with Future Partners and Peers
Pressures to Act in a Certain Way in Relationships Based on What Is Perceived as Normal
How Social Media Can Influence How Others Perceive You in School
Chapter 10— Thinking Critically About What You Like versus What You Are Told to Like
How Failing to Look at Both Sides Can Have Terrible Consequences
Justice versus Psychological Harm and Bullying
The Hypocrisies of Social Justice Crusaders
Racism as It Stands Today in Society
Section 3
How Television, Movies, People in Our Lives, and Childhood Beliefs Affect How We See Marriage and Romantic Relationships
Chapter 11— Navigating Romantic Relationships
The Pressure to Find Our Life Partners and Have Children Placed on Us by Society and Our Beliefs
Misconceptions about the Importance of Marriage and the Consequences that Follow
A Persons Desire to Change Themselves to Attract a Partner
Children and Adults View Relationships Based on What They Experience in Life and What They See on Social Media, Television, and Movies
Chapter 12— Women’s View on Their Worth in a Relationship
How Lack of Trust and Feeling Controlled Can Affect a Relationship
Using Clear Communication to Help Heal Your Relationship and Marriage and How Without Communication, Relationships Can Suffer
Trying to Understand Our Lack of Emotional Intimacy for Our Partner
How Patriarchy in Relationships Can Affect Marriages
Why women choose to stay in loveless marriages
Financial Abuse as a Means of Control
Can These Relationships Be Mended?
Chapter 13— Deciding to Divorce or Stay Married
Using Compromise to Decide If the Marriage is Worth Saving
How Childhood Upbringing with Expression of Feelings Can Positively Affect the Way We Communicate and Express Ourselves in Romantic Relationships
Why Do Spouses Cheat?
Staying in a Marriage for the Sake of the Children Will Often Lead to Undesirable Consequences
Choosing to Leave a Marriage
The Backlash of Deciding to Divorce
Accepting Your Choice to End Your Marriage
Learning What You Want versus What You Don’t Want in a Future Relationship
Chapter 14— Fears About Dating after a Divorce
Feeling Insecure After Getting a Divorce
How Self Love Affects Our Romantic Relationships
Navigating the Dating World after a Divorce
Understanding Who We Are, What We Want in a Relationship, What to Look Out For, and Having the Courage to Express Our Wants in a Relationship to a Potential Partner
Section 4
How Mental Conditioning Affects Us and the Unhappiness That Follows
Chapter 15— Parental Separation, Religious Upbringing, Abuse, and the Consequences That Follow
How Parents’ Behaviour During a Divorce Can Affect Their Children
How Abuse Can Affect Emotional Connections with Parents, Partners, and Peers
How Parents Can Project Their Own Fears About Potential Sexual Abuse to Their Children
Physical and Sexual Abuse by Parents
How Physical and Sexual Abuse Can Contribute to a Criminal Mindset
Dealing with Sexual Abuse Trauma in Relationships
Self-Esteem Issues from Trauma
How Religion Affects Relationships and Sexuality
Chapter 16— How Unhappiness Can Affect Future Behaviour and Coping Mechanisms
Addictions and Coping Mechanisms
Rehab for Addictions
When Trauma and Coping Mechanisms Affect Others
Sexual Abuse and Coping Mechanisms
Relationships and Coping Mechanisms
Chapter 17— Why Trauma and Coping with Trauma May Result in Undesirable Behaviour
Having Compassion for Criminals
The Correlation Between Control and Choice That Stems from Our Childhood
Section 5
How We Can Break Free from This Mindset and Live the Life We Were Meant to Have
Chapter 18— Breaking Down the Standards That Shaped Us
Being Brave to Break Apart from the Life We Have Always Known
Thinking Critically about How We Act and How to Change
Freeing Our Minds from the Information We Grew Up With
Relearning Information from a Different Perspective
Chapter 19— Why Can’t We Do and Say the Things We Want Without Feeling Judged?
Why Our Feelings of Being Weird and Judged Stem from Our Childhood. We Are Taught Not to Say What We Want to Say for Fear of Hurting Other People’s Feelings
Feeling like People Are Lying to Us Because They Are Afraid to Hurt Our Feelings
Trust Issues in Adulthood
Chapter 20— Changing How We Look at Money and Career and Having the Courage to Follow Our Dreams
Realizing How Much Other People’s Perspectives about Our Success Affects How We View Success Ourselves
The Difference Between Money and Happiness
How Celebrities Affect How We View Success and Happiness
Being Grateful for What We Have
How Material Items and Success Can Affect Relationships and Marriages
Chapter 21— How Different Our Lives Would Be if We Did What We Loved/Challenges with Being Authentic
Giving Up Wealth and Success for Pure Happiness
Having the Courage to Do What You Love
How Others May Affect Your Choice to Start a New Career
Challenges of Being Your Most Authentic Self
Becoming a More Authentic You
Chapter 22— How Others’ Opinions Affect Us and Navigating Inauthentic People
Learning How to Be Unaffected When People Call Us Bad Names
Hypocrisies of Name-Calling
Struggling to Be Authentic Ourselves
How Our Self-Esteem and Feelings Throughout Our Lives Prevent Us from Embracing Our Authentic Self and Gifts and Talents.
Having the Courage to Be Ourselves and Surround Ourselves with Authentic People
Epilogue
Prologue
From the time we are born, how we see the world depends on our experiences and what the people in our lives tell us. As we navigate our lives, we choose how to act and what to believe. These choices are heavily influenced by the people we surround ourselves with and whose opinions we value. Some of our choices and behaviours lead us to desirable or undesirable outcomes. We make these choices based on our experiences and the information that is given to us as we are learning.
We form opinions based on the information that we are told. We learn to adapt and live based on rules and consequences in society. We sacrifice our happiness for survival and security. We hide what we truly feel and what we truly think in order to fit into society and the norms that surround it. The romantic relationships we choose to experience may directly result from the expectations we have formed throughout our lives. We may put up with undesirable behaviours around us because we feel that we cannot control our own lives and it is easier to just accept it the way it is.
As we get older, our lives sometimes do not feel like our own, and we often think we have no control over changing the trajectory of our lives for the better. This can lead to feelings of hopelessness and depression. But it